oh my god??? if you're dating someone, trans or not, and your first thought is "do you have a vagina or ****? im gonna have biological kids when im older and we're still gonna be together so it's important" THATS CREEPY AS HELL
Taking my words > Putting them in a bias context.
I'm sure a lot of people have an idea of whether or not they want children and if they want biological, adopted, whatever. Some people definitely do want them, some definitely don't, others don't really know what they want. I would go in the latter, so thanks for insinuating I'm "creepy as hell" despite having no preferences.
Anyway, how would it be transphobic to not have a relationship with someody if you know you want kids in the future and the person can't give you that? It's not like you're gonna meet somebody and start pumping out children straight away and it's not going to be a conversation starter on a first date, but not having the ability to do so is a deal breaker for some because it can be a big deal.
as for babies - then you would also exclude anyone who couldnt have children, right? theres always adoption. i think its selfish to leave your partner because they cant give you something they want. couples who try so hard for children don't leave each other, do they?
True. Depends on the people and situation though.
If you're with somebody for x amount of years and you're trying for a kid, only to find out one of you can't have them, you're already committed and it's something neither of you knew about going into the relationship. You're probably more willing to compromise at that point.
Somebody who knowingly can't have kids before a relationship though for whatever reason would be a bit different. If this metaphorical person wanted kids and I assume has their heart set on biological, why start a relationship with somebody who you know from the start can't give you that?
Again, I'll point out, these aren't my preferences, but people who have them aren't wrong for doing so.
