Aronthaer
Back from Hiatus (3/18/22)
This is something that makes less and less sense the longer I dwell on it.
I'm not talking about breakups, I'm not talking about exes at all. I'm talking about when a good friend expresses romantic interest in you. what's your response?
I've seen lots of friendships ended over this, but to be honest, it makes little to know sense in my mind. Putting myself in the person's place, a friend that I don't think of romantically approaches me, telling me that they've had feelings for me for a while. this has happened a few times before, and I've let them know that I care deeply about them, but I wouldn't be interested in a relationship with them. every single time, we've moved past it and stayed good friends. if anything, it made us better friends, because we each knew that we cared about the other person.
But I've seen so many people get upset or embarrassed because someone feels that way and just ends the friendship there. and it's a soul-crushing feeling to see someone you've grown so close to not only feel disgusted when you tell them how you feel, but then put up walls between you and them.
There is one caveat, however, and that is that the other person has to be willing to move on. if they can't let go of those feelings, then I think that you should (temporarily) give them some space. let them think about it for a while, and come back with love and acceptance.
So, what are your thoughts on this? If your best friend came up to you and expressed interest, would you continue being friends? How about that girl you talk to a few times a week in the school halls? That guy you hang out with at the library all the time? really interested to see what you guys think.
I'm not talking about breakups, I'm not talking about exes at all. I'm talking about when a good friend expresses romantic interest in you. what's your response?
I've seen lots of friendships ended over this, but to be honest, it makes little to know sense in my mind. Putting myself in the person's place, a friend that I don't think of romantically approaches me, telling me that they've had feelings for me for a while. this has happened a few times before, and I've let them know that I care deeply about them, but I wouldn't be interested in a relationship with them. every single time, we've moved past it and stayed good friends. if anything, it made us better friends, because we each knew that we cared about the other person.
But I've seen so many people get upset or embarrassed because someone feels that way and just ends the friendship there. and it's a soul-crushing feeling to see someone you've grown so close to not only feel disgusted when you tell them how you feel, but then put up walls between you and them.
There is one caveat, however, and that is that the other person has to be willing to move on. if they can't let go of those feelings, then I think that you should (temporarily) give them some space. let them think about it for a while, and come back with love and acceptance.
So, what are your thoughts on this? If your best friend came up to you and expressed interest, would you continue being friends? How about that girl you talk to a few times a week in the school halls? That guy you hang out with at the library all the time? really interested to see what you guys think.