What's Bothering You?

Sounds like one of those mindgame tests people do. They already know but they want to see if you fail by spilling the news. Like a trust thing. Maybe not, but I know people that do stupid stuff like that. I don't have time for people like that.
that's like when someone already knows the answer to something and yet they still ask you, to see if you'll lie or not. it's pretty dumb.


I've been bored all day and my SO is busy and my friend isn't looking at the messages I sent her so I'm just gonna be lonely today ig
 
I'm feeling overwhelmingly sad bc my SO just said that he's gonna go to a cat cafe w his older sister tomorrow, and that was where he wanted us to go for our first date and we haven't been able to do it yet. so I keep imagining him going and me not being there to spend time w him and it honestly just makes me want to cry 😞
like I'm happy for him to be able to spend time w his sister but idk, I'm just really sad abt it.
 
I’d be thankful he’s being honest with you about where he’s going. He could have just not said anything. Communication is very important. A lot of times people keep things to themselves or omit very important details. I’m sure you’ll get your opportunity eventually.
 
I’d be thankful he’s being honest with you about where he’s going. He could have just not said anything. Communication is very important. A lot of times people keep things to themselves or omit very important details. I’m sure you’ll get your opportunity eventually.
i wouldn't expect any less from him, we both respect each other a great deal. I got to talk to him a few min ago and he reassured me that we will get to go sometime soon so that helped a bit.



part of me just wants to give him a big hug in person and I can't do that right now so I'm feeling a bit lonely 😔
(doesn't help that my friend apparently has her phone turned off or smth so she never came over today, or even saw my messages. I've been alone all day and it kinda sucks.)
 
Nothing beats waking up at noon and laying in bed for 3 hours while you're sick.
 
was gonna post in the "whatcha happy abt" thread but I'm so unbelievably irritated and ashamed of myself and my life. I'm just gonna go to bed.
 
Dang, I feel like I see you posting about carrier mishaps quite a lot. I hate when stuff like this happens. Especially since it's out of your control and you're at the mercy of the carrier/supplier if it gets to you or if they will refund. It's why I refuse to use FedEx at all now.

Hopefully whatever the issue is resolves itself and you get your package soon!
No troubles, yet, knocks on wood. But I need to send with them most likely from Japan cause Japan Post refuse to send other stuff than letters to Sweden and this is 3 vinyl records I sorta managed to find only from a store there and they're too thick/large for a letter parcel. They also refuse to do DHL or UPS which sucks cause at least they allow you to pick up if you're not at home.

And yeah their policy sucks and they always drive it out at like, noon, and neither of us are 100% at home that time.

(JP Post keep whining about covid-19 and the Ukraine war STILL like.. yeah you can't really do much about it other than just operate and they can't just seem to fly across the Atlantic rather than Russia either, lol).
 
Someone asked for my number while I was at work & I feel really bad haha. It caught me off guard and I wish I'd been nicer about the whole thing, but I was honestly just trying to get out of that situation as quick as I could.
 
I feel really bad bc my SO does little space and it really doesn't bother me, except for the baby talk and the fact that he regresses and starts thinking like a two year old. like idk something about that just really doesn't sit right with me. but I feel like **** for feeling that way bc I know he does it to cope with stress and anxiety. so I dont want to tell him to stop but at the same time if we live together and he starts talking like a 2 year old it's gonna make my anxiety/stress really bad (bc not only am i just bothered by any baby talk in general, but I dont like the idea of simultaneously dating someone i truly love and that same person occasionally, and sometimes randomly, having the mind of a child). maybe im being ignorant or smthing, but it really truly does bother me and it makes me anxious abt our future together. idfk what to do lol.
 
I feel really bad bc my SO does little space and it really doesn't bother me, except for the baby talk and the fact that he regresses and starts thinking like a two year old. like idk something about that just really doesn't sit right with me. but I feel like **** for feeling that way bc I know he does it to cope with stress and anxiety. so I dont want to tell him to stop but at the same time if we live together and he starts talking like a 2 year old it's gonna make my anxiety/stress really bad (bc not only am i just bothered by any baby talk in general, but I dont like the idea of simultaneously dating someone i truly love and that same person occasionally, and sometimes randomly, having the mind of a child). maybe im being ignorant or smthing, but it really truly does bother me and it makes me anxious abt our future together. idfk what to do lol.
That's really a tough one, dang. As someone who gets bad feels when someone uses that for any reason not talking to/being around a baby I feel extremely uncomfortable too.

I don't know if you could ask/talk to him and say something along the lines of "I understand you use that as a coping method, but could you please not do it around me because I feel uncomfortable". I think it's important to hear both sides and find a solution, especially if it's about your future. I mean we all have things that makes each other uncomfortable and yeah honesty is the most important thing here. If he/you feels it's becoming too much, maybe try seeing a professional/therapist together in some way to make it work for both of you? If money here is the issue as well it might be a problem as well, but yeah I really hope you guys make it work! :)
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For my own bothers, stores just hopping on the bandwagon and inflating everything cause they can even if their wares ain't affected.
 
That's really a tough one, dang. As someone who gets bad feels when someone uses that for any reason not talking to/being around a baby I feel extremely uncomfortable too.

I don't know if you could ask/talk to him and say something along the lines of "I understand you use that as a coping method, but could you please not do it around me because I feel uncomfortable". I think it's important to hear both sides and find a solution, especially if it's about your future. I mean we all have things that makes each other uncomfortable and yeah honesty is the most important thing here. If he/you feels it's becoming too much, maybe try seeing a professional/therapist together in some way to make it work for both of you? If money here is the issue as well it might be a problem as well, but yeah I really hope you guys make it work! :)
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For my own bothers, stores just hopping on the bandwagon and inflating everything cause they can even if their wares ain't affected.

asking them to simply "not do it around x" isn't necessarily reasonable, because if it's actual age regression, it's not typically a conscious decision and therefore not purposeful. instead, it would be better to either see a therapist, as you suggested, or for the two of them to discuss what to do when they age regress. for example, if they sense that they need to/are about to regress, maybe they could confine themselves to a room (in the case where the two are living together) if they're comfortable with that. i also enter little space sometimes (nothing sexual about it, heaven forbid), and i don't typically actively decide i'm going to be little, but i'm well aware that i'm actually 23, and i could easily act my own age if someone was uncomfortable with it. for others, that's definitely not the case, because they regress to actually mentally being x age. i'm not completely clear on the terminology and stuff, even after some research, but age regression is typically used when the person mentally becomes x age, whereas age play is where you act/enjoy being x age but know you aren't really. (which is what i am, but i don't care for the term "age play" because there's nothing playful about it; it's very much a coping mechanism for stress/anxiety for me.)
 
I’m just bored of everything. How do you make things exciting? I’d like to think I could get my friends involved and have more fun with things that way, but there’s stuff I want to do physically and I can’t with them, and they don’t engage with things the same way I do. I feel like I watch them engage with things in a totally alien way and they don’t care about some of the things I absolutely love because it’s my vibe not theirs (not that they’re being mean, it’s just a disconnect, the same way I’m not that interested in gaming or anime). Honestly, I miss how I felt when I was falling in love. I’m not in love with my partner anymore. I always have to be the one taking lead and control because they don’t know what to do and just wallow in their confidence issues, I’ve been trying to lead them and give tips for months, I’m exhausted. Even my partner doesn’t get that involved with my interests.
 
People pulling colonial/blm cards on social media just because they can. You don't have to be a super royalist but honestly let's show Elizabeth II and her family some respect especially today.

She definitely deserves some respect and I also grew up with her even though I'm from Sweden and not the UK/Commonwealth. So yeah unless you're some ghost of future past from 1925 just keep your fingers off the keyboard.
 
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