How good are you at making friends in Real Life?

[Jake]

im good as long as there is mutual ground. if it's someone who is a friend of a friend then i can easily become friends with them. but if its a complete stranger i close up and suck at it lol

 

[doveling]

i'm pretty good actually, i have a lively nature so its not hard to talk to people! but, i tend to push people away when they get to attached to me.. because it feels like its trapping my.. free-ness?

 

[Alienfish]

Bad... really bad. But then I'm not very social either. Or the reverse for the people around me idk lol so I'm glad I have rl friends at least.

 

[Classygirl]

I was so shy when I was younger that no one disliked me they just didn't know me, so I was not unlinked just I guess people saw it as me being cold not shy. I have had great friends in my life, the ones who did approach and got to know me as well as childhood friends. Unfortunately those relationships drifted as is natural around college time. I have friends I worked with that keep in touch with and others but is now mainly casual not close. When I got older and stopped being as shy I find it is easy to be liked but keeping close connections is hard.

I have one good female friend and we make plans a lot but they don't happen either I can't make it or more often she cancels, she has kids and work so I still have two years of birthday presents still sitting for her as an occasional long call or text is the most I get with her. Many unkept plans and promises, she was supposed to be my maid of honor but she is not that reliable so eloping is looking more appealing. But she is the type to drop away for a while with new friends or short relationships then come back around when is done with them...that is just her but have known her forever.

My biggest regret was not making more solid female friends, as a woman, or losing the ones I had when young. Right now my best friend is my fianc?, but it is not the same as having close girl friends and it is much harder to meet and make those bonds after college years are over but will see. So no I am not good at initiating it but once someone does I am a very loyal friend and will stick through a lot, which is why it hurts when people inevitably drift out of your life, for me anyway.

 

[Trickilicky]

I'm okay at making small talk and jokes, but I don't really care for meeting new people tbh, so it feels like I'm being fake most of time lol. I prefer to have a close circle of friends which I already have. Online it's different, as people don't get in your personal space, so I'm more comfortable and enjoy it more.

 

[Lavender]

I have trouble because I'm not terribly social. I'm more of a homebody really.

 

[unravel]

Well not really I have around 9 close friends and we hang out together

 

[Mieiki]

Well. I've recently lost my friends/the ones who ever loved me. I don't have friends anymore and I don't want to have any. I normally avoid everyone/I'm all by myself. Plus I'm very selective.
People can hurt you. And yeah, there are way too many retards out there. No offence.

 

[Hot]

I'm not horrible, but they'd have to be the ones to initiate conversation.

 

[Nameless fox]

I have three sides when it comes to making friends, depending on my mood.
A) Avoid everyone.
B) Friend-of-a-friend.
C) Neutral toward internet friendmaking.
Other than that I pretty much hate am neutral-negative about everyone else.

 

[-Lumi-]

I'm kind of in-between. I most likely won't ever initiate the conversation unless the person looks really friendly, is alone, or looks sad. And even then, I spend a good 15 minutes trying to think of something that's not awkward or boring to say. However, once I warm up to you I've been told I'm a very funny/approachable/nice to be around sort of person. But because of me not really saying hi first I tend to be lonely in most my classes - I have four really good friends and four so-so friends. If none of these people are in my class chances are the class won't hear my voice because I won't speak.

 

[Pirate]

I can't vote on the poll because it's too positive for my answer, but I suck at it. I can't even make friends online. I've made a few recently through gaming, but that was just by chance. Things like that are incredibly rare and only one of those friends has found their way onto my Skype, as I'm closer to them than the others.

 

[Lavandula]

I'm kind of in-between. I most likely won't ever initiate the conversation unless the person looks really friendly, is alone, or looks sad. And even then, I spend a good 15 minutes trying to think of something that's not awkward or boring to say. However, once I warm up to you I've been told I'm a very funny/approachable/nice to be around sort of person. But because of me not really saying hi first I tend to be lonely in most my classes - I have four really good friends and four so-so friends. If none of these people are in my class chances are the class won't hear my voice because I won't speak.

