I'm turning 25 this coming December and already considered midway through the stage of being a young adult (assumingly 20-30).
First of all, I'm sorry that the pandemic is causing mental havoc and economical woes for everyone including yourself. Take pride that you are stepping up in helping your family out during tough times
I come from a dysfunctional family and have learnt to be independent since I was 5 (long story).
Let's answer your questions next:
Colleges & Universities:
- I graduated from an American curriculum-based international school in Thailand and got my diploma certificate. Got above average SAT scores and multiple offers from American universities but I did not like the liberal art (flexible to choose your courses as long as you get enough credits to graduate) vibe of the American education system and rather liked the British intensive-based (your courses are planned out for you and very specialized to what you want to study) education system.
- The pro about the American system is that you have the flexibility to decide later on about what you would like to graduate in and the con is you are not too specialized, the pro about the British system is that you are highly specialized in a particular field when you graduate and the con is that it is very hard to change interest once invested and most likely you'll have to start over. Most universities worldwide follow this two education systems.
Note: I'm not sure if this applies everywhere but in my case, I had to take a year of foundation (pre-university courses) when I made the switch from American to British education system and couldn't just start my bachelors right away.
- I'm not from the USA and do not know how the financial aid and scholarship system works there but I do know America has one of the highest student debt in the whole world so that's worrisome
- I took Foundation in Commerce (business) in college and later discovered I didn't like the corporate world so much when I took a gap year right after and opt for hospitality instead and graduated with Bachelors (with honours) in International Hospitality Management with a double degree certification by Le Cordon Bleu. I would advise if you are financially capable to take a gap year or a few months off after high school to figure out what you really want to do or envision what you want your future to be like.
- University experience is rather unique as you are treated as an adult and attend classes and examinations by yourself as opposed to high school. You are often left to your own devices, self-motivation is very important in university! Group projects can be a hassle and a headache if you get grouped with lazy and unmotivated members (even the least brighest students are more helpful and hardworking -
tip!).
- For accomodation, I would recommend staying at the university dormitories (a little more pricier but you get security and support). After a year, you would have met people that have good household etiquette and can move out together with them to seek cheaper accomodation. The most important thing I think a good housemate would need to have is hygiene, I could deal with other headaches but not a dirty home.
Dating:
I met my wife-to-be in high school while I was a senior and she a junior. So I do not have any advise in how to go out and find a partner. My only advise is to often be aware of your surroundings and take notice if someone might potentially like you. Not to always look for perfection in your boyfriend or partner-to-be because they're only human. Most importantly and the secret to my long and enduring relationship is trust and honesty, the only way to get trust is via honesty and honesty is ingrained in a person's character. One could say that a trait of a good man is a honesty.
Work:
- Work comes with its own separate level of intensity and stress. In school, you worry about exams and assignment deadlines but after, it is all fun and game. On the other hand, in a work environment, there is no deadline (unless you are given targets and goals) but productivity is always required.
- Politics are always at play in a work place (usually power play) and my advise is to steer clear when you can and be a neutral party. Even if you get into trouble for not being on either side, it might actually save your job. Gossip is a mainstay, as long as there is a society or community, gossip will always endure.
- I mostly work in hotels and resorts and I graduated in this particular field but currently, my next job is being postponed because the pandemic is causing havoc in the hospitality industry. There is nothing glamourous about working in this industry, you have irregular shifts, ungrateful guests and wages are not very high compared to other industries but the joy it brings you to be able to see people (often times from faraway lands) smile and relax is rewarding.
- I currently work as an online elementary math teacher.
Note: life is unpredicted and the things you plan out for yourself might not be what will transpire but there is always a way. I am actually finding this work rewarding as I'm imparting knowledge to children that will grow up to one day be somebody
Finances:
- It is important to not fall into credit card debt. I would not recommend having a credit card, it enables you to spend beyond your means. Nowadays, debit card is very versatile and can be used for online transactions. Debit card only takes from the amount of money that you have in your bank and if you are short, a transaction would fail. It is a good way to keep track of your money if you do not otherwise monitor it.
- Keep an excel sheet that monitors your allowances and expenses. I have an excel sheet with formulas taking percentages of my income to be saved for a rainy day or in times of emergency such as during this current pandemic.
TIP: spend after saving and not save after spending.
- Learn to live without alcohol (saves you a ton of money). Do not fall into drugs or smoking (bad for health and a primary source of debt). Learn to live without new things (if things are taken care of, they will last longer and often times, new things are not required, thus saving you money from having to get new things).
Home & Car:
- I just graduated not long ago and was about to start a new chapter with my new job but since it is postponed, I am not able to move out from my parent's place (I pay rent and do not freeload). Do not be ashamed of living with your parents, it saves you a lot of money that you can then used to purchase a small house or pay deposit for a house without having to get bank loans (debt).
TIP: in life, if you have cash, you have more leverage on bargaining. For example, if you proposed to pay upfront, a house value can be bargained for a cheaper value (can be applied for cars too).
- I do not own a car. Unless you live in an area without good public transportation, do not get a car. The maintenance fees, taxes, insurances and other miscellanous expenses will slowly built up and the car ages. It is a liability and not an asset. Getting a new car is better than getting a secondhand car. The reasoning is that it costs more in the long run to maintain a secondhand car than a new car.
My advice in life is to not be afraid of trying, even if you failed, atleast you tried. Never assumed you should be old enough to know something, it is all about experiences, we are all toddlers until we have experiences with things in life. Be humble and things will often go your way rather than being forceful and cold.
Hope these insights find you well. Have a good day and stay safe!