What's Bothering You?

[Dunquixote]

Spoiler

I went downstairs to look for Jewels and overheard my dad talking about the murder of someone that was close to us. It has been years since it happened but still is fresh in my mind. I hate when they talk about it or the murderer.

My dad has been really rude to me and my nieces and everyone today; sad thing is he doesn’t think he is because he has dementia and doesn’t treat that, his anxiety or allergies.

no comments or dms/discord messages please

 

[-Apples-]

Nobody really wants to talk to me right now. What’s going on?

 

[moonbyu]

Spoiler: no arguments please, just laying out my thoughts

it really upsets me to see what has been happening on the site. i've been closely following the situation through the thread and all i can say is.. it's ROUGH.

i still don't quite understand what's happening because i just came back to the website after several months of inactivity, but from what i DO understand, i definitely think there's some real pressing concerns that the community has raised that totally need some sort of long-term solution. seeing people take hiatuses or straight up leaving makes me sad, but i understand completely and it says a lot about the state of what's going on. i think this is the first time i've seen something like this happen on the bell tree. especially that disgusting anonymous message that was sent to oblivia.

truth be told, i hold this site really close to my heart. even with all its problems, this is one of the only safe spaces i've got left. the social media sites i used to frequent have become a hotbed of intolerance, hatred, bigotry and overall negativity and i just don't have the heart to continue going on places that just hurt and upset me. on top of that, i'm very alone irl nowadays (my own fault). this website has made me feel not so alone. the community, the events, the conversations; everything makes me feel like i'm a part of something. it would suck so much to lose it, and i hope it doesn't come to that.

tldr: i just want better for this website .

 

[SkyKnight03]

father's day with a dead parent hurts >.>

 

[Chronos314_XD]

i have to get my drivers permit again because of the fact i had to move in with my dad due to me not being able to handle living with my mom, and my dad techinicaly lives in a different state despite it being so close to the state i was living in (we are literally living close to the border of it).

that's not really a big deal to me, but i have the same problem i had when reading the manual for the other state, i just find it really hard to retain information after i read it. this has always been a thing that's bothered me since i've been in school, but i've always just found it hard to properly retain information i read if the material itself isn't engaging enough. i would say i can read fairly well, maybe not absolutely perfect comprehension but at least slightly above average for my age, but it's just the retaining info part that's always been something i've struggled with.

 

[lasagne_of_death]

Poof.

 

[Chronos314_XD]

it seems the feedback thread has escalated further last time i checked it, and now i just no longer feel comfortable being in this community anymore. the continual lack of reflection, professionalism, and tact from the staff is just utterly embarassing and a complete slap in the face to a community i previously viewed as strong, caring, and always very helpful.

ill try to be active in dms if any of my friends or close mutuals on here want to send me a message, but until things get better, i have no regrets leaving tbt.

 

[Reginald Fairfield]

People keep changing in the breakroom. There is no door.

 

[Beanz]

i did not sleep well at all last night. i think i only slept for two hours or a little more than that. when i woke up i got slightly dizzy and my body started feeling numb.

this is probably a sign i need to stop neglecting my body because recently i have been falling asleep after 12:30 am and i most definitely do not get seven or eight hours of sleep.

 

[Bruscoe]

Some idiot on the road showed their displeasure with me by giving me the bird and brake checking me twice. Like, what the heck did I do? I may have been following a bit close, but they were going way under the speed limit and were in the wrong more than me. Not to mention that they decided to stop in the middle of an intersection (a four-way stop) as they were turning.

Ugh, I hate idiot drivers.

 

[azurill]

Some idiot on the road showed their displeasure with me by giving me the bird and brake checking me twice. Like, what the heck did I do? I may have been following a bit close, but they were going way under the speed limit and were in the wrong more than me. Not to mention that they decided to stop in the middle of an intersection (a four-way stop) as they were turning.

Ugh, I hate idiot drivers.

I feel your frustration with bad drivers. There are just so many of them. Especially after the accident I got in on Friday because of a bad driver . Then again yesterday on the way home from work. When someone almost made a left turn into me. Then not long after the person in front of me almost got hit by someone trying to go through a stop sign.

 

[Bruscoe]

I feel your frustration with bad drivers. There are just so many of them. Especially after the accident I got in on Friday because of a bad driver . Then again yesterday on the way home from work. When someone almost made a left turn into me. Then not long after the person in front of me almost got hit by someone trying to go through a stop sign.

Oh no. At least you're okay. I've been rear ended twice with the bus, both times because of distracted drivers. Ended up totaling both their vehicles in the process while the buses only needed rear bumper repairs. It's miraculous how the drivers of both vehicles (one being a kid in high school!) walked away unscathed. You never want to end up with your face mangled in a steel bumper.

