Women and Men: Ever experienced sexual harrasment in public?

[pippy1994]

Not anything too bad regarding a complete stranger, but guys I have met online and then gone out on dates have tried to take advantage of me and put me in very uncomfortable situations. Such as trying to get it on with me in a cinema full of families with young children, and another time when we were taking a walk in a park and he decided to pick me up and carry me into bushland. Although he stopped making advances when he could tell I was getting annoyed.
Those aren't my only experiences but just a couple.

 

[Melchoir]

I remember walking home from the shops with my sister, and being catcalled and wolf-whistled. I was 14 at the time, she was 11. It makes me both sad and angry that people have to experience this every day, and I know that, for me at least, it makes me feel very uncomfortable. A lot of people tell you that this kind of thing is a 'compliment'. It is not. Compliments are meant to make you feel good about yourself, not make you feel scared and paranoid.

 

[matt]

Ive never been sexually harassed

 

[Brackets]

ive been catcalled sometimes, and guys sometimes grab me in clubs and try to kiss me, but nothing worse than that

 

[Jamborenium]

eh a few times TBH

long story short some guy straight up asked me if I wanted to have sex with him.
he was persistent cause he wouldn't leave me alone no matter how many times I said no, I was luckily in a open public area though, so if he tried anything I just had to scream really. eventually he gave up.


that;s really all nothing too big really,

EDIT::

oh sh!t I forgot about this one dude I use to be friends with
so another long story short, I use to have a friend who would always
tell me that if he saw me offline that he'd bang me of course I just laughed it off as a joke
because Hahaha internet humor, anyhoo he then started asking me very sexual question everyday ones that I didn't feel comfortable answering he then started asking me
for nudes and to do stuff on webcam, but I'd refuse of course.

I stopped talking to him once I found out he was pulling the same sh!t with a few other friends
of mine, see I can tolerate people harassing me but if you harass my friends..hell f!cking no!, get the f!ck out of my face

 

[Zane]

EDIT::

oh sh!t I forgot about this one dude I use to be friends with
so another long story short, I use to have a friend who would always
tell me that if he saw me offline that he'd bang me of course I just laughed it off as a joke
because Hahaha internet humor, anyhoo he then started asking me very sexual question everyday ones that I didn't feel comfortable answering he then started asking me
for nudes and to do stuff on webcam, but I'd refuse of course.

I stopped talking to him once I found out he was pulling the same sh!t with a few other friends
of mine, see I can tolerate people harassing me but if you harass my friends..hell f!cking no!, get the f!ck out of my face

I HAD A FRIEND EXACTLY LIKE THIS. Exactly the same omf. He was really exploitative and manipulative in general too just all around the worst friendship I've ever put myself through in my life.

@topic: yes.

 

[MOON TRIPS]

I've never been catcalled or anything irl.
but I've gotten the wrong kind of attention from several different people online over the years. ~__~ things changed when I stopped using my dumb Sonic fancharacter to represent me on the internet, but it has happened 3 times since then. most recent, in fact, was from a friend of mine. I told him ages ago that I'm not interested in him. he's bugged me a few times, but after I was incredibly harsh last time because it was needed, I think he's learned how to chill out. hopefully. he's not the worst person ever, often very kind to me, and not in the unsettling way. so like, we're pals, I just hope he has finally learned to not bother me since I'm not interested in a relationship or whatever else.

edit: how did I, at the time I originally made this post, not remember the one thing that happened in my own home?
I really don't wanna write any sort of details, even though it was relatively minor and nothing actually bad happened from it. it's made me scared of that person who STILL LIVES WITH US ever since.
all I'll say is that the weirdo that lives with us is an alcoholic and I guess he was super drunk... and he bothered me. that's all I can manage. :|

 

[J e s s i c a]

This is one of the reasons why i don't go out by myself tho i'm 15 but i'm not as bad as my sister tho... she hardly ever leaves the house and is so pale she kinda scars me. People that do this kind of thing to somebody that is as young as eight makes me question the world... far enough if they were around their age but still it's still kinda wrong. But people that do this to children just make me sick but that is just my thoughts. But i have never had this happen to me thank god and i feel sorry for people that have had this done to them...

 

[Mega_Cabbage]

Nope. People can't really tell if I'm a girl or guy just by appearance, so they don't really want to try anything.

 

[Moddie]

[Post Removed. Sorry.]

 

[Hai]

One time in the metro in Rome some older man (I was 16) touched my butt, which was even creepier because it was early evening and I wore hotpants (which I only did that day by the way because I don't like my legs, but it just got too hot outside). I moved a few steps because I thought he might just have done that accidently but he did it again p.q
Luckily, my friend and I left the metro only about one station later.

