i had sex ed in grade 6, but it was quite limited and covered mostly what i already knew. my mum has always been open to questions about sexual matters, so i'm quite comfortable with talking about sex and sexual things.
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i had sex ed in grade 6, but it was quite limited and covered mostly what i already knew. my mum has always been open to questions about sexual matters, so i'm quite comfortable with talking about sex and sexual things.
Its just a thing I wonder about I guess, if you grew up in a family where this was a subject you could talk openly about, if that made a huge impact on you later in life, being able to enjoy it more, but also easier find room to ask questions or anything like that. Everywhere I was, it was a taboo. Besides the internet, but that hardly promotes intimacy and a deeper enjoyment of sex. Obviously there are sites which focus more on relationships and intimacy on a more intimate level, but still.... all the porn, rude and obnoxious people, etc make it feel like an unbalanced source. Even though there are definetly good websites about it. I`m not explaining myself very well I think.
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I'm happy my S.O doesn't consider fantasizing to be a negative thing, but I kinda wish they'd tell me some of their fantasies and the like. But then they're just like "you doing stuff" and it's like- this does not help me.
How do you open up to someone who might not be opening up to you? Do you go in-depth with this kind of stuff with your partner? Or do they just not have any role in that sort of thing?
*bonus question- do you tell them you've been thinking about someone of a different gender than theirs?
How do you open up to someone who might not be opening up to you? Do you go in-depth with this kind of stuff with your partner? Or do they just not have any role in that sort of thing?
*bonus question- do you tell them you've been thinking about someone of a different gender than theirs?
no ofc not
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Hana-Nezumi
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Then ask him if he's okay with it? That's the only way you'll know.
Like, my bf is cool with it, we sometimes talk about guys we think are hot and we're very casual about it. We never really go into specific fantasies though. Of course... we are in an open relationship. I presume you're not, but you still might as well ask him if he wants to talk about those things if that's something you feel like you need to communicate with him. Unless he's the jealous type then the worst that could happen is that he says he'd rather not hear about it.
Liquid Ocelot
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I suppose this is the way to go. Just need a good old fashioned kick in the pants about it, I guess.
Trying to create a natural-feeling sex life when you can't stop overthinking things is kinda- difficult.
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MayorMudkip
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I understand the struggle, Revolver. When I first started dating my boyfriend he was kinda cryptic about his fantasies. But I've gradually been able to get him to talk about them (it especially seemed to help when I volunteered some of my own, so it was less awkward for him). I still need to pry sometimes, but we're generally more open about that stuff now. It just kinda took some talking and convincing.
As for the gender thing, I'm bisexual, and my boyfriend knows it. We don't address it that much as it's just a part of my life like anything else, but I've never exactly had a negative reaction from my partner from talking about fantasies (or fantasy relationships) with someone of a different gender. Of course it depends on the person, but your partner seems to be pretty accepting, so like Hana said, unless they're the jealous type, I don't see a downside to bringing it up. Especially if it helps the both of you to get some of your S.O.'s more private thoughts out in the open, as long as they're okay with them being there. Like I noted above, sometimes it takes hearing about someone's own thoughts before you want to dish your own.
I hope that helps. I'm generally kinda bad at advice but I think we have some similar experiences in our relationships so >>
As for the gender thing, I'm bisexual, and my boyfriend knows it. We don't address it that much as it's just a part of my life like anything else, but I've never exactly had a negative reaction from my partner from talking about fantasies (or fantasy relationships) with someone of a different gender. Of course it depends on the person, but your partner seems to be pretty accepting, so like Hana said, unless they're the jealous type, I don't see a downside to bringing it up. Especially if it helps the both of you to get some of your S.O.'s more private thoughts out in the open, as long as they're okay with them being there. Like I noted above, sometimes it takes hearing about someone's own thoughts before you want to dish your own.
I hope that helps. I'm generally kinda bad at advice but I think we have some similar experiences in our relationships so >>
MayorMudkip
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(I'm just gonna assume you're talking about sex itself >>) I'm not sure if it affects how comfortable it is, per se, but my partner and I generally like doing the do earlier in the day because we can actually see each other (everywhere we've lived gets super dark at night, but that's when we do it most of the time...and it seems awkward to turn on a lamp, especially if we're not gonna want to get out of bed after). I guess it depends on the complexity of what you're actually doing. If you're doing any more "intensive" play it's always better to see what you're doing. But in my opinion, nah, time of day doesn't really affect enjoyment physically. I think it's just personal preference.
Fearthecuteness
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Omg it's been so long. Sorry everyone. I have no internet at mine so I haven't really had time to go on here. But I'm back now and happy to give anyone advice if need be. 
I think my first time was in my early teens, around the age of 13.
I think it largely depends on the individual as everybody develops differently, as well as your own feelings towards wanting to do that but for at least my other male friends who are open to when they started doing that it's been around that age (sometimes a little younger, sometimes a little older).
I wouldn't say there's a pinpointed age that everybody does it but it does tend to be around the early teens.
For females, I can't really comment. I've only ever known one female to be that open about it.
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Is your partner male?
I've been nagged at before for not being 'open' to sharing 'fantasies' and stuff, but it's nothing to do with not having any.
The problem that I find is outside of having sex with people that don't exist (video game/anime characters) I simply don't really have 'fantasies'. Just humping things is good enough.
Are you sure? How would you know? No one in my age group (12-13)seem like they'd do that.
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What does pleasure themselves mean exactly? I'm confused.
To touch themselves,like the lower and upper half (for girls.) This is called Mastrabating. Or put simple,to have sex with yourself.
tamagotchi
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//EDIT.- I don't believe there's an actual 'set' age range. I suppose you just start when it suits you. I don't know - something about hormones and puberty, lmaoo.
It means masturbation.
I don't want to sound weird here, but I found this definition, lol.:
erotic stimulation especially of one's own genital organs commonly resulting in orgasm and achieved by manual or other bodily contact exclusive of sexual intercourse, by instrumental manipulation, occasionally by sexual fantasies, or by various combinations of these agencies
God, I sound like a creep.. whatever.
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I have to go with 'scouts honor' and assume they're telling the truth. It's not exactly like there's any benefit from lying about such a thing or any bragging rights, especially when for us it would have been about a decade ago anyway.
Early teens is also when people start actually developing 'sexually' around that age, so it makes sense that teens of that age would have 'urges' and tug themselves off.
Still, I know roughly what age I first did it (roughly. I didn't exactly keep a record of it)
I couldn't find a pen and the only other thing I had to write with at the time would require a UV light to read.
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