 

[azurill]

Oh no. At least you're okay. I've been rear ended twice with the bus, both times because of distracted drivers. Ended up totaling both their vehicles in the process while the buses only needed rear bumper repairs. It's miraculous how the drivers of both vehicles (one being a kid in high school!) walked away unscathed. You never want to end up with your face mangled in a steel bumper.

Yea thankfully we are all fine and so is Aurora. She was in the backseat. Sorry you have been in two. Glad you are okay. Too many people are distracted when driving. This person was also distracted when trying to merge onto the highway and hit me into someone else that person left. I made an appointment to take the car in for Thursday so hopefully it won’t be too bad. It really is crazy out there. No you definitely don’t want that.

 

[daringred_]

i have to pull a 10 hour day tomorrow, and i don't know how i'm going to manage it. (i only work three hour shifts normally, with a break in the middle because chronic fatigue is fun.)

 

[Cetoddle769]

Multiple things are bugging me.

I heavily agree with what moonbyu said about the site. This place is one of the very few, if not the only, social media site that doesn't have hatred, judgement, and negativity. When I joined ZD Forums, I was expecting the site to be very similar to this one in terms of kindness and behavior. While there are a lot of nice and caring people on there, there are also a bunch of rotten apples who find pleasure in putting you down and giving you a hard time and making you feel like a giant piece of SHIRT.
An example of me being picked on on ZD: When I replied to the thread, Gender option in Zelda games?, I said how it would be nice for having the option to play as a girl. I also said that I'd love to be called by the correct pronouns for one. The reactions that the rotten users gave to my post was awful. They all gave me eye roll emojis. A guy defended me and said that me stating my opinion that wasn't controversial or serious wasn't "a very ugh-worthy post."
Anyhoo, seeing TBT in this state worries me greatly. I can't lose this site. It's the only outlet I have left in terms of social media.

I also recently learned that the president is releasing a self-titled phone. It disgusts me. This is inappropriate behavior. Leaders should not be releasing merch advertising themselves.

For the entire week last week, my stomach has been feeling like garbage. Thankfully, the problem is currently fixing itself.

The other day, I went out and treated myself to fro-yo. When I was eating it outside, a lady informed me that her kid found bugs (gnats) in her fro-yo. I asked her what flavor it was, and it thankfully wasn't mine. I thanked the lady for the info. Now, I was paranoid of bugs being in MINE. So I immediately got up and threw away my fro-yo. I wasn't taking any chances. Besides, I had lost my appetite. Oh well. So much for THAT. I go out to treat myself for once, and THIS has to happen. On top of that, there were no refunds for the lady and I. There goes my 10 dollars. In the garbage, and flushed down the toilet.

 

[Giddy]

I haven't read the whole feedback thread, but it just feels so disheartening to hear people hurt and/or going on haitus (of course I understand its for their wellbeing), I don't know as much but I feel sad for everyone who doesn't feel safe here.
I plan to read the whole thread, I'm on page 6 so got a way to go, but I do definitely want to fully understand and support the ones who need support.

I hope the people on haitus are doing well and hope to return to a better TBT site and hope things change for the better.

Small update, edit thing: I've gotten to page 25 today and plan to stop there. ️
Don't think my head could mentally handle anymore today. Whole body feels icky from what's been going on and plan tonrevisit this another day.

Hope everyone can have some sort of a good day today.

 

[Cetoddle769]

Yet another user has left the forum. This is pushing me closer to hiatus. If enough people leave this place, I’ll go too. I can’t take this. It’s REALLY sad.

I think the last 3 songs on Jar of Flies I added to Spotify today fit the mood perfectly. Especially Don’t Follow. If I do leave, the song Don’t Follow will be my farewell.

Goodbye, Suguri. I’ll miss you.

 

[Psydye]

^Damn, Suguri's leaving? They were one of the nicest people on here!

 

[Cetoddle769]

More and more users are leaving…

No… This can’t be happening!

*Starts crying*

At this point, I may just go on hiatus myself. I can’t take this anymore. It’s too sad.

 

[Yoshi155]

No… This can’t be happening!

That made me think of this gem lol

That was all I initially wanted to say. But I feel like I should also say that yeah, it’s sad that so many people are leaving, but it’s not really surprising considering the staff’s recent actions are making a lot of people feel uncomfortable and they haven’t done nearly enough to show that they’ll change and things like this will stop being an issue. So as pessimistic as it might sound, more people are inevitably going to leave and it’s probably not going to stop soon.