Also, when my friends and me were camping (I was 15) and sat around a campfire on the beach, some guys we didn't know sat with us. One of them stared at me the whole time. I have to admit that I'm really bad at recognising if someone hits on me or anything; I thought he didn't like me or something, ehe ._.
When I left the beach to go the toilet, he followed me (didn't notice him at first because it was really dark outside and there weren't many lights; does a camping site even count as public?), grabbed me and told me he loved me (he was drunk but wtf?) and then kissed me aka shoved his tongue down my throat.
I was kind of paralized and terrified and didn't know what to do since he was much taller then me and had some muscle, but I managed to break free and run back to the beach to my friends (wasn't that far away really, but there were at least many people). I'm glad he didn't follow me x.x
Also, that was my first kiss. Yay.

Every time something like this happened I was kind of too - I don't know, "paralized"?- to really do anything about being harrassed and hit the guy or yell at him or anything. Ach schei?e... .___.
I don't even know why I told this to an Animal Crossing forum.

 

[Aimozz]

I was harassed by a guy on the train who proceeded to stalk me when I got to my station not long ago. I'm 16.

 

[UtopiaJ]

What really gets me about this thread is how -common- sexual harassment is. So important to know you're not alone in this.

Yes I have been harassed, the first time when I was 15 at a party. To cut a long story short, this one guy almost raped me when I went to the bathroom. (Hai, that was also my first kiss) But luckily my older sister saw him (she always went to parties with me so we could look out for each other) and dragged him out of the bathroom and kicked the living daylights out of him. It would be hilarious if I hadn't been so scared, because she's pretty shrimpy.

That was only the first time, there have been several incidents since then. But as I got older, I stopped just ignoring it and walking away. Every time a guy would dare touch me without my consent, I would very loudly accuse him and embarrass him in public. This works if there are lots of people around. At some point in the last couple years I stopped being harassed. Maybe because I glare at any guy who looks me up and down whom I don't know.

 

[carlaeleni]

I have been catcalled more times than I care to remember. Like somebody else mentioned here earlier, it's not because I'm ~amazingly attractive~, it's because sadly it seems to be a common thing for some men to do. The creepiest thing about it is that I probably received more unwanted male attention from ages 13-16, from older men. Being naive at the time I used to take it as a compliment. If it happens to me now it makes me really angry because I'm more aware of why they think it's acceptable to do it! I'd really love to have the confidence to shout something insulting at them but I usually just grit my teeth and powerwalk off haha. I've been followed home, had people grope me in crowds, had sober men try lead me away from my friends when I've been out drinking... it's horrible, and reading how many people have to deal with this is even more so :c

 

[Bowie]

this isn't my problems are worse than yours. Everything needs to be taken seriously and solved so stop trying to compare like this is a contest.

Wait, you don't understand. I think that all of it needs taken seriously. There are a lot of behavioural problems in the world that need changed and I agree entirely that things like it need worked on. All I'm saying is that it would upset me to see a woman start calling herself a victim of rape over smaller (but equally important) issues.

umm in order for sexual harassment to be stopped/lessened all of it needs to be taken seriously. just because something is "less serious" doesn't make it any less important. And how is anything going to be "overshadowed" if someone called the police for staring at them?? last time I checked the police can only take action once certain boundaries have been crossed, and pretty sure "staring at someone" isn't going to make them take any action. Of course, if it's an on going problem then yes, but the one off, they're more than likely going to ignore it - it's not like they're going to take priority over someone who stared at someone than someone who raped someone...




that's just like saying some guy fingered you without your consent and your friend saying "oh that's not real rape nvm" like wtf???

I do not view the issues raised here as insignificant or unimportant. They're all important. The only problem I've ever had is women who would compare it to rape. And why am I talking about women all the time? Men do it as well. It's awful. I just want to make clear that I didn't mean to offend anyone with what I had to say. All I wished to imply was that I think it's wrong of people to compare themselves to victims of rape and sexual torture.

 

[unravel]

Thats why parents rold you at the young age that not to talk or go with strangers and you have to be careful. Ah yes I bring pepper spray everywhere I go if ever someone tries to 'assault me or whatever I can use my id sling, pepper stray, knife or bag (to choke them) as defense lol

 

[hzl]

EDIT -
didn't realize we're only going on about catcalling and stuff and not actual sexual assault.

 

[lithiumlatte]

It's a bit too personal for me to share my stories, but I just want to say how it's so heartbreaking to see so many of us affected ;_; None of you deserve that >.<

 

[Aizu]

In the streets nothing really happens fortunately, however when I went to a convention dressed as Popstar Ahri I did have quite a few comments, guys tried to touch my boobs, probably didn't help I was in a cosplay that was pretty revealing in that area, but some guys need to control themselves.

 

[ShinyYoshi]

After posting in this thread, I've been thinking a lot and it opened up some extremely oppressed memories I hid away for a reason. And it makes my first post not even seem that bad, at least to me. It really makes you wonder what's going on inside these peoples heads that makes them think it's okay or "entertaining" to violate someone and scar them.

I hope all of you, no matter what gender, will carry something that can protect you incase (God forbid) you are in a situation where you might be subject to harassment. </3