xSuperMario64x
love of my life 💙💜
it's really difficult to break out of toxic mindsets when you live in an environment that actively/passively reinforces them 
What's Bothering You?
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daringred_
✧ ghost lesbian ✧
my brother is such a piece of garbage, god. i don't think i could hate a person more.
pottercrossing
☀🏹🎶Apollo🎶🏹☀
It's that time of the month again.
I would rather die than continue dealing with this at this point.
It's only been a year.
I would rather die than continue dealing with this at this point.
It's only been a year.
i really HATE group projects. the one person who came up to me because she wanted a group just texted me "hi, i just found a group with 3 other girls. hopefully you find a group cuz you seem really kind 
". i don't blame her i guess. she had all her friends in that group and i'm awkward and socially inept so it would have been hell only working with me. i have to find a group by tomorrow afternoon. the professor said she made a discussion post but i literally am unable to find it and now i'm worried that i'm the only one without a group. i wish this was one of those times where it was optional to have a group but she already said she won't accept individual works. i'm so tired.
". i don't blame her i guess. she had all her friends in that group and i'm awkward and socially inept so it would have been hell only working with me. i have to find a group by tomorrow afternoon. the professor said she made a discussion post but i literally am unable to find it and now i'm worried that i'm the only one without a group. i wish this was one of those times where it was optional to have a group but she already said she won't accept individual works. i'm so tired.
Mimi Cheems
you make me wanna make you fall in love ♡
Boyfriend gave me cooties. I now have to call off work tomorrow since I'm so sick but my manager goes
'Let's see what urgent care says and we'll go from there if I'll let you call off or not' 8/ I'm so tired man.. I can barely move and I'm so cold.. ;w; I hate being sick.
'Let's see what urgent care says and we'll go from there if I'll let you call off or not' 8/ I'm so tired man.. I can barely move and I'm so cold.. ;w; I hate being sick.
xSuperMario64x
love of my life 💙💜
my dreams are always so close to reality but sometimes they hit a little too close to home 
themysterybidder
Senior Member
My lovely Blossom has the start of a urine infection. I noticed she had been leaving little puddles so mentioned it to the Nurse. She's on a 5 day course of antibiotics, so her spay has been postponed again! 
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I was debating on creating a new topic about my issue, but I’ll just post it here as I think that’s a better idea.
So, I’m a straight male nearing my mid-20’s, and have never officially dated anyone in my life. I’ve been using dating apps for over 6 years, and have only came close to meeting someone around a half-dozen times. I’ve even thrown away money at these apps’ premium plans, and that also went nowhere. I’ve went around various places, both in real life and on the internet, asking for advice, and never quite understood how to take such advice in. I need some help, and figuring that I feel comfortable enough to receive some legitimate answers on this forum, I’ve decided to ask you guys for your advice.
I’m shy and got minor ASD/social anxiety, which has prevented me from feeling comfortable meeting new people in real life. I’m also big on looks, which is not a terrible habit for a man to have, but it’s not the best either. I’ve previously asked for advice elsewhere with mixed results. On Reddit, I went on a dating advice subreddit looking for help, and sure enough, I got ridiculed and made fun of by their users, which really doesn’t help my situation other than knowing never to go there again. I’ve been given advice on what to do in real life, and there were some answers I didn’t agree with (AKA go to loud clubs and bars and make a fool out of yourself). There was some actual, helpful advice given to me at certain times, but I can’t remember verbal conversations that well, and I’ve forgotten most of what was told to me.
Now, I tend to not approach women spontaneously for fear that I’ll make them uncomfortable, being that I’m usually by myself or working, and they probably don’t want to talk to some random lonely guy who wants to chat. Pick up lines make me cringe, and all I really want in a relationship is someone who shares most of my interests and that I can talk to about my feelings and otherwise. So, for those that are currently or were previously in a relationship, how can I figure this out without making myself look like a creep in the process?
So, I’m a straight male nearing my mid-20’s, and have never officially dated anyone in my life. I’ve been using dating apps for over 6 years, and have only came close to meeting someone around a half-dozen times. I’ve even thrown away money at these apps’ premium plans, and that also went nowhere. I’ve went around various places, both in real life and on the internet, asking for advice, and never quite understood how to take such advice in. I need some help, and figuring that I feel comfortable enough to receive some legitimate answers on this forum, I’ve decided to ask you guys for your advice.
I’m shy and got minor ASD/social anxiety, which has prevented me from feeling comfortable meeting new people in real life. I’m also big on looks, which is not a terrible habit for a man to have, but it’s not the best either. I’ve previously asked for advice elsewhere with mixed results. On Reddit, I went on a dating advice subreddit looking for help, and sure enough, I got ridiculed and made fun of by their users, which really doesn’t help my situation other than knowing never to go there again. I’ve been given advice on what to do in real life, and there were some answers I didn’t agree with (AKA go to loud clubs and bars and make a fool out of yourself). There was some actual, helpful advice given to me at certain times, but I can’t remember verbal conversations that well, and I’ve forgotten most of what was told to me.
