What's Bothering You?

Managed to wrench my back. In agony. And my partner is really laying the old person jokes on thick (there's 5.5yrs between us). 😂
 
The insurance people rejected my mom's wheelchair claim again. They want us to redo the paperwork again. We've been jumping through hoops for months. Imma keep filling out that paperwork u insurance butt heads. My heart was racing from the news but yr not gonna break me evil insurance company (hopefully)
 
I’m being criticized on Discord (not the Bell Tree server, but a different one) over my argument against Wish and how it had the idea that “everyone is made of stardust”.

Criticism is like a branding iron. It hurts.
 
There's always that one person who can ruin everything for everyone. You don't have any idea how much of a problem you have caused.
Including forgetting that there are actual people..a living breathing person behind that character. I really want to know what is going on in people's heads when they feel they have to do such things like that.
I want to know why!

I hope she makes a full recovery, because no one needs to go though something like that.
 
No one on my unit eats lunch, it's just the culture there. I eat lunch every day because I'm under weight and it's my right? I know it bothers some people but they never say anything and honestly, I don't care. I never leave until my work is done, I'll take 30 min instead of the 1 hour I'm entitled to, and I'll stay late to make up for it if needed. Today my attending straight up asks me "why do you get to eat lunch?" and I explained to her (a doctor) "I get light headed when I don't eat". She says "ohhhh, maybe we should order you a neuro consult". The context being we have a patient right now requesting every type of consult under the sun, but like what a weird joke? Super unnecessary, lunch would be sufficient thank you, no need to take it that far or even comment AT ALL?
 
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I was trying to fall back to sleep after my partner left for work and then received an email informing me that after multiple attempts my new employer hasn't been able to get a reference from my last boss. I thought this was all dealt with weeks ago, so now my anxious brain is trying to convince me this is malicious rather than it just ending up in her junk folder or something. Why do our brains act against us at times? Ugh.

I've dropped her an email and asked my partner (we used to be colleagues) to let me know if she sees her on-site at all today because I don't know if either party will report back to me if/when it's dealt with. So I just get to a bundle of nerves all day - yay! 🙃
 
Still trying to sort out issues with my student loan… I don’t get how it’s so complicated. Everything has been awarded/confirmed now so surely the hard part is over…

also, I’ve been forgetting to take my meds and I’m really struggling with my MH at the minute. I’ve been sleeping in late, not making progress on my thesis and barely doing anything all day. I cant even force myself to go for a walk 😔
 
i started a new medication that's off-label use is ADHD, on-label it's an approved WL thingy or whatever. two of my problems at once i guess, but it makes me feel terrible. i have no appetite, yes, because i feel like crap! mood wise i feel INCREDIBLE but the stomach queezies are unbearable.
 
accidentally left a box of discarded tomatoes on the floor at my volunteering place. (it wasn't in anyone's way, so not a tripping hazard at least.) i meant to empty it and recycle the cardboard, but i got distracted with the rest of my task and then just... forgot, but now i'm anxious the person who pointed it out thinks i'm lazy or doing it on purpose ><
 
I just need to unleash my stress by enumerating the pain points in my life and the sheer insanity of juggling it all...

  • My mom had a mouth cancer detected a week before Christmas but didn't tell us until she returned from her Christmas vacation. TBF, the biopsy results are not as straightforward, but since before New Years, I have been high on tension organizing her appointments and pushing the doctors and making phone calls and just being her medical advocate. (I am fortunate to have my sister in town as backup when I get occupied with my kids, etc. and my dad, too.)
    • She is the model of health and cancer just sucks because it came out of nowhere. She never smoked nor drinks and is serious about hitting the gym everyday and eating clean. It started as a toothache and has degenerated so fast and it sucks to hear she's in pain everyday...
    • She is very scared of the idea of chemotherapy and radiation; her older friends talk about the pain, but they all survived.
    • The cancer may have been detected sooner if she got her annual dental x-rays, but too late. GO TO YOUR CHECKUPS PEOPLE! Body, mouth, eyes, lady parts, whatever recurring screenings you have access to... DO IT!
  • My dad lost his job-- he was approaching retirement age and was the source for mom's insurance. It was already an emotional time when we had to drop the news on him and explain the cancer while he was at work. And then they let him go a week later...
  • I was trapped behind a snowstorm and lived at the airport for a couple days trying to get back home in time for her pre-surgery meeting (which I missed, but at least I forwarded my questions and my sister took care of it). UGH. And now I get to deal with calling the airlines for my money back on baggage fees, etc.
  • My mom is still touting her pro-Trump gear; she has a mug and MAGA hat and spends her alone time listening to incendiary news and I don't think that's mentally healthy. I overheard her telling her cousin about the cancer and blaming vaccines and such... I don't get why Asian parents like to push so hard to get their kids through engineering and medical schools only to end up distrusting and spreading misinformation about science. She's not uneducated... but c'mon!
  • Money
    • I tried to start a vendor profile on PayPal and am prepping art and merch for eventually opening my Etsy shop, but yesterday, I accidentally paid one of my customers $60 instead of invoicing for it and now I'm anxious to get the money back. I couldn't find a link anywhere to cancel or rescind the transaction!
    • I paid for the group trip AirBNB and I'm waiting for people to pay me back. I don't like dipping below my safety net on moneys, but I haven't made any income for several years and it is scary (big thanks to my hubby for being the breadwinner)
  • Kids
    • Potty training my 3yo: unsuccessful
    • Getting my 7yo to do his homework and practice writing: it's so difficult, why? Does anyone have any suggestions on fun artsy activities that will build his dexterity? He writes like he's trying to gouge the paper and gets tired quickly in his hand as a result...
  • Outside the household
    • One of my best friends was not able to join us on the trip (maybe a blessing, considering the airport delays), because his wife is had a problem with her pregnancy-- she's on bed rest, but we don't know if we'll get to meet his son. And then he lost his job. At least they are at home together, but my heart aches for them.
    • My cousin had to quit her job and become a caretaker because suddenly her dad was revealed to have liver cancer as well. This is at the same time! CRAZY
  • TBT: my friend kiwi quit the forum over concerns about how the staff handled disciplinary actions and emotions around the events; we don't know everything that happened and I understand some things need to be kept private, but her overall impression was negative and it was worth leaving over it... she cited several instances of feeling ignored and having her concerns dismissed. And then speaking to people who felt victimized. I want to be empathetic to all sides, but her exit post was removed and it feels like she was swept under the rug.
  • Guilt: sometimes I wonder if I'm doing something wrong. I am here when I could be cleaning house or making progress on other things, but I just felt the need to type out my woes. I like feeling useful; it's more motivating than anything! But sometimes I question how valuable I am and on the flipside, I just want to step out of the world for a moment and have no responsibility without everyone else's lives unraveling. Just for a moment before I dive back in...

BUT, I am blessed with a supportive husband (who is exhausting himself to help me with silly things like programming a collectibles organizer tool) and my upbeat sister and my very focused father and my hilariously tricky children and my nosy/active friends. And my mom, who despite being scared, is taking it day by day and trying her best to be brave and so I will go forth and do the same... 👊😤✊
 
I don’t normally post here during passing time, but if I don’t post this now I probably won’t be mad about it later.

Anyway, I have a band class, and normally, I like that class. But these two new kids joined the band, and not only do they have no interest in actually learning, but what they are interested in is trying to piss me off as much as possible. Now, I actively hate the class because of them, because they were always here, but I’ve never actually had to work with them. Now I do, and they just took everything I liked about the class and crushed it into fine, powdery bits. So I have one thing to say to them. Thank you. Thank you for making my life hell. Thank you for making me want to punch into a wall until my fist starts bleeding. I didn’t think it was possible, so thank you for showing me.

There’s a lot more I could say about these two *******s, but I’m not as mad anymore, and also, I don’t want the post to get deleted. But I have the class again on Friday, so maybe then I’ll be reminded about why I hate them.
 
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So apparently there was an error with my student loan account, I rang up to try and sort it today but the amount they told me is incorrect and I won’t know what’s happening for 3-5 business days… I’m so sick and tired of this whole ordeal. This has been going on for 5 (almost 6) months now. I’m tired of worrying about money.
 
It's raining today rather than snowing, so no chilly winter wonderland music...but that also means no having to go out again and clean snow off the car, but still...
 
Several things I guess:
I just feel I need to write it out, and I might feel better.

Despite actively applying to jobs and writing cover letters for them (spare me, I usually use the same cover letter and change a few things around, but I've been feeling lazy); my belief that I could get another job, away from the worst thing imaginable, is increidibly low. My self esteem in myself always hurts when I get an email letting me know, I am not going to the next stage, which I know happens to us all, but I feel as if I have lost myself truly through these cover letters expressing myself, which has always been a hard thing for me to do.
Like no matter how good I can express myself or skills, nothing becomes of it.

And I really,really don't want to work with food or coffee anymore. I just can't take it anymore. Which is annoying because there seemsto be so many places needing that, but I mentally cannot anymore.

And my current job just keeps draining me mentally, physically and emotionally. I am being paid less than minimum wage, but expected to do literally everything by myself, never hardly been told about the good things and all I've done, but only the stuff I haven't done, something that feels near impossible by myself, because despite making sure I put away food, clingflim and everything, the moment smoething has dust, there's complaints. All she does is watch me from the cameras.
And it's like I am not even allowed a break, yet her family members hardly seem to do anything, or give enough motivation to assist the customers. Her family have forgotten to lock the door leading outside too many times, and she never cares when I let her know.

I should really leave, but not when this is my only job. Which is where they've caught me in a web and won't let go. They all have a second job, and think that because I don't, that even on my days off she gave me, I am sometimes asked to come in. As if my life is all about work. (I've even started making a questionnaire that hopefully will be given to our customers to do so we can figure out what they want, because this - I dunno how this shop is running, its been so bad recently)

Being a creative being, and never having much chance to do such things hurts way more.

I also can't get help via benefits because due to this work and said benefits I was on before, either one messed upand I'm having to pay out my own money for overpayments that weren't my fault..

I've got two more mornings of work this week, I'll be off. Thank gawd.

(The amount of people going for the same jobs, when its in the thousands, thats scary. Thats horrible. I then even feel a twing of guilt, like what if someone else needs this more than me.)

I breath a sigh of relief after reading this, and gonna push myself to do something more happy.
 
The combo of doing a purely sedentary university course and having chronic pain in my lower back is agonising - I have to take breaks often enough that I feel like it stops me from doing as much work as I need to. I'm constantly worried that I won't be able to keep up enough to pass my project.
 
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