I feel angry tbh. I wasn't there, and I'm kind of glad I wasn't because I'd have gotten so mad (probably overwhelmed due to that smidge of social anxiety) and I'd probably have hit these people which is something I absolutely hate doing and always have control over so I've never done it before, but it most likely would have manifested here. Btw I don't condone physical violence, in case that was unclear
At a new years eve party my friend was at these two guys both came up to her, at separate times, to ask her out. For context we know them both and they go to the same school as us. Not a problem, but they were being so creepy about it. One of them was going on about how he'd be a "good boy" for her, then proceeded to follow her around for the rest of the party. He's also the brother of another guy who has a crush on her but got turned down at last year's party because my friend does not experience romantic attraction. I thought that he was reformed and trying to make a difference from how disgusting the comments he made towards women were last year, but apparently not. Like he literally said he could r*** a legal adult and she'd be the one to blame because he's a minor.
The other one who asked her out had literally come out of a relationship with a different girl. And he said he's liked my friend for ages, which means he went into a relationship with a girl who he didn't like. Which wtf. And the way he asked her was to ask if she wanted to go outside for a smoke so they could talk, which is absolutely vile. Both him and her are both underage. These people know my friend has extremely self-destructive tendencies and instead of trying to help her to not do things that will negatively effect her physical and mental health , they try and lead her further into it.
Idk maybe I'm blowing things out of proportion, but I just can't believe some people. I'll probably delete this comment later, but for now I just need to vent out my anger with the whole situation. I have an overblown sense of justice when it comes to my friends and relatives, so maybe some of the things I said aren't even that bad. Idk, but I'm really frustrated.
She has a low self esteem that stems from severe mental health problems (I won't get into the specifics) so she doesn't put up boundaries with people, and laughs along with things even though she could feel insurmountablely uncomfortable. So most people I know think that just because she doesn't put up boundaries that she doesn't need them, but she absolutely deserves to have her basic boundaries as just a human being respected. I always feel like I have to tell her that if she feels sad, uncomfortable, or anything at all she can tell me and I'll get the people who've overstepped to not do it again, however politely or curtly she'd prefer. She's told me she appreciates it because no one else actually lets her know they have her back and'll take a stand and that makes me sad. Why don't people see that she isn't just a plaything that they can do anything they want with? She needs support from people, but they just take advantage of her easy-going nature.
. Generally just feeling down today though.
Mine did eventually, I just had to really be strict about making sure I ate enough before taking the meds.