Now, I tend to not approach women spontaneously for fear that I’ll make them uncomfortable, being that I’m usually by myself or working, and they probably don’t want to talk to some random lonely guy who wants to chat. Pick up lines make me cringe, and all I really want in a relationship is someone who shares most of my interests and that I can talk to about my feelings and otherwise. So, for those that are currently or were previously in a relationship, how can I figure this out without making myself look like a creep in the process?
I'm not sure I qualify as straight since I'm non-binary, but I am attracted to women. I think spending money on dating apps is useless. They don't care if you find someone as long as they are making money. The longer they keep you from finding someone, the more money you will pay because you think paying raises your chances of finding someone. It doesn't. If anything, finding someone will be harder because the apps are making money from you. If I were you, I'd stop giving money to dating apps.
Looks are your first impression of someone, so I can understand how important they are, but they aren't the most important thing. You can find someone attractive, but get to know them and they aren't what they seem. There might be someone that's a good match for you, but they aren't someone you find very physically attractive, and you'd fail to give them a chance because of what you see on the outside. Looks aren't everything. I'm definitely not a 10. I'd give myself a solid 5/6 (post the dental work).
It's also good not to judge a book by its cover. I've met people I found very attractive by society standards. One of the girls was previously bullied in school and tbh, my first impression of her was "I don't like her. She's a bully." Just based solely on looks. I haven't even spoken to her before. This was two years ago. The second girl is just very attractive, but we were talking a few days ago and she opened up to me about how self-conscious she was of her looks. I would've never thought someone that looked like her would be critical of the way she looks. I think this just goes to show that low self esteem can happen in anybody, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and not everyone is shallow.
I think confidence is a big thing here. I'm friends with the second girl, and I ended up getting her number just by casually saying "give me your number and we'll talk later." No questions. I didn't really give her an option to decline. I wasn't looking for anything more than a friendship here, plus she has a boyfriend, but she did give me her number immediately. I've gotten another person's phone number by the same method. Avoid the questions. It's amazing what you can get just by saying what you want. Obviously, I've spoken to these people before just asking for their numbers. This wouldn't be a good method if you'd just met the person and this is the first thing you're saying to them. You just have to gain the confidence to walk up and say hello to people.
This is easy for me to say as an extrovert, but you have to get comfortable with being rejected. It's going to happen, but don't close yourself off to opportunities because you think everyone is going to reject you. One thing I learned is that women care the most about confidence and can usually sense when someone is nervous. I think the best relationships start out as friendships, which eliminates the dating apps altogether. 99% of the time, people on those apps are looking for hookups and are rarely looking for anything serious.
I'd say drop the apps and don't actively seek relationships. The best things come when you aren't looking.
Looks are your first impression of someone, so I can understand how important they are, but they aren't the most important thing. You can find someone attractive, but get to know them and they aren't what they seem. There might be someone that's a good match for you, but they aren't someone you find very physically attractive, and you'd fail to give them a chance because of what you see on the outside. Looks aren't everything. I'm definitely not a 10. I'd give myself a solid 5/6 (post the dental work).
It's also good not to judge a book by its cover. I've met people I found very attractive by society standards. One of the girls was previously bullied in school and tbh, my first impression of her was "I don't like her. She's a bully." Just based solely on looks. I haven't even spoken to her before. This was two years ago. The second girl is just very attractive, but we were talking a few days ago and she opened up to me about how self-conscious she was of her looks. I would've never thought someone that looked like her would be critical of the way she looks. I think this just goes to show that low self esteem can happen in anybody, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and not everyone is shallow.
I think confidence is a big thing here. I'm friends with the second girl, and I ended up getting her number just by casually saying "give me your number and we'll talk later." No questions. I didn't really give her an option to decline. I wasn't looking for anything more than a friendship here, plus she has a boyfriend, but she did give me her number immediately. I've gotten another person's phone number by the same method. Avoid the questions. It's amazing what you can get just by saying what you want. Obviously, I've spoken to these people before just asking for their numbers. This wouldn't be a good method if you'd just met the person and this is the first thing you're saying to them. You just have to gain the confidence to walk up and say hello to people.
This is easy for me to say as an extrovert, but you have to get comfortable with being rejected. It's going to happen, but don't close yourself off to opportunities because you think everyone is going to reject you. One thing I learned is that women care the most about confidence and can usually sense when someone is nervous. I think the best relationships start out as friendships, which eliminates the dating apps altogether. 99% of the time, people on those apps are looking for hookups and are rarely looking for anything serious.
