There is a long, but complete guide here:
http://www.belltreeforums.com/showthread.php?82107-Guide-Fool-Proof-Guide-to-Moving-Villagers-OUT
It covers pretty much everything you should know!
Good luck moving the villager out!
dive trick helps with pings
dive trick helps with pings
I would recommend to just save & quit, then reload your game. It's much faster.