Your thoughts on humor when it comes to offensive/ traumatic things?

[Miii]

I personally think humor is one of our greatest coping mechanisms, and that seeing the humor in a sad, traumatic or frustrating situation can make things less sad, traumatic or frustrating when you think about and reflect on them. I know this can't be applied to every person in every situation, but I think that having a sense of humor, even a really dark sense of humor, can be a beneficial thing when dealing with your issues, and I think that's a big part of why offensive jokes exist.

So what do you think? Do you think being able to laugh or joke about something terrible that happened makes it easier to cope with? Have you experienced any real-life examples of this? I certainly have.

 

[nintendofan85]

Depends on the situation. I do have a dark sense of humor (like most grungy people), but I wouldn't make jokes in certain situations.

 

[Red Cat]

I applaud anyone who has the courage to make jokes about a tragic event. I know a lot of people find that inappropriate and disrespectful, but comedy usually reveals how things happen for a reason and how people tend to act like ostriches and stick their heads in the ground with the typical "thoughts and prayers" stuff. Jokes can make us feel uncomfortable, but we should feel uncomfortable about injustices.

 

[Liamslash]

Fine with it as long as it's not from something which could deeply offend someone.

 

[Cory]

ill laugh if its funny
if its sucks i wont
i dont care how offensive it is

 

[Bowie]

One of the reasons I loved Joan Rivers so much was that, when nobody was talking, she could say something and make everyone feel comfortable again. She made a joke about her dead husband, even, who committed suicide. "I took the bag off my head."

 

[Fleshy]

I joke about traumatic/frustrating/offensive things that have happened to me or that are to do with me, I think it helps me cope and makes things seem less serious.

I wouldn't turn someone else's pain/loss/etc into a joke as I think it's disrespectful, I'll do it with myself though.

 

[Draco]

@Miii;I personally think humor is one of our greatest coping mechanisms, and that seeing the humor in a sad, traumatic or frustrating situation can make things less sad, traumatic or frustrating when you think about and reflect on them. I know this can't be applied to every person in every situation, but I think that having a sense of humor, even a really dark sense of humor, can be a beneficial thing when dealing with your issues, and I think that's a big part of why offensive jokes exist.

So what do you think? Do you think being able to laugh or joke about something terrible that happened makes it easier to cope with? Have you experienced any real-life examples of this? I certainly have.


Comedy is a gift and i think it should be treated as such . when your wife left you and took dog who was there? (besides welfare) Comedy thats who. When that old guy slipped on soda in 7/11 who was there for u Comedy. Who was there when you kissed your girl (or dude) (robot) comedy
And when you jumped out of that plane......Ahhhhhhhh lol that was Death.

 

[nerdatheart9490]

Tragedy + time = comedy. That's why there are so many holocaust jokes, or jokes about the AIDS crisis. People need to laugh in order to deal with horrible concepts.

There are, however, certain things that cannot be made funny. Things that happen constantly, so we never have the "time" part of the equation. Like police brutality and rape.

You also need to read the audience. There are some people that will never think that 9/11 or holocaust jokes will ever be funny. Don't force the jokes on to the unwilling. I, however, love a good holocaust joke, Anne Frankly I don't think it dishonors the event at all, as long as one remembers the significance of the event.

 

[boujee]

Depends on the delivery

 

[Aquari]

i think its completely fine, one of my brothers has seizures often and he jokes about it sometimes

 

[wassop]

i'm a fan of dark humor , i like to embrace whatever happens and move on from it and comedy helps a lot . just as long as you're not being a jerk about it

 

[Irelia]

I try not to indulge in it too much, but dark humor is too good.
I don't make jokes about stuff on sensitive topics, but I usually laugh when others do. I always feel a little guilty.

 

[piichinu]

it depends on how its said, who said it, and who its said to

jokes about things like rape are never funny imo, but i dont mind things like bush did 9/11 lol

- - - Post Merge - - -

dark humor doesnt necessarily mean offensive humor so

 

[moonbunny]

I'm not specifically talking about the OP, but most of the time when I hear people defend "offensive humour," they mean the type of humour that punches down. I'm not a fan of that type of comedy. I prefer my comedy to punch up.

In other words, it depends on who's being offended and why. For example, while I do think rape jokes can be funny, I never think they are when they're at the expense of rape survivors.

 

[Hopeless Opus]

i'm not really cool with people making jokes about tragic events
but offensive things? i mean yea lol i do

 

[Alienfish]

It depends on the topic and how they present it, I wouldn't joke about rape or suicidal things or go too offensive though. Considering a lot of people are offended by minor things and fuel that to max you better watch your tongue...

But I mean if you do like, idek religious jokes or just, idek go against the norm in general in a tasty way it's alright

 

[visibleghost]

generally i rhink there are a few rules/guidelines that should be followed when one jokes about stuff like that.
1. don't joke about other ppl's trauma. (if you arent a csa survivor it is Very insensitive to make jokes about csa imo. or cis ppl joking abt things happening to trans ppl)
2. be sensitive abt the people around. don't make jokes that might be triggering.
3. think about whether it's insensitive, makes fun of trauma, blames victims etc. if it's more rude, bad and triggering than it is funny it's probably not a good idea to say it.

also i think that not all coping mechanisms are good, so even if someone uses comedy as a way to cope it doesn't automatically make it Great.
and there's a big difference between coping jokes and between mocking victims and survivors of traumatic events.

 

[Alienfish]

^well agrees but that should be obvious which it sadly isn't for some people >>

and yeah i guess know your audience in general really.

 

[Draco]

@ SheilaIt depends on the topic and how they present it, I wouldn't joke about rape or suicidal things or go too offensive though. Considering a lot of people are offended by minor things and fuel that to max you better watch your tongue...

But I mean if you do like, idek religious jokes or just, idek go against the norm in general in a tasty way it's alright


Just About anything if done right can be funny it is all about timing and delivery in comedy. I think they did i study about it forget who it was done by One of the major medical Schools. The study took same Comedic Material made by 1 guy who was a rookie comedian and other was by a
Veteran only Varying was the Crowd it self , what they found was that was timeing and confidence that made difference, the crowd piced up
on it and thats where timing comes in, anyway i forget the whole report.