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Is Not Wanting To Date Transpeople Transphobic?
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Indeed.. You can still be accepting and get attracted by different things. I mean we all have our preferences and what you date doesn't really have to do with what you think otherwise or what you fancy.
MozzarellaSticks
(☞ﾟヮﾟ)☞ ANN PERKI
It's a preference, but it goes a bit deeper. Sex is a big part of a relationship and being intimate with someone. Sexual attraction and comparability is needed for most relationships. If someone can't get that from a trans person, then they aren't compatible with trans people. It's not transphobic.
KaydeeKrunk
The Late Great Turt
It's preference, and people are entitled to their preferences. Now if someone met someone that was Post Op everything and totally transitioned, and someone fell in love with them and their body and everything about them and then when the person tells them they are trans then the person just leaves them then that would be trans-phobic in my opinion.
No, it's not transphobic.
However think about this:
If you don't find (just for example!) skinny men attractive, but you don't actively engage in shaming/bullying/belittling them---you are not "skinny men phobic" just not attracted to that body shape.
BUT out of common decency, you wouldn't really advertise that fact for no reason.
It would also be weird to do so:
"hey guys did you know I don't find your thin brother attractive. Yeah. He's just plain ugly in my opinion. Yep. Boy is that guy THIIIN! Just thought you should know."
People: "o.k., soooooo did he try to ask you out? Why are you telling us this?"
Skinny Phobe: "No reason, I just wanted to announce my disgust towards thin men for no apparent reason. Have a great day!"
O.K. I just wanted to be silly there! (and used skinny men, as I think fat women get enough of a hard time already)
but I think that makes the distinction clear.
In more sensible words:
You are entitled to like whatever you want, just don't shame the people who don't do it for you.
It's great that you are sensitive enough to ask this question though.
However think about this:
If you don't find (just for example!) skinny men attractive, but you don't actively engage in shaming/bullying/belittling them---you are not "skinny men phobic" just not attracted to that body shape.
BUT out of common decency, you wouldn't really advertise that fact for no reason.
It would also be weird to do so:
"hey guys did you know I don't find your thin brother attractive. Yeah. He's just plain ugly in my opinion. Yep. Boy is that guy THIIIN! Just thought you should know."
People: "o.k., soooooo did he try to ask you out? Why are you telling us this?"
Skinny Phobe: "No reason, I just wanted to announce my disgust towards thin men for no apparent reason. Have a great day!"
O.K. I just wanted to be silly there! (and used skinny men, as I think fat women get enough of a hard time already)
but I think that makes the distinction clear.
In more sensible words:
You are entitled to like whatever you want, just don't shame the people who don't do it for you.
It's great that you are sensitive enough to ask this question though.
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nerdatheart9490
Pokemon Professor
I wouldn't say it is. It's kind of like how not wanting to date a person of another race isn't racist. For example, I wouldn't want to date a black person. I have many black friends who I love dearly, but I'm not physically attracted to them, or any other black person, because black people don't have the physical features that I'm attracted to (this is the whole sexual attraction thing, it has nothing to do with how you connect with them. Because in most relationships that are not asexual, sexuality plays a big part in a healthy relationship). Other people will only date people of another race, because they don't find their own race attractive. That doesn't make them a "race traitor" as my mother would call them.
You can't help who you are attracted to. Some people are uncomfortable with the idea of dating a trans person. And that's fine. As long as you respect them as a person, and don't treat them as less than human because they are trans.
You can't help who you are attracted to. Some people are uncomfortable with the idea of dating a trans person. And that's fine. As long as you respect them as a person, and don't treat them as less than human because they are trans.
It depends on how a person is coming across. If they simply aren't sexually attracted to a trans person, but still have general respect for them, then that's a preference. Whereas saying 'ewww as if never ughh' is belittling, discriminative and therefore transphobic.
And if literally the only reason a gay guy doesn't date girls is that they're female, he's sexist?
Noooo it doesn't work that way!
I mean, for example, I don't want to date women; it doesn't make me a misogynist. I'm not sexually attracted to men, but it doesn't mean I hate men. I had a roommate who's trans and he's not attracted to anyone; it doesn't mean he hates everyone. I have a friend who doesn't like dating black people, but she doesn't hate them at all nor does she put them down. I have another friend who doesn't like dating short men, but she doesn't say mean things about them. (And personally, the reason men don't want to date me is because I'm short, but I don't feel any bad judgement from them. And it's okay.)
Having preferences doesn't mean you're putting another person down. It just means you're not attracted to them in a certain way, and that's totally okay! What's wrong is bad-mouthing others-- just because you're not attracted to them doesn't mean you have the right to say **** about them. It all boils down to respect, and once you become disrespectful of another, that's being phobic.
Please tell me if I'm wrong; I'm just trying to feel my way through this and I might have said something, you know, wrong. o:
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oath2order
#Porygon2024
Well, for some people, sex is an important thing. For example, I like male parts. I don't think I could date a transman, due to the lack of parts that make sex enjoyable for me.
yeah tbh I used to be a bit of an ass when it came to dating outside my race.
Long story short things changed
No. A gay man may have issues finding themselves attracted to a transman, for instance.
Does that mean that the transman is any less male? No. But you cannot blame someone if their orientation and someone else's physical sex aren't in alignment. This thread is about a possible lack of attraction, not acceptance, and that's something you can't control.
would you date a trans guy who got surgery then?
wow im proud of you oath
was it c**ntown spilling into the rest of reddit
/r/news and /r/worldnews is like neo nazi central jesus christ
oath2order
#Porygon2024
I mean basically if he had a peen or hell, just not a vagina, I'd be fine.
Yeah it would probably be that. jesus ****ing christ i wish they had kept c-town open so they wouldn't spread. Isolate the **** and all that.
if you dont want to date someone just because theyre trans that can be really hurtful. its like saying you wouldnt date someone just because they have some other sort of medical condition. as long as its not a factor in who you date its okay but dont make it the main reason you wouldnt date somebody
Again. This is about attraction. Not political correctness.
radioloves
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I don't think so, you don't have to date a lot of people and won't be considered a phobia
it sort of depends. if you refuse to date them because being trans is "weird" or "gross", then yes, you're being transphobic. though, if the trans person in general is a bad person, you have every right to dislike them
~a trans person
~a trans person
Also if you won't date a trans person because you consider them "not a real (x)," that's super transphobic.
-another trans person
racist? No, it's not even sexist or whatever.
It's just wierd okay but I got nothing against trains people
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