did you just really say the gender identities of many people are "weird"
Is Not Wanting To Date Transpeople Transphobic?
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uhhh yes it's transphobic if you don't want to date a trans person
it's absurd to me how many ppl think it's not??
also, to the person who says not wanting to date a person of a certain race isn't racist...holy ****, surprise, you're a ****ing racist.
it's absurd to me how many ppl think it's not??
also, to the person who says not wanting to date a person of a certain race isn't racist...holy ****, surprise, you're a ****ing racist.
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This topic's too complicated already.
Look, here's what's important: Date whoever you want. Date whoever you feel comfortable with. Don't break it down to components; don't sort out who you like based on appearance, race, gender, etc.. Don't place standards, and don't put down anyone for anything, or any aspect. You just gotta have respect for each and every one.
Look, here's what's important: Date whoever you want. Date whoever you feel comfortable with. Don't break it down to components; don't sort out who you like based on appearance, race, gender, etc.. Don't place standards, and don't put down anyone for anything, or any aspect. You just gotta have respect for each and every one.
Yeah to date someone who is trans where you are straight.
Not in that way, tbh it is wierd but is there anything that isn't wierd these days.
Also remember that trans people have their own gender based sexual preferences.
Not to mention that your own insistence on calling everyone who doesn't want to sleep with you a transphobe makes you kinda sound creepy.
People have preferences, period.
Not to mention that your own insistence on calling everyone who doesn't want to sleep with you a transphobe makes you kinda sound creepy.
People have preferences, period.
The Hidden Owl
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No it's not.
The thing I'm getting from the people saying yes to this question is that everyone has to be willing and ok with dating trans people otherwise they're transphobic. ???
It's a preference.
Also, news flash, preferences aren't bad. AT ALL. Discrimination is. Just because someone prefers something else doesn't mean that they are racist or have a phobia.
I would think you were an idiot for slandering my food or clothing preferences, so why the heck would you slander me for who I choose to have a relationship with? I'm not you and you don't have a right to decide or even categorize the way I think or live as being phobic.
As long as you respect everyone, then you're alright.
The thing I'm getting from the people saying yes to this question is that everyone has to be willing and ok with dating trans people otherwise they're transphobic. ???
It's a preference.
Also, news flash, preferences aren't bad. AT ALL. Discrimination is. Just because someone prefers something else doesn't mean that they are racist or have a phobia.
I would think you were an idiot for slandering my food or clothing preferences, so why the heck would you slander me for who I choose to have a relationship with? I'm not you and you don't have a right to decide or even categorize the way I think or live as being phobic.
As long as you respect everyone, then you're alright.
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lmao I was waiting for this reply
first of all isnt transphobia anger towards trans people?
so how does rejecting a trans makes you transphobic since you dont hate or feel fear?? You just wouldnt date a trans
like if you dont like brunettes you are brunettephobic
so how does rejecting a trans makes you transphobic since you dont hate or feel fear?? You just wouldnt date a trans
like if you dont like brunettes you are brunettephobic
Brooke_the_Phoenix
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No, you are transphobic when you discriminate against transgender people, treat them badly, and try to take away their rights. There is a difference between transphobia and preferences. I personally don't have a "type", but if I realised one day that I'm not attracted to short guys that doesn't make me "heightphobic", it just means I'm not attracted to them. You are under no obligation to date anyone you're not attracted to.
What if somebody wants their own biological children in the future? Are they transphoic for taking that into consideration when they refuse to date a transgender person, or are they expected to drop all their own preferences so as not to offend somebody else?
How does it?
Different races and nationalities typically have different physical traits. If you don't find that attractive, it's as racist as saying you're not attracted to overweight, ginger or short people.
I guess you also think men who have no interest in dating another man are homophoic. It's along the same line of logic as your above statements...
Fantasyrick
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Well how? do they hate transgender people nope they are just not sexually attracted to them therefore they don't wanna date them? lol like what? this post made no sense what so ever tbh.
No, but i would be friends with them.
It sounds weird for me to be typing this, because i prefer someone who is a girl, not someone who looked like a boy at one time with boy parts...it sounds just, odd to me to say that to myself.
It sounds weird for me to be typing this, because i prefer someone who is a girl, not someone who looked like a boy at one time with boy parts...it sounds just, odd to me to say that to myself.
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the way you phrased that is transphobic, a trans man always has been a man. he was never a woman. referring to them as their birth gender is transphobic.
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i see a lot of people here like "i'd prefer not to date someone with lady parts/male parts" and honestly? if you're just dating someone to bang them that's weird
however i'm a trans person hi and if you aren't going to date someone because they're trans that's kinda transphobic, however we all have preferences (i don't like cis men and most cis women) and i don't really? know why you wouldn't date a trans person? if you're only dating someone based on their sex that's ??? because most trans women aren't gonna want to penetrate you or anything, and most trans men feel uncomfortable having sex but
tldr, no, it's not really transphobic, but it's something you should maybe get over? trans people probably dont wanna date your gross cis ass anyway
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yeah but you're treating us as if we're a different species or something. 'sexual attraction to trans people' sounds ****ing weird
It does depend on a few things, but in general, I'd say no. (This is coming from a genderfluid person btw) It all just comes down to attraction. I mean, it'd probably hurt my feelings, yeah, but you can't date someone you're in no way attracted to.
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oh my god??? if you're dating someone, trans or not, and your first thought is "do you have a vagina or ****? im gonna have biological kids when im older and we're still gonna be together so it's important" THATS CREEPY AS HELL
Well, its not body parts in general, its that they used to be (or atleast, appear to be) the opposite gender is a bit odd. Its not because i want to date someone different, its that they're not someone i'd be used to dating. (that sounds mean to say it, but...its just what i think.)
also it literally makes you transphobic holy ****
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you never say 'used to be' because that implies that they weren't always the gender they really are. trans men have always been men. trans women have always been women.
there is no opposite gender friend
you know i always wonder about getting surgery but then i realize literally no one besides other trans ppl will date each other and its no wonder that every trans person i see that has a partner that both are trans. especially transfeminine people.
truth is, we will always be seen as other or disgusting fetishes no matter how much people try to support us. it always comes down to sex unfortunately, and even with surgery people don't want to accept it. ive seen trans girls (after surgery) tell their partner theyre trans, even after sex mind you, and suddenly they get killed.
i dont really see why the idea that someone youre dating might have identified as another gender before. fine, i get if they haven't had surgery yet you don't want to have sex. but whats the excuse if they did get surgery? how are they any different? and many of them use hormones to make themselves look more feminine or masculine. most the times, people cant tell unless theyre told if the surgery is done right.
ha, if i told anyone interested in me that i was trans they would run away. its a dirty label. why? i see no reason to not date a trans person who has gone through surgery. if you couldnt tell they were trans before, and then you were told and got disgusted, then maybe its not a preference after all.
as for babies - then you would also exclude anyone who couldnt have children, right? theres always adoption. i think its selfish to leave your partner because they cant give you something they want. couples who try so hard for children don't leave each other, do they?
truth is, we will always be seen as other or disgusting fetishes no matter how much people try to support us. it always comes down to sex unfortunately, and even with surgery people don't want to accept it. ive seen trans girls (after surgery) tell their partner theyre trans, even after sex mind you, and suddenly they get killed.
i dont really see why the idea that someone youre dating might have identified as another gender before. fine, i get if they haven't had surgery yet you don't want to have sex. but whats the excuse if they did get surgery? how are they any different? and many of them use hormones to make themselves look more feminine or masculine. most the times, people cant tell unless theyre told if the surgery is done right.
ha, if i told anyone interested in me that i was trans they would run away. its a dirty label. why? i see no reason to not date a trans person who has gone through surgery. if you couldnt tell they were trans before, and then you were told and got disgusted, then maybe its not a preference after all.
as for babies - then you would also exclude anyone who couldnt have children, right? theres always adoption. i think its selfish to leave your partner because they cant give you something they want. couples who try so hard for children don't leave each other, do they?
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Listen...i know you're frustrated about this thread and what most people have said in it, but please talk to me in a civil manner. I don't want to start a flamewar.
MasterM64
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Biologically speaking, regardless of what their alleged gender is, they always will be their birth gender because their very own skeleton tells everyone what they formerly were. If you compare the skeletons of a male and female, you can see a difference since the female skeleton is designed for giving birth.
Source: http://anthropology.si.edu/writteninbone/male_female.html
When it comes to this whole question of whether it is "transphobic" to reject the idea of dating anyone who is transexual, it really is not since who you date is personal preference.
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