Fearthecuteness
Oh hai mark
Hmm, this is a hard one to help with. Maybe you speak to him about it.
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To each their own, I suppose.
Fearthecuteness
Oh hai mark
So. . . Just a bump to remind people this thread is here in case anyone needs help.
Hana-Nezumi
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This is a bit of a complicated thing... Hard to explain it but I'll try my best.
In my experience I've learned that some people tend to think of sex as being something romantic and intimate. They think of it as "making love" and see sex and love as practically indistinguishable. While other people see sex and romance as being separate things, feeling that sex can definitely feel better when there is a bond between two people, but the pleasure that comes from it is definitely distinct from love. People who can't separate sex and love in their minds tend to feel very strongly about it and may feel hurt or threatened if suggested to do otherwise. While people who think of them separately may find it hard to understand the way those others think, and might feel uncomfortable if someone tries to be too intimate and romantic during sex.
Sex should be satisfying for both you and him, though, so you need to talk with him about it. You just need to be careful and find a way to explain it in a way that makes it clear that it's not because you don't love him, but because you just desire a more carnal and animalistic experience when it comes to sex, and you'd like to save the mushy stuff for later.
Lol don't be embarrassed, I also from time to time accidentally scratch or bump with my teeth. Last night it happened, but it didn't hurt him. I suggest possibly opening your mouth more? Maybe use more tongue lol can't believe I'm saying this stuff.
I'll try that, thank you
It's just kind of so big that it doesn't really fit- wait, I'll stop freaking myself out now.
Just gaaaah >.<
CookingOkasan
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I normally stay away from this thread but I haven't boinked anyone in like 4 months and I'm going to die pretty soon because of it.
CookingOkasan
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Unless you have no hands, I don't see any major problems?
idk I just need a cutie that will let me go down on her for hours or something.
BYE. CYA. Leaving this thread forever hahahaha
also on the real:
ladies, especially you who are just becoming sexually active... Don't think that oral intimacy is a one way street. If your guy is accepting of oral, you best believe that he should be more than willing to do the same for you.
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MayorMudkip
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Seconding what Ahri said, but just also want to put out there that communication really is key. When I'm going down on my guy I'll frequently ask him if what I'm doing feels good/if her wants me to change anything, etc. If you're worried you're hurting him or are going to hurt him, ask him to let you know if you do/are, and if he has anything to suggest. Obviously he wants to feel good, so he should be up for telling you what's going to make him feel that way. Also just a general protip (lol, puns) for blowjobs: don't be afraid to use your hands! Using your fingers and your mouth at the same time can be really rad. But the best advice is not to worry! Relax, talk to your partner, and don't be afraid to take your time. It's something you get better at over time.
Edit: the rules are pretty much the same for going down on girls too in case anyone was wondering >>
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Fearthecuteness
Oh hai mark
I would give the same advice as everyone else here. Communication is the key and I would suggest using more tongue. One thing you could do is use your hands on him like you would with a handjob and just keep licking the tip. That way you definitely won't catch your teeth on him.
On my general links you could go on realtalksexadvice. It's actually a tumblr page but I've seen people post on there about blowjobs. They've given quite a few tips about it too and if you are on tumblr you could always ask them what to do because you can ask them anonymously.
On my general links you could go on realtalksexadvice. It's actually a tumblr page but I've seen people post on there about blowjobs. They've given quite a few tips about it too and if you are on tumblr you could always ask them what to do because you can ask them anonymously.
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Liquid Ocelot
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I can't deal with my control/trust issues.
I can't handle giving up control, not even a little bit. It's not that I want to 'dominate' him or anything, I just want- to not feel so nervous and have fun, you know? I want it to be awesome for both of us, but I have a hard time staying comfortable.
Oh, and I have frequent fantasies about other guys. Ha. Because I can control fantasies. They're not real people, so they don't have to be a part of my life afterwards or affect my feelings, you know?
idk what I'm going for.
I can't handle giving up control, not even a little bit. It's not that I want to 'dominate' him or anything, I just want- to not feel so nervous and have fun, you know? I want it to be awesome for both of us, but I have a hard time staying comfortable.
Oh, and I have frequent fantasies about other guys. Ha. Because I can control fantasies. They're not real people, so they don't have to be a part of my life afterwards or affect my feelings, you know?
idk what I'm going for.
Fearthecuteness
Oh hai mark
Well first of all don't worry. Most people are genuinely dominant or submissive. Someone I know is usually dominant but tried being submissive once and just got bored. Everyone has a preference and different ways of enjoying sex.
You say you can't handle it if you're not in control but how bad is it? Do you just not enjoy it or is it worse then that? If you really can't handle it that much maybe it's something psychologically that's making you feel like this.
Have you been in a hurtful relationship in the past?
You say you can't handle it if you're not in control but how bad is it? Do you just not enjoy it or is it worse then that? If you really can't handle it that much maybe it's something psychologically that's making you feel like this.
Have you been in a hurtful relationship in the past?
Liquid Ocelot
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I had an- and I hate to use this term, but "emotionally abusive" relationship with a girl before? She was not the greatest, but we didn't even get around to having sex, so idk what that's about.
I just sjghskjg; I try so hard to keep things equal with me and boyfriend. Honestly, I'm scared of getting carried away somehow? Idk. I love him bunches. ; 3; I don't want to scare him, but at the same time, being passive kinda makes me uncomfortable.
Fearthecuteness
Oh hai mark
My guess is that is what's caused this. Maybe you should should get some professional help to help you get over the past. That would be my advice anyway. Sorry if I'm not much help. :/
Liquid Ocelot
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I am. Lol. Mostly for other things, but that too, kinda.
You are perfect help. It's nice just to vent sometimes.
Fearthecuteness
Oh hai mark
Well that's good that you're getting help. Hope it all goes well.
Hope it all goes well.
Crazy-Gamer
a bit of a newbie ^3^
what is your ex-gfs name and how many times can i kick her in the face?
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