Lately I've been been feeling kinda down. One of the things I've been sad about is my looks. I just feel, I don't know kinda ugly. I feel like If I was prettier more people would like me.
Even if you are ugly, there are people more ugly than you. Be thankful you're not them!
And yes, don't bother caring what people think about you. Just be yourself and you'll find friends and be happy.
telling yourself that you're not beautiful is one of the most toxic and damaging things you can do to yourself. it may seem like something small, and it may seem like it's not a big deal because everyone in the world is unhappy with at least some aspect of their appearance, but over time this constant lack of self-confidence can be really really detrimental!
the first thing to recognize is that everybody gets insecure. think of runway models; they don't wake up every morning and think they're gorgeous, even if they are. believe it or not, they probably look in the mirror and criticize themselves in the same terrible way that you and i and pretty much everybody does.
it's so so so so important not to compare yourself to other girls. that attitude can totally ruin your life, and i'm really not exaggerating. this whole issue of feