What's bothering you?

[Liquid Ocelot]

I feel like no one knows me on any forum. I had one friend on another forum and I just found out she's quitting ;-;. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. Maybe I'm just too shy. I like everyone here but I can't try to connect with them, I get too scared. Sorry, it's just I'm really sad and hurt over my friend quitting.

Well, get out there a little, man. She's not the only friend you're ever going to make. I think even doing little trades and stuff can help you feel more involved.

Like, I know you're scared and stuff- but really, the worst thing someone can do is not want to be friendly with you, and if they don't, there's probably something wrong on their end, not yours. I've seen you around, and I think you're pretty nice.

I think what I'm trying to say is - you're fine. And I'm sure you can make more friends, because you seem nice. You just gotta warm up a little first.

 

[n64king]

I need $4000-6000 to create my game for consoles that people love very much but I'm not sure where to get it. inb4 kickstarter, I've thought about that but most of them on there have something to show and we've got squat as of today. But eventually it'll start to work out so I won't be so worried.

 

[Liquid Ocelot]

I need $4000-6000 to create my game for consoles that people love very much but I'm not sure where to get it. inb4 kickstarter, I've thought about that but most of them on there have something to show and we've got squat as of today. But eventually it'll start to work out so I won't be so worried.

What iiiis it?~

 

[CookingOkasan]

tfw pizza but no beer

only one part of the triforce...
only one head of the holy trinity...

 

[n64king]

What iiiis it?~

It's a secret yet! Mostly because we're forming ideas and I'd prefer not to get the public excited over nothing yet, but almost any day now I could decide to burst onto the scene and email all the news websites telling them what the situation is because of the progress me and my team is making and to see if I can get some help or attention. I've basically got all my resources including game licenses for 2 platforms (as of yet) and my "employees" aka my 2 best friends who are helping with music and story, and I'm doing the major development stuff. We're just lacking the money to lift this off the ground. But even if we can't get the people to help, I can work to get the money even if it takes ages. Tis my dream yo.

 

[Saylor]

I feel like no one knows me on any forum. I had one friend on another forum and I just found out she's quitting ;-;. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. Maybe I'm just too shy. I like everyone here but I can't try to connect with them, I get too scared. Sorry, it's just I'm really sad and hurt over my friend quitting.

I'm the same way. Obviously I can't speak for all the forums you're a part of, but most of the members of this one are really cool and friendly but I've been too shy to try and make friends with them. I'm sure if you PM someone on here they'd most likely be super nice, and you can always PM me if you want. You just have to put yourself out there. You really haven't been a member here for that long, so give it some time. I'm sure you'll meet some really awesome people eventually!

 

[Sanaki]

Just got home from California and I'm super sad lol.

 

[n64king]

I'd be sad too if I had to leave California.

- - - Post Merge - - -

I feel like no one knows me on any forum. I had one friend on another forum and I just found out she's quitting ;-;. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. Maybe I'm just too shy. I like everyone here but I can't try to connect with them, I get too scared. Sorry, it's just I'm really sad and hurt over my friend quitting.

I pretty much feel like no one knows me here either or even wants to be friends. But people are nice enough to respond to my opinions or whatever I say sometimes, and that's good enough for me. I've not had friends on a forum based website in years. Maybe you can still chat here and there just to share opinions and stuff? Why do you have to come here just if you've got friends? :O

 

[RayOfHope]

Ha, I've found that sometimes the people who you want to be friends with, or people who want to be friends with you, often feel exactly the same way when it comes to reaching out.

I've been feeling the same way lately, but then sometimes someone I know will say hi, or I'll take the initiative to say hi first, and later I feel a lot better after having made an effort to converse. Then I feel more confident to put myself out there more often.

 

[Saylor]

Ha, I've found that sometimes the people who you want to be friends with, or people who want to be friends with you, often feel exactly the same way when it comes to reaching out.

I've been feeling the same way lately, but then sometimes someone I know will say hi, or I'll take the initiative to say hi first, and later I feel a lot better after having made an effort to converse. Then I feel more confident to put myself out there more often.

