yes! thank you for this, especially the image. you said exactly what i was thinking.
Women and Men: Ever experienced sexual harrasment in public?
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yes! thank you for this, especially the image. you said exactly what i was thinking.
lithiumlatte
life is strange
This is really.... not appropriate. :/
agreed. also extremely unnecessary????
A+ post! Thank you so much for taking the time to type all of this out. I agree with everything you said. :')
This thread is still extremely relevant, so I'm bringing it back. I just read a super interesting article by Roxane Gay in Glamour magazine, I'm going to try to find it online and post the link.
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Here's the link:
http://www.glamour.com/inspired/2015/04/how-to-handle-street-harassment
It's called "don't 'hey, baby' me" and the opening blurb is "An exclusive new survey shows that 96 percent of women are harassed on the street. And no: we don't like it."
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Sorry for the large image, but this is part of the article that is in the magazine but isn't in the link I posted, and is also EXTREMELY relevant to previous posts in this thread, especially where it says "only 10% of men consider catcalls harrassment."
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Here's the link:
http://www.glamour.com/inspired/2015/04/how-to-handle-street-harassment
It's called "don't 'hey, baby' me" and the opening blurb is "An exclusive new survey shows that 96 percent of women are harassed on the street. And no: we don't like it."
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Sorry for the large image, but this is part of the article that is in the magazine but isn't in the link I posted, and is also EXTREMELY relevant to previous posts in this thread, especially where it says "only 10% of men consider catcalls harrassment."
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Just going to throw this link out there.
Not trying to dig up old disputes, but as you can clearly see, under "Sexual harassment includes many things...", wow, what's that you see listed?!
• Unwanted sexual looks or gestures.
• Unwanted sexual teasing, jokes, remarks, or questions.
• Referring to an adult as a girl, hunk, doll, babe, or honey.
• Whistling at someone.
• Cat calls.
• Sexual comments.
• Kissing sounds, howling, and smacking lips.
• Standing close or brushing up against a person.
• Looking a person up and down (elevator eyes).
• Staring at someone.
• Facial expressions, winking, throwing kisses, or licking lips.
OH LOOK! Catcalling! Who knew that was considered important?!
Everything is on equal importance. Everyone should be able to share their experiences.
And for you, Bowie, to call a woman pathetic is terrible. How do you know what else she's been through?
I realize you apologized already, I'm just absolutely in shock, and felt the need to say this.
And for you, hzl, to say catcalling isn't sexual assault, please learn your facts before posting.
I've experienced many sexual harassment experiences myself. I'm not going to list them for the sake of a long post, but I'm with you all! Stay strong everyone!
Not trying to dig up old disputes, but as you can clearly see, under "Sexual harassment includes many things...", wow, what's that you see listed?!
• Unwanted sexual looks or gestures.
• Unwanted sexual teasing, jokes, remarks, or questions.
• Referring to an adult as a girl, hunk, doll, babe, or honey.
• Whistling at someone.
• Cat calls.
• Sexual comments.
• Kissing sounds, howling, and smacking lips.
• Standing close or brushing up against a person.
• Looking a person up and down (elevator eyes).
• Staring at someone.
• Facial expressions, winking, throwing kisses, or licking lips.
OH LOOK! Catcalling! Who knew that was considered important?!
Everything is on equal importance. Everyone should be able to share their experiences.
And for you, Bowie, to call a woman pathetic is terrible. How do you know what else she's been through?
I realize you apologized already, I'm just absolutely in shock, and felt the need to say this.
And for you, hzl, to say catcalling isn't sexual assault, please learn your facts before posting.
I've experienced many sexual harassment experiences myself. I'm not going to list them for the sake of a long post, but I'm with you all! Stay strong everyone!
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HeyPatience
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We've had a lot of issues about this at my university in the past, and recently they started running a campaign to spread awareness about it. While I think its a really awesome idea, I think the school is only trying to make themselves look good to cover up past instances where they didnt take care of sexual harassment properly or at all. It also doesnt help that a large majority of the students here dont think this topic is a valid issue, and tend to joke about it A LOT. The campaign the school is running is in partnership with IT'S ON US if anyone is interested in taking a look: http://itsonus.org/index.html
Oh, I haven't.
I am extremely avoidant and run at any danger, so perhaps that's why.
It's really hard for me to associate that so many people get casually harassed like this, perhaps because I haven't experienced it myself. Whatever the case, it's shocking..
I am extremely avoidant and run at any danger, so perhaps that's why.
It's really hard for me to associate that so many people get casually harassed like this, perhaps because I haven't experienced it myself. Whatever the case, it's shocking..
I'm thankfully in the "haven't" crowd.
