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[fallenchaoskitten]

Haha thank you, you're making me laugh but also making feel more confident so thanks. Recently I thought maybe we were going to with music just because the it was low in the background but who knows, we haven't had sex in an unusually long time (week or two), but luckily it's not for any reason in particular. Like we can obviously enjoy time together without having sex, I guess we've both had other things on our minds and the previous week and a half I felt tired almost every day. Overall though I'm seeking to contribute more, thank you again! : )

I feel you with the lingerie...
I love it... but they look nothing like the photos... I ordered this one online and when I got it... well... the bottom part, I don't care, had to be made for a male because it had this huge bulge for a male. XP
... but depending your size i could totally reference you to this one website via PM ((I'm 5'6" 130-140lb and most of their lingerie works for me)) ... I've ordered some stuff and it was only like $5 a piece so if it didn't fit right it was only like $5? it isn't shipping isn't like LOOK AT ME I BOUGHT LINGERIE!! and has cute clothes and jewelry on there too. But since I'm 5'6" I've found some of their cute tops are kinda short on me... I too lazy to measure even tho the provide measurements. =3

ANYWAYS
There is always small things that can lead into sex... like a kiss that leads into a long kiss that leads into a long kiss with a hand the starts rubbing his leg... or "upper leg" ^.~
Just turn on a movie... one you guys have seen or one you maybe kinda interested in but doesn't have the greatest ratings so it's not like you guys would really miss anything. Maybe a netflix one so you can always re-watch it if you want, too.
That way it just wouldn't be awkward silence that is making you hear your heart race... and the "put in the mood" music for unconfident people may even make you feel uneasy or pressured and just make you panic instead of actually making it easier.

Also, when instigating sometimes it's better to have the needed supplies close on hand to help keep the mood going.
If you and you partner use condoms, maybe have it in your pocket ((though it is best not to keep condoms in your pockets! the friction can cause tears! if you are planning on wearing like jeans or moving a lot before it would be removed, do.not.put.in.pocket. ... if in the living room maybe out it sneakily under the couch XP)) and if you will need lube grab it too ((hell hide it under the couch with the condom! XP))
... wanna even play with some toys? ... bring them too to be ready... but don't hide them under the couch or anywhere unclean like I suggested with the condom or lube since getting an infection and having to take meds to deal with it is not cool. ^^'

Oh... and for sweating and thighs...
If you put lotion on... don't put lotion on that day... your legs sweat more when you put lotion on. XP

 

[baileyanne94]

I feel you with the lingerie...
I love it... but they look nothing like the photos... I ordered this one online and when I got it... well... the bottom part, I don't care, had to be made for a male because it had this huge bulge for a male. XP
... but depending your size i could totally reference you to this one website via PM ((I'm 5'6" 130-140lb and most of their lingerie works for me)) ... I've ordered some stuff and it was only like $5 a piece so if it didn't fit right it was only like $5? it isn't shipping isn't like LOOK AT ME I BOUGHT LINGERIE!! and has cute clothes and jewelry on there too. But since I'm 5'6" I've found some of their cute tops are kinda short on me... I too lazy to measure even tho the provide measurements. =3

ANYWAYS
There is always small things that can lead into sex... like a kiss that leads into a long kiss that leads into a long kiss with a hand the starts rubbing his leg... or "upper leg" ^.~
Just turn on a movie... one you guys have seen or one you maybe kinda interested in but doesn't have the greatest ratings so it's not like you guys would really miss anything. Maybe a netflix one so you can always re-watch it if you want, too.
That way it just wouldn't be awkward silence that is making you hear your heart race... and the "put in the mood" music for unconfident people may even make you feel uneasy or pressured and just make you panic instead of actually making it easier.

