while this may be irritating and sound super childish, i feel like I've had a bad day in the friend department and want advice and just to rant. who doesn't love hearing about petty arguments a group of teenage girls have had, right?
I have a friendship group, a squad, if you must, that I've been part of for about a year, but recently this group has expanded a bit and me and my best friend have been pretty much replaced. These people who have rained on our parade happen to be tolerable, decent people, even though i've had complications with one of them in the past.
As it happens, i've been excluded a lot when it comes to 'seat-saving'. Everyone will save a seat for everyone but me. My best friend isn't in the class where this occurs, however she is in my gym class where the same thing happens but to both of us.
Everyone in my group is two-faced to say the least. As you'd expect in a group of adolescent females, we sometimes argue with each other. Sometimes, they're super serious and i'm not much of a forgiver, however everyone else is. They're mouthing off about someone one second, but smiling and fine with them the next. Sometimes, i don't blame them. it's probably a lot easier that way, but I just can't fathom how someone can be so fake.
I've always been at the bottom of the food chain in this friendship group, my best friend usually at the top. She is bossy. Sure, it's a friendship group and not a hierarchy, but there's seldom a difference between the two.
I was pretty annoyed at my supposed 'friends' excluding me and since being nice got me no where, i decided to confront them. I was sick of ignoring my own morals to suit everyone else's.
I spoke to my best friend about how i wasn't too pleased about it and she went to every length to back-stab their every action, and tell me it wasn't okay.
In a normal friendship, this is a sign of understanding and a signal saying 'i'm with you, i've got your back'.
No, she's completely fine the next day (today) and when it comes to the confrontation, she's sharing glances with one of the girls (who she's obsessed with rn) and claiming she doesn't mind and has nothing to do with it.
So i decided to scold her while i'm at it. A bit of an impulse choice, but i was getting pretty tired of having someone who calls me their best friend yet has no integrity or loyalty.
The conversation went a bit like this:
GIRL1: so you were fine last time but now you're not?
BEST FRIEND: *shares ridiculing glance with GIRL1 and whispers 'what's she on about?'*
ME: well yeah, i'm not exactly going to pull a [insert BESTFRIEND's name here] am I?
BEST FRIEND: A what?
ME: you know. when you're kicking someone up the balls for something they've done and then you're fine the next day? i'm just not that kind of person.
BEST FRIEND: omg how dare you i sacrifice GOOD FRIENDSHIPS FOR YOU and stick up for you ALL THE TIME
what she means by 'good friendships' is this one time where another one of my friends made me cry and yelled at me for no reason, and then my friend just stood there, watched me cry, ran after me 10 minutes later and told her that this girl is horrible and threw every insult her way for about a minute.
From this, you'd obviously expect that she is mad at this girl, and she didn't at all make it seem like what she had with this girl was a 'good friendship'. she didn't speak to her for a few hours, but only after this girl said something to her herself. then she was fine with her. and that's just about all the sticking up for me she's ever done.
now she's told every single soul in the school that i'm horrible for actually saying something once ever and she isn't even incognito about it. i've literally heard her from the lengths of the corridor mouthing me off, and i haven't even told one person about the situation at hand (except my mum lol)
GIRL1 felt like my entire confrontation was aimed at just her, which probably suggests a guilty conscience.
a few of my friends were really nice and mature about my confrontation and apologised and explained that they didn't want to leave me out etc, and i'm fine with them. once they've apologised, there's not much more they can do, right?
i should probably find some new friends. i have no one to fall back on because i'm kind of a loner without them.
help?
I have a friendship group, a squad, if you must, that I've been part of for about a year, but recently this group has expanded a bit and me and my best friend have been pretty much replaced. These people who have rained on our parade happen to be tolerable, decent people, even though i've had complications with one of them in the past.
As it happens, i've been excluded a lot when it comes to 'seat-saving'. Everyone will save a seat for everyone but me. My best friend isn't in the class where this occurs, however she is in my gym class where the same thing happens but to both of us.
Everyone in my group is two-faced to say the least. As you'd expect in a group of adolescent females, we sometimes argue with each other. Sometimes, they're super serious and i'm not much of a forgiver, however everyone else is. They're mouthing off about someone one second, but smiling and fine with them the next. Sometimes, i don't blame them. it's probably a lot easier that way, but I just can't fathom how someone can be so fake.
I've always been at the bottom of the food chain in this friendship group, my best friend usually at the top. She is bossy. Sure, it's a friendship group and not a hierarchy, but there's seldom a difference between the two.
I was pretty annoyed at my supposed 'friends' excluding me and since being nice got me no where, i decided to confront them. I was sick of ignoring my own morals to suit everyone else's.
I spoke to my best friend about how i wasn't too pleased about it and she went to every length to back-stab their every action, and tell me it wasn't okay.
In a normal friendship, this is a sign of understanding and a signal saying 'i'm with you, i've got your back'.
No, she's completely fine the next day (today) and when it comes to the confrontation, she's sharing glances with one of the girls (who she's obsessed with rn) and claiming she doesn't mind and has nothing to do with it.
So i decided to scold her while i'm at it. A bit of an impulse choice, but i was getting pretty tired of having someone who calls me their best friend yet has no integrity or loyalty.
The conversation went a bit like this:
GIRL1: so you were fine last time but now you're not?
BEST FRIEND: *shares ridiculing glance with GIRL1 and whispers 'what's she on about?'*
ME: well yeah, i'm not exactly going to pull a [insert BESTFRIEND's name here] am I?
BEST FRIEND: A what?
ME: you know. when you're kicking someone up the balls for something they've done and then you're fine the next day? i'm just not that kind of person.
BEST FRIEND: omg how dare you i sacrifice GOOD FRIENDSHIPS FOR YOU and stick up for you ALL THE TIME
what she means by 'good friendships' is this one time where another one of my friends made me cry and yelled at me for no reason, and then my friend just stood there, watched me cry, ran after me 10 minutes later and told her that this girl is horrible and threw every insult her way for about a minute.
From this, you'd obviously expect that she is mad at this girl, and she didn't at all make it seem like what she had with this girl was a 'good friendship'. she didn't speak to her for a few hours, but only after this girl said something to her herself. then she was fine with her. and that's just about all the sticking up for me she's ever done.
now she's told every single soul in the school that i'm horrible for actually saying something once ever and she isn't even incognito about it. i've literally heard her from the lengths of the corridor mouthing me off, and i haven't even told one person about the situation at hand (except my mum lol)
GIRL1 felt like my entire confrontation was aimed at just her, which probably suggests a guilty conscience.
a few of my friends were really nice and mature about my confrontation and apologised and explained that they didn't want to leave me out etc, and i'm fine with them. once they've apologised, there's not much more they can do, right?
i should probably find some new friends. i have no one to fall back on because i'm kind of a loner without them.
help?
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