Then again, I dress like a boy, am pretty ugly, and am fairly underdeveloped, so...
No, wait, there was one time, but it wasn't sexual harassment, I don't think. Just some guy who attempted to hit on me one time when I went to the skatepark (as you can usually count the amount of girls who actually skate on one hand).
I didn't fully comprehend the situation or understand what he was talking about or referring to or wanted of me, and I think my blank, boggled look was enough to deter him because he walked away when I didn't respond. I was still unsettled enough to call it a day at the skatepark and go home, but that's really the closest I've been to any sort of harassment.
Plus, I sort of got used to the bug-eyed looks I'd get at TCG tournaments and skateparks when the guys there realized there was a girl amongst them.
Then again, I dress like a boy, am pretty ugly, and am fairly underdeveloped, so...
No, wait, there was one time, but it wasn't sexual harassment, I don't think. Just some guy who attempted to hit on me one time when I went to the skatepark (as you can usually count the amount of girls who actually skate on one hand).
I didn't fully comprehend the situation or understand what he was talking about or referring to or wanted of me, and I think my blank, boggled look was enough to deter him because he walked away when I didn't respond. I was still unsettled enough to call it a day at the skatepark and go home, but that's really the closest I've been to any sort of harassment.
Plus, I sort of got used to the bug-eyed looks I'd get at TCG tournaments and skateparks when the guys there realized there was a girl amongst them.
shinkuzame
✿ tsundere princess ✿
Because I have a very...generous chest size and have since middle school, it's been the topic of many a man's scrutiny. In high school I'd teased, stared at, and some had even tried to grope me on different occasions. It's still somewhat a problem even today in my adult life...I still suffer from catcalls and offhanded comments about my breast size from gross guys I don't even know when walking alone. Maybe it's part of the reason I don't like going out as much as I used to, a person gets tired of dealing with stuff like that.
I've definitely experienced a lot of harassment a night clubs. More than once I've had guys try and physically force me to go somewhere with them after rejecting them but thankfully I've always had friends there to step in.
I've also had guys say really creepy things to me. Some of them I knew and others I didn't. Some examples are: "how many drinks would I have to buy you for you to cheat on your boyfriend?" and "are you a virgin?"
Also, there was this guy I saw often at uni because he knew a few of my friends but I never actually said a single word to him. Usually, I'd just stand there awkwardly while they chatted for a few minutes after class and he would always stare at my chest while talking to other people and barely looked away. While it's not as invasive as being touched against my will or having things said to me, it always stood out as one of the creepiest instances because of the context (during the day, at uni, no alcohol).
I've also had guys say really creepy things to me. Some of them I knew and others I didn't. Some examples are: "how many drinks would I have to buy you for you to cheat on your boyfriend?" and "are you a virgin?"
Also, there was this guy I saw often at uni because he knew a few of my friends but I never actually said a single word to him. Usually, I'd just stand there awkwardly while they chatted for a few minutes after class and he would always stare at my chest while talking to other people and barely looked away. While it's not as invasive as being touched against my will or having things said to me, it always stood out as one of the creepiest instances because of the context (during the day, at uni, no alcohol).
I've had people yell things at me while they're driving by or walking by. ("I love you" -whistle-) I hate it. I pretend I didn't hear them them, even though I can hear every single word they've said. I wear headphones in my ears so I can pretend I didn't hear them.
I've prepared to speak in different languages if I encounter people like that and can't get away.
I've prepared to speak in different languages if I encounter people like that and can't get away.
I've was blessed by the Gods for my chest size, My mom and sister do too, Ever since I was young I always felt stared out so It causes me to dress like a "Grandma" even to this day I dress like a "Grandma" Big shirts usually and never a lowcut revealing shirt what so ever, I have terrible social anxiety and the last thing I want is people staring at me., I end up wearing big shirts and leggings or something.
I had a friend who was bi curious, a girl ( because all girls are bi these days apparently, atleast in my school they were lol) she would always grope/ try to grope me and It was really annoying, one time she stuck her hand under my shirt and grabbed my boob. It was really shocking I panicked and fell over and rolled down a hill -fun times- I used to get catcalled in school when I was younger, boys would tease me along with some girls but as I got older I felt the jealously of the girls and the staring of the guys. - shivers- People are scary.
I had a friend who was bi curious, a girl ( because all girls are bi these days apparently, atleast in my school they were lol) she would always grope/ try to grope me and It was really annoying, one time she stuck her hand under my shirt and grabbed my boob. It was really shocking I panicked and fell over and rolled down a hill -fun times- I used to get catcalled in school when I was younger, boys would tease me along with some girls but as I got older I felt the jealously of the girls and the staring of the guys. - shivers- People are scary.
