Is Not Wanting To Date Transpeople Transphobic?

[RhinoK]

I see way too many conflicting points of view on this, so i decided to make a thread to see people's reasonings and possibilities

 

[Mariah]

Probably.

 

[Fantasyrick]

No if you don't wanna you don't have to
there is a difference between hating trans people and not wanting to date them lol

 

[DarkDesertFox]

I hope today this thread has a more civil discussion. I don't think that's being transphobic at all. Everyone has their preferences. While I will respect and treat someone who is trans as any other person, I would prefer not to date someone who is trans.

 

[Dinosaurz]

No, not at all
I wouldn't wanna date a man who used to be a woman but that doesn't make me transphobic.

 

[oath2order]

I prefer ****. Lady parts are not something I'm into. I don't think I could date someone with lady parts.

 

[Manah]

You have no obligation to date anyone, so no.

 

[SoftFairie]

No, that just means you're not attracted to them ._.

 

[Nightmares]

"I don't want to date someone really tall"

"HEIGHTPHOBIC!!!1!11"

 

[Isabella]

no. wouldn't that mean you're pansexual if you're open to dating all genders including trans? not everyone is into that so it's just a matter of preference.
It's kind of like saying you are strictly lesbian and wouldn't date a guy ever, etc.

 

[Matramix]

No. But I feel like it would be different if you WERE dating someone transgender and didn't know until later in the relationship and then broke up with them because of it? Idk

 

[LethalLulu]

No. But I feel like it would be different if you WERE dating someone transgender and didn't know until later in the relationship and then broke up with them because of it? Idk

You gotta think that the trans person was lying about being trans to date said person, so it's a double sided coin. I've heard of that happening.

@ op, I don't think it's transphobic. I am pansexual, so I will date whoever I am attracted to, and that can be anyone.

 

[Rose]

No, but going around and saying "I'd never date someone who is trans" is insensitive and could be seen as that. As long as you aren't outwardly projecting it for no reason, you're allowed to be attracted to who you're attracted to.

 

[Beardo]

Nah, it's kinda like if I didn't want to date someone of a specific gender. Nothing against them as people, but I have a preference.

 

[EtchaSketch]

I'd date anybody haha
Guys, girls, trans
Panromantic (oops) as heck


But hey, that long list of people lurking this thread are lurking only because they know that topics like this could cause drama. Just be careful!

 

[Red Cat]

There is nothing wrong with not wanting to date someone who is transgender. No one has the right to tell you who to date / not to date just like you have no right to tell someone else who to have a relationship with.

 

[Halloqueen]

I'm asexual, so I can't really speak to the whole attraction aspect.

That said, if you find the transperson attractive, like their personality, and generally just think they're a great person that you'd like to date and maybe marry someday, the fact that they were once the opposite biological sex shouldn't really matter. Who they are at present and in the future is what should be important, as that is who they truly feel they are.

It comes down to individuals and their biases and prejudices, but I can't help but feel that it is a bit questionable that it should be an issue if the person fits the rest of your criteria for a potential mate and someone refuses just because the person is trans.

 

[kayleee]

No it's definitely not transphobic

 

[Acruoxil]

It's called having a preference.

 

[Dinosaurz]

You gotta think that the trans person was lying about being trans to date said person, so it's a double sided coin. I've heard of that happening.

@ op, I don't think it's transphobic. I am pansexual, so I will date whoever I am attracted to, and that can be anyone.

Wait does that mean your attracted to pans?
Okay bad pun
I'll leave now...