you dont just automatically unlearn all the pain and trauma you dealt with from your parents. it would be amazing if we could, but that's not how it works. the way that's worded above makes the person sound like they're basically saying younger people today like being depressed and don't want to take responsibility (which is ironic bc it seems like a lot of Gen X/Boomers themselves hate taking responsibility for stuff they did wrong).I gotta stop doom scrolling on Facebook, it just makes me angry. Latest thing I saw was a post saying "stop blaming your parents for how you turned out. You're grown now. The mistakes are your own. Grow up."
Oh yeah?? How else do I explain my crippling anxiety, trauma responses, lack of emotional intelligence other than being in an abusive household? Yeah that's what I thought boomers lmao
I had cats like that. Is one a male? They are sometimes like that. But you can cut down on that by giving them more stimulation. Are you able to take the aggressor cat outside? You can get them a harness/leash. Sometimes being cooped up in a small building where neither of them have enough room to roam freely can do that. So giving them outdoor time can sometimes help. Or stimulating them with toys and the such so they can get rid of that extra pent up energy so it doesn't end up coming out in the form of anger on your new cat.adopting another cat has not gone well, and unfortunately i don’t think i’ll be able to keep her. she is the sweetest angel on the planet, and i adore her so much, but my first cat will not stop terrorizing her. we’ve gone from hissing and growling to my first cat pouncing at and chasing my new cat around every single time she sees her. my mom’s injured herself trying to keep them separate, and no one is sleeping. i’ve barely eaten since we brought her home, and i am physically unwell. i haven’t had anxiety attacks so intense since i was 14! things have been so so bad and i’m devastated. i feel so guilty. my poor cats.
idk if this is too late or not, but have you tried the Jackson Galaxy method of introducing cats? I only have one cat but when I first adopted her I did this to introduce her to my dogs. Her fosters told me she was afraid of dogs when I first got her, but after doing this she is now obsessed with the both of them. It might be worth a shot if you still have her, but it can take some time. I think my cat stayed in my room about a month and a half before she was allowed out in the rest of the house.adopting another cat has not gone well, and unfortunately i don’t think i’ll be able to keep her. she is the sweetest angel on the planet, and i adore her so much, but my first cat will not stop terrorizing her. we’ve gone from hissing and growling to my first cat pouncing at and chasing my new cat around every single time she sees her. my mom’s injured herself trying to keep them separate, and no one is sleeping. i’ve barely eaten since we brought her home, and i am physically unwell. i haven’t had anxiety attacks so intense since i was 14! things have been so so bad and i’m devastated. i feel so guilty. my poor cats.
I'm sorry to hear that, but I agree it was probably the best thing for everyone. I'm sure she'll get adopted out soon and be happy in her new home! Even though you couldn't provide the life for her that you wanted, you still took good care of her and placed her wellbeing first, and that's really great of you.thank you guys for taking the time to reply. i unfortunately had to take my new kitty back to the shelter this morning. she’s an angel, but the situation just kept getting worse, and neither cat was happy. the stress was making everyone sick and tearing the household apart, and i didn’t want to subject my cats to it anymore. i feel like crap about it, but i know this is probably what’s best for everyone long-term.
thank you again for replying and for the advice. i appreciate it![]()
It's stupid. It's like the whole atrocious gsp system they have in place for Smash online. You can win several matches and lose all of those points in just one single match that you lose.(Mario Kart 8)
I was in a battle and a gold digger with 99K. infiltrated my low room between 2.5K and 5K (I have about 5K BR). I ended up beating him on the first battle in which I got first and he came in second… and I only got +7 for winning.Makes no sense how gold diggers can get +17 for first in the same rooms and I’m getting +7.
I'm sorry to hear about that. You never know how things will work out. So my suggestion (or others) could've not made any difference. It's hard to make that kind of call, but you stuck with it and did the responsible and right thing. For everyone's well-being as well as both cats. I am sure that she will be adopted again in no time.thank you guys for taking the time to reply. i unfortunately had to take my new kitty back to the shelter this morning. she’s an angel, but the situation just kept getting worse, and neither cat was happy. the stress was making everyone sick and tearing the household apart, and i didn’t want to subject my cats to it anymore. i feel like crap about it, but i know this is probably what’s best for everyone long-term.
thank you again for replying and for the advice. i appreciate it