I'd say drop the apps and don't actively seek relationships. The best things come when you aren't looking.
My advice for dating & finding a partner: work on yourself first. Cultivate your interests, have hobbies, learn a skill, learn to be in touch with your emotions + cultivate good listening skills. People want to date people who are interesting and fun. Not saying you aren’t, and I recognize that social anxiety can make it hard for these interests to come out for sure, but that’s something you can learn skills to navigate and overcome for interacting with others. Put that in the “something to work on” category.
Understand that a relationship is the goal, but relationships take time to develop and aren’t instantaneous. Set realistic expectations for dates and meeting people - take it slow, focus on listening and learning about this new person. Focus on fun for your first few dates, and don’t try to do too much too fast (aka talking about serious relationship stuff too quickly in the dating phase - can be a turnoff, ymmv)
If looks are important, dress to impress. Evaluate your style. Are you dressing or styling yourself for the person you want to be with? Regular hygiene, grooming your hair and facial hair, fitness, and attention to how you’re dressing yourself go a long way. If you value how someone looks, you’ll be attracting those who also value looks - something important to keep in mind. And you don’t have to dress or groom yourself in a way that is inauthentic to you - find your style, play around with it, and you’ll find that happy place of looking good and feeling good.
Aaaaand be patient and keep trying! Go to meet-ups for things you’re interested in, strike up conversations with people in general, and as counterintuitive as it sounds: don’t focus too much on relationships. If you work on yourself and don’t put too much pressure on finding a partner, you will allow yourself to blossom & become that person who someone might wanna be with.
Mom’s Dr decided to do surgery first and will spilt the surgery into two parts . That will at least get us some time to try and get some financial help for the medication. Since the cost of it is $3,000 a month even with insurance. One will be Dec 12th and the other Dec 21st . I think I’m more nervous then she is. I also worry about getting the days off. Not so much the 12th but the 21st since it’s so close to Christmas. I asked to just work half the day but still not sure if they will accept it.
Mimi Cheems
you make me wanna make you fall in love ♡
Update on the cooties situation.. I have the flu. TwT I'm so sleepy and weak feeling. I ended up calling off anyways bc I knew I couldn't go into work feeling the way I did. And I'm glad I did call off because I have something probably extremely contagious.. ;w;
Violet Witch
☽Stay Wild Moon Child☾
Everyone at work is annoying the crap out of me but thank goodness I finish two weeks today for the rest of the year. 
xSuperMario64x
love of my life 💙💜
I've been feeling so irritable for like a week now, and that alone is making me feel very annoyed. I hate feeling that way all the time. I want to be able to enjoy my time and talk to friends and do stuff without feeling irritated constantly. nothing's happened to warrant it. it's probably my med change that caused it, but if it doesn't stop I need to let my psychiatrist know. also still feeling sleepy a lot, and I even feel a little under the weather, like I have a head cold but I also don't. I don't know how long these side effects are supposed to last but it's been about 4 days now and I hope it stops soon.
going through the process of med changes and sorting out mental health stuff is so exhausting and time consuming, I mean hell I dealt with bipolar for 6+ years before I even realized what it was. I just want to get this figured out so I can actually live like a normal person
going through the process of med changes and sorting out mental health stuff is so exhausting and time consuming, I mean hell I dealt with bipolar for 6+ years before I even realized what it was. I just want to get this figured out so I can actually live like a normal person
Mimi Cheems
you make me wanna make you fall in love ♡
Scared to call my job again to tell them I'm not allowed to go back into work until the 24th.. T^T Some of them are mainly understanding of my situation, but one seems to get so mad every time I call and she answers. I'm still not feeling any better xwx Waiting on my Tamiflu from the pharmacy to be ready.
i was sitting with my friend at lunch with her friend (that i also sort of talk to) and he jokingly said that both of us (my friend and i) were the outcasts of the school. even though it was meant as a joke it kind of ruined my mood.
also this random freshman was trying to hunt me down for money?? kind of embarrassing since i can’t straight up say no and they probably know that too even though i have never talked to them before. next time im just going to be like “why are you even down here if you don’t have money for the vending machine?” WTF DO I LOOK LIKE I HAVE MONEY?? IM GOING TO THE BATHROOM. a little thing like this pisses me off.
also this random freshman was trying to hunt me down for money?? kind of embarrassing since i can’t straight up say no and they probably know that too even though i have never talked to them before. next time im just going to be like “why are you even down here if you don’t have money for the vending machine?” WTF DO I LOOK LIKE I HAVE MONEY?? IM GOING TO THE BATHROOM. a little thing like this pisses me off.
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