Only "four really good friends" huh? AND "four so-so friends"....I'd say that you're doing quite well

 

[Jaded Bird]

Terrible. I get insanely nervous in social situations and people don't like me very much anyway. Besides, a good chunk of the time I grew up, I spent in relative isolation. I'm used to being alone and don't mind it that much.

Now, if only there were fewer stigmas against loners such as "we're all psychos who want to murder people" :U

 

[carlaeleni]

I can never say hello first or initiate a conversation so I don't do that well...it makes me sad because I would say I'm a friendly person and I do love talking to new people but I just find it very difficult. Because of this, I've been told I come across as snobby or rude

 

[Lavandula]

Terrible. I get insanely nervous in social situations and people don't like me very much anyway. Besides, a good chunk of the time I grew up, I spent in relative isolation. I'm used to being alone and don't mind it that much.

Now, if only there were fewer stigmas against loners such as "we're all psychos who want to murder people" :U

I agree. I pretty much kept to myself growing up in high school, and I remember a new kid taking note of that and saying that I looked like someone who will get a machine gun one day and just start shooting! I rolled my eyes and thought sarcastically "yeah, that's me all right." Someone who knew me better stepped in and explained that I was just quiet. The other thing is that I was a girl, and a small one I see nothing wrong with being an introvert.

 

[oranje]

I like to talk to the people in my class but unless we have some interests in common, I just remain on friendly terms with them instead of making friends. I'm kind of picky.

 

[savanna]

Pretty terrible. I'm way too shy, and when people take an interest in me I usually screw up, lmao.

 

[Kammeh]

Eh. I'm not that good at making friends. I'm pretty quiet and usually don't speak unless spoken to around people I'm not friends with. I'm just afraid of saying something stupid, haha. But, if someone starts talking to me first, I'm pretty good at keeping up a conversation. It doesn't happen often, though, sadly. :U

 

[12345]

Haha you sound like a wonderful person, online and off. As a quiet person I would probably be very comfortable around you.

D'aww thank you <3 I try to aim to make people feel comfortable. You ever want someone to talk at you for several hours about absolutely nothing in particular then you hit me up, k?

I was wondering, because I am TERRIBLE at it. I have 2 friends. Close to 1 friend. I am the ignored one at school. I don't know if they think I'm ugly or I stink. No matter how nice I am, they ignore me. Everybody that is mean has groups of 5-7 people. I feel so bad. I can't concentrate in school because I feel so left out . ARe you good at making friends? (oops submitted it to early >.< if you are bad, tell me!)

And hey don't worry, it's quality over quantity when it comes to friends. But I know how that can make you feel. I used to be super, super shy at school and only had (I say only but tbh they were more than enough) 3 very close friends. I spent most of my school years struggling with my words trying to make people like me.

I put some unasked for 'advice' below the spoiler because I'm conscious I come off patronising. And that people are probably like 'stfu no one asked you for your dumb opinion' but hey I'm giving it anyway.

Spoiler

So yeah I used to be super awkward and I hated socialising with people with whom I was not already good friends. Then I realised like. They're just people. Like me. It's always gonna be awkward going straight up to a new person or a big group and chatting to them, especially if they're already good friends. So don't over-think it. You don't have to 'impress' people per se with your conversation. They're not better than you, nor are they superior. They're just humans. So just treat them like humans. Don't worry about them finding you boring. Just contribute whatever you're thinking to the conversation. Pretend you're a character from a TV show or something. I always used to (this is hella sad so don't laugh at me) channel Kyouko from PMMM because I always thought she was super rad and would have no problems talking to people. Fake your confidence in what you're saying. Pretend you're the most interesting person in the world or something. Speak slowly but with meaning. Just talk to them as if they're an old friend. You know when you're with a close friend and you've got so much to talk about and just every single thing they say you're like 'omg that reminds me of something' and then you end up talking for hours? Channel that. I know it's hard, I really do. And I seriously hope things improve for you soon!

I don't know what these people at your school are like, but if they are being mean to you then they are seriously not worth it. What's the point in having fair-weather friends who won't stand by you?

Good luck and I hope school life improves for you soon ^^