Also, when instigating sometimes it's better to have the needed supplies close on hand to help keep the mood going.
If you and you partner use condoms, maybe have it in your pocket ((though it is best not to keep condoms in your pockets! the friction can cause tears! if you are planning on wearing like jeans or moving a lot before it would be removed, do.not.put.in.pocket. ... if in the living room maybe out it sneakily under the couch XP)) and if you will need lube grab it too ((hell hide it under the couch with the condom! XP))
... wanna even play with some toys? ... bring them too to be ready... but don't hide them under the couch or anywhere unclean like I suggested with the condom or lube since getting an infection and having to take meds to deal with it is not cool. ^^'

Oh... and for sweating and thighs...
If you put lotion on... don't put lotion on that day... your legs sweat more when you put lotion on. XP

Ugh, sorry about that lingerie incident -_- I suppose it was ok since it was $20 (kinda sucks but I won't cry over that amount...) the pictures made it seem like it was I guess actually skin-tight, but I have a curvy back and it kinda indents above my butt, and instead of showing that off, it went straight down, kinda like when you're busty but you wear a shirt that your boobs stretch out and makes you look like you have more of a tummy than you really do, so that was awful. I may try out the place you were talking about at some point, it'd be nice if lingerie wasn't misleading. I hate places like Victoria's secret or Frederick's because their D or bigger bra sizes don't even fit someone with that cup size. I've gained weight since I graduated high school (as if graduating wasn't hard enough, it seems like the minute after I walked across the stage I gained weight and now have to try and keep my HS body from completely vanishing lol...it's so unfair.) but the band of a D or DD bra should still fit me, and the cups shouldn't smash my chest, it's ridiculous. During the time I worked at JCPenney, too, we started carrying a Cosmopolitan brand and that line's D cup was more like a B. Ridiculous. Hahaha society glorifies big breasts but can't even make good bras to accommodate them. I absolutely detest bra shopping.

Anyway though, I'm totally cool with you sending me that link, thanks a lot I'm 5"6-5"7 so maybe something will work. From what I've seen that height isn't exactly tall, but it's taller than a lot of girls.


And thanks for your help with the instigating! Even though I started going to the gym a couple months ago I still get sleep easily so that's probably what makes me lazy about instigating. We've been best friends for a long time and have been together about 3 years and have been having sex most of that time, so I think we've already fallen into being used to it. There are definitely times where it's better than others but nothing beats when you're just starting out and everything is brand new : ) During cleaning the other day I found an old journal from high school where I read about our first kiss and being over at his house and him fondling my breasts and our first time doing oral sex, (it's nice to have those memories, it makes me feel lovey dovey haha) I think I did more instigating things when I was a little younger, I'm sure my younger self would be disappointed now haha but life is crazy, but I do feel like there's more I can do. We've always used the pull-out method and I'm still baby-less thankfully (I think it's more useful than people give credit for, but I think younger people at least should definitely use condoms), we use condoms once in a blue moon and do have them but I hate the smell of the lube and it makes me all oily, it's gross and I hate having that stuff inside me. I think we had different ones that didn't smell so bad but the outer slippery-ness they leave still sucks. And thanks for the advice with the lotion, usually I only use lotion when I wanna have a lasting nice smell for an interview or an outing or something. One of the reasons we wanna live in a colder climate is so things like that happen less haha.

Toy-wise, I was always interested in a dildo and actually got my first one a few days ago. I'm not crazy about it, but it may be because I know how much better the real thing is. I'm glad it was cheap though. He wanted me to bring it the other day but I honestly said it wasn't worth it, kinda like if you're at a party and you have the option to have real cake or plastic cake, which are you gonna choose?

 

[fallenchaoskitten]

@ baileyanne94
Too much of a wall for me just to quote. XP
I'll send you a PM to the website... and it's based I think in Asia with short models... so 5'6" is tall for them which is why the shirts are kinda shorter than how they are pictured on the models. XP
But they do provide measurements for all the garments ((linger as well!)) I think so you can even measure yourself to get an idea for yourself before you buy. =3

Bra shopping is awful... I wear a 32 D/DD ((which I maybe needing to go to a 30DD... I have more of a pear shape with a small rib cage...))... and NO WHERE within 100+miles of my home carries that size but Victoria Secret.
But if you are having a lot of trouble and have recently being gaining and losing weight, my guess is you are no longer the same size and probably shopping for the wrong size. You NEVER shop by CUP size. You ALWAYS shop by BAND size. Since your band size determines your cup size. ((helpful youtube video that shows what I mean :: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Jk55ep4XUQ )) The band size is the most important thing in a bra. Never compromise it ((VS will try to tell you about "sister sizes" but ignore them!)) since the band is what gives you the most support! And when you have pretty good size breast, you need all the support you can get!

Pull out method really is a horrible method for those who are definitely not ready for kids. Since you have a fiance it's not the end of the world if you get a kid it seems compared to, I don't know... a 14 year old still in school with a flaky boyfriend who is from a low income family?
A lot can go wrong with the pull out method... Like forgetting to pull out, or not pulling out in time, or some dripping down and getting into the vagina, or precum has no seamen but seaman from a previous ejaculation can still be left in the shaft and gets "piggy backed" into the vagina... It's better to be safe than sorry if you are not wanting a child.

My husband and I have to use lube thanks to a wonderful condition I got thanks to the BC shot. ^^'
... ((the kind we have actually kinda smells like candy))
So be thankful you don't have to use lube. XP
And you can get lube-less condoms. =3

But to each their on toys and such. Personally I don't see the appeal of them either?
I wasn't into masturbation at all to branch out into toys before my husband... The thought of it really just... well... disgusted me. I just have an abnormal bias against the female anatomy and find it really disgusting. I guess I'm lucky my husband doesn't I guess. o.o

 

[Cartoty555]

Interesting convos here hehe

 

[Appleton]

n64king and I should queer it up in here.

But I'm not entirely sure what the verdict of alternative lifestyles and orientations (Gay, Bi, Ace, BDSM, etc.) are within this forum.

 

[Fearthecuteness]

n64king and I should queer it up in here.

But I'm not entirely sure what the verdict of alternative lifestyles and orientations (Gay, Bi, Ace, BDSM, etc.) are within this forum.

I don't discriminate on this forum so if you have a question then ask away. Although I'm not too sure about BDSM because I feel people may count that as too much for this forum. Maybe see how everyone responds to this question. Besides that just remember to read the rules before you ask a question. This applies to everyone.

 

[Zeiro]

But I'm not entirely sure what the verdict of alternative lifestyles and orientations (Gay, Bi, Ace, BDSM, etc.) are within this forum.

Though there are a few bigots out there, this forum is generally very open and accepting.

LGBTQA Discussion and Support Thread
LGBTQIA+ Community Group​

You have to wait for approval to join the Group. And I'm not sure about the BDSM lmao.

If you're going to be negative about people's sexuality then I won't allow you to be on here.

 

[Cyan507]

I think we need to change the way we look at sex, relationships and dating in general. I looked at the crushes thread and there are a lot of people that are unsure about asking out someone for the first time. Given the recent acts of misogyny I think boys should be told at a very young age that no means no. A lot of Sex Ed material catered to kids only covers intercourse, contraception and pregnancy. There is a taboo on rape and I feel if the culprits are caught at a younger age the statistics can be altered hugely. What you grow up with shapes you and if you grow believing that forcing someone into sex is wrong, then that will likely stay with you.

 

[n64king]

n64king and I should queer it up in here.

But I'm not entirely sure what the verdict of alternative lifestyles and orientations (Gay, Bi, Ace, BDSM, etc.) are within this forum.

Lol Queer it up. I'm not trying to discuss my goodies and what I'm doing with them, with people on here.

I was just teasing earlier, in case what I read was someone getting upset. Discuss what you will, that's why the thread is here no?

 

[oath2order]

I don't discriminate on this forum so if you have a question then ask away. Although I'm not too sure about BDSM because I feel people may count that as too much for this forum. Maybe see how everyone responds to this question. Besides that just remember to read the rules before you ask a question. This applies to everyone.

This thread is watched by the mods a lot to make sure it's not too bad.

 

[Fearthecuteness]

This thread is watched by the mods a lot to make sure it's not too bad.

That is true but I don't want them to have to delete posts so often they get fed up and block this thread. Although I guess things like that should be fine as long as it's nothing too bad. I have been thinking about it and maybe BDSM should be involved in the thread because if people are going to try new things like that they need to learn about the safety of it first.

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I'm actually in need for advice in this thread.

When I'm on top during sex my legs start to ache after a while. Does anybody have any advice on how I can stop my legs from aching?

 

[radical6]

dunno if this goes here but tbh i feel really uncomfortable when people compliment my legs or say anything sexual about them. It's really awkward because one guy was like "dem legs" and he was like 17 so im like ummmm but i dont think i can cover them up unless i wear jeans 24/7 so idk what to do.

 

[KingofHearts]

This is very brave of you to make a sex thread. I'm so glad to see after 54 pages its still going.

While I'm no expert on this, I give really good advice on relationships/sex. If anyone has questions feel free to PM me.

I like it when I get compliments on my butt. ;P

 

[Fearthecuteness]

Thanks.

 

[fallenchaoskitten]

I'm actually in need for advice in this thread.

When I'm on top during sex my legs start to ache after a while. Does anybody have any advice on how I can stop my legs from aching?

You don't have enough leg muscles.
Sex actually requires a lot of effort and can actually build muscle and endurance... but to generalize for a moment, women are for the most part are on bottom and don't have to worry about that as much since they don't have to do as much "work" for their muscles to get sore. ^^'
I mean there are positions my husband and I have tried where he has complained his legs have hurt or were sore and we had to change before. XP

My advice is to build your leg muscle. I don't have much trouble on top because I do have leg muscles... I may have like zero upper boy strength but my legs are strong ((despite having bad knees >.>))... Do wall sits, squads, lunges, etc. Just different things to build different muscles throughout your legs. It will give them strength and endurance.
My 2nd advice is to stretch. Not really has to be like right before hand but like maybe do morning stretches as a new thing? It will start getting your muscles limber so when it comes to them actually working then they will be less sore during and afterwards... I mean... it's always an awful idea to just start doing a hardcore workout outta nowhere with no warmup stretches. You get sore much easier and could hurt yourself... so it makes sense to start stretching, right?
My 3rd advice is try different positions while being on top. Different ones have your legs bending and sitting differently, making different muscles work at different times... I mean we all aren't super woman here. Our legs and our bodies get tired... some positions will naturally be easier on our bodies than others will. Find out when one will be easier on your body and stick to that one kinda for now before branching into the other ones.

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dunno if this goes here but tbh i feel really uncomfortable when people compliment my legs or say anything sexual about them. It's really awkward because one guy was like "dem legs" and he was like 17 so im like ummmm but i dont think i can cover them up unless i wear jeans 24/7 so idk what to do.

... I'm pretty sure I would have said "and des legs will kick you across your ****ing face if you don't mind your own damn business"
... but that's just me...

It's important to stand up for yourself.
Because one day you may find yourself against a sexual predator... and they pray on those who are quite, mink, and won't fight back.
If you stand up and fight back, you are less likely to become another one of the many victims there are today.

 

[Fearthecuteness]

Good advice. I have been started walking loads most days (trying to reach my goal) so hopefully I'll gain muscles in my legs. To be honest I don't think I have enough muscles in any part of my body. Anything that requires the slightest strength I'm awful at. XD

 

[KarlaKGB]

It's important to stand up for yourself.
Because one day you may find yourself against a sexual predator... and they pray on those who are quite, mink, and won't fight back.
If you stand up and fight back, you are less likely to become another one of the many victims there are today.

This. Society has become weak, with children being raised with the mindset that their safety is not their responsibility, and that someone else will look after them. When people attempt to give advice to victims of sexual assault on how they can minimise the risk to them, they're accused of victim blaming and misogyny. It's insulting and degrading to be told that as a man, I am a brute and my default behaviour is to rape. Preaching about educating men not to rape is no substitute for taking precautions to ensure your own safety. You may have every right to walk down a street late at night barely clothed and completely drunk, just as I have every right to leave my house unlocked, but you have to recognise there are bad people in the world who will take advantage of vulnerabilities.

 

[xXObliterationXx]

It burns calories as well!

 

[Fearthecuteness]

What does?

 

[Liquid Ocelot]

WEIRDEST THING but-

I kind of get put off when boyfriend gets all romantic before/during/after. He'll say stuff like 'I love you, you're the best thing that's ever happened to me, you make me so happy' and those are all very nice things to hear, but it breaks my- concentration, I guess you'd say? I mean, he's a lover, and I don't want to tell him not to express himself but-

I am trying to do things and maintain a mood. He has the rest of the day to tell me that kind of stuff, and I feel the same way but please. ; ;