I wish I could come out of my shell like that haha

 

[RayOfHope]

I wish I could come out of my shell like that haha

Sometimes I have to force myself. Haha it's kind of useless telling something to "just do it", because "just doing it" feels a lot harder than it sounds, but that's the only thing that helped me I just...did it.
But I could be having totally different problems than someone else, so I won't suggest "just do it" is the best way for you or anyone else to be more social. I'm no expert.

 

[Saylor]

Sometimes I have to force myself. Haha it's kind of useless telling something to "just do it", because "just doing it" feels a lot harder than it sounds, but that's the only thing that helped me I just...did it.
But I could be having totally different problems than someone else, so I won't suggest "just do it" is the best way for you or anyone else to be more social. I'm no expert.

I'm not extremely shy so I probably could just do it, I just feel like I'd be intruding I guess. I usually just let people keep to themselves cause I figure they wouldn't care if I talked to them.

 

[RayOfHope]

I'm not extremely shy so I probably could just do it, I just feel like I'd be intruding I guess. I usually just let people keep to themselves cause I figure they wouldn't care if I talked to them.

I'm terrified of bothering people, too. That's usually part of my problem. I feel like they probably have someone else they would rather be talking to right now. That and I feel like what I say doesn't really matter. I have to be assertive to get people's attention and keep it. (Which I hate since I'm normally really passive.)

That means calling people out if they (frequently) ignore me or visibly show lack of interest instead of responding/explaining that they don't want to talk or something. I don't do that very often though, which means I'll try talking to that person less, which is usually what leads to distance. Maybe not the most efficient or mature way of going about it but I get tired of trying my best for people who don't want to return any effort. :/ Of course some people could feel the same way about me, because I sometimes over-analyze my behavior for no reason and purposefully distance myself a bit to avoid looking clingy, so that I don't bother them.

If someone is honestly bothered they'll probably tell you, and they should understand if you apologize for not realizing. (Again, I hope I don't sound like I think I'm an expert in social interactions or psychology.)

 

[Saylor]

I'm terrified of bothering people, too. That's usually part of my problem. I feel like they probably have someone else they would rather be talking to right now. That and I feel like what I say doesn't really matter. I have to be assertive to get people's attention and keep it. (Which I hate since I'm normally really passive.)

That means calling people out if they (frequently) ignore me or visibly show lack of interest instead of responding/explaining that they don't want to talk or something. I don't do that very often though, which means I'll try talking to that person less, which is usually what leads to distance. Maybe not the most efficient or mature way of going about it but I get tired of trying my best for people who don't want to return any effort. :/ Of course some people could feel the same way about me, because I sometimes over-analyze my behavior for no reason and purposefully distance myself a bit to avoid looking clingy, so that I don't bother them.

If someone is honestly bothered they'll probably tell you, and they should understand if you apologize for not realizing. (Again, I hope I don't sound like I think I'm an expert in social interactions or psychology.)

I'm always really blunt with people but it may not come across that way cause I'm really lenient I guess you could say. I don't know how to word it, I just get along with lots of different types of personalities. I wouldn't have any problem with straight up asking someone if they don't wanna talk to me, but I can't really say I'd wanna be told that, so I avoid it. I really shouldn't but you pretty much summed up how I feel about it. I wouldn't wanna bother anyone.

I can't blame you for distancing yourself from people who don't return any effort, that can be pretty annoying.

 

[Aradai]

Feeling really down and mopey today. But I just replayed Kirby's Epic Yarn, and that made me feel a bit more better.

 

[marzipanmermaid]

I hate how my obsessive thoughts won't even cut me some slack during good ol' alone time with the boyfriend.
Like, god, can't you just give me a break at least during this one thing? Don't take that away from me.
I had a good day; don't ruin it. Just let me get a drink, get in bed, and play some ACNL. Okay? Cool beans.

 

[CookingOkasan]

about to pass out but can't
*pizza emoji* *pint glass emoji*

 

[Zeiro]

i don't feel good and i'm going on a trip tomorrow

 

[Sanaki]

I hate how my obsessive thoughts won't even cut me some slack during good ol' alone time with the boyfriend.
Like, god, can't you just give me a break at least during this one thing? Don't take that away from me.
I had a good day; don't ruin it. Just let me get a drink, get in bed, and play some ACNL. Okay? Cool beans.

Just remember I'm here for you if you wanna shoot me a PM. I'll listen.

 

[Izzy Reincarnated]

A poster. They posted on this page....