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What is your relationship status?
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JulianSG16
Lonely Wallflower
Single and totally cool with it. I'm Ace so my dating pool is relatively slim.
In the meantime I have friends and work and projects to keep me happy.
In the meantime I have friends and work and projects to keep me happy.
I'm single and unless something magically changes I probably always will be from now on. Not in a "nobody will ever love me!" type way, more so that I HIGHLY value my individuality and independence, and I'm very flawed. Frankly I have a lot of issues and with them I don't want people to have to deal with them over an extremely long period of time. That combined with the fact that I really just need personal space A LOT, I just think relationships and I don't mix well and I'm okay with that knowing that I have wonderful friends that I cherish dearly.
Geoni
Tell me about it!
I was in a relationship once in my early 20s, and in my early 30s I have had a relationship that was understood to be short term and was also just a heightened FWB kinda thing. And I'm repeating that again where I currently am but thanks to recently coming to know the term situationship it's a much more specific term than "it's complicated" which always feels like it's meant to describe people living in volatile relationships. It's actually very simple but a lot easier to explain to younger people, especially other gay men.
I don't like people who are in love with the idea of love and have issues committing to places and that often means the person as well, especially if they feel more secure where we are than I do. I could never do monogamy because why would I want to choose one food for the rest of my life when the world is a buffet? Open relationships being a common thing with gay men doesn't make that issue too much of a hurdle thankfully. That being said it really does have to be a very specific vibe for me to connect with another person on what feels like a deeper level. A more definitive relationship isn't out of the picture for me. I keep my heart open but I am also not chasing after it. Especially considering I struggle to make friends that aren't fwbs.
I don't like people who are in love with the idea of love and have issues committing to places and that often means the person as well, especially if they feel more secure where we are than I do. I could never do monogamy because why would I want to choose one food for the rest of my life when the world is a buffet? Open relationships being a common thing with gay men doesn't make that issue too much of a hurdle thankfully. That being said it really does have to be a very specific vibe for me to connect with another person on what feels like a deeper level. A more definitive relationship isn't out of the picture for me. I keep my heart open but I am also not chasing after it. Especially considering I struggle to make friends that aren't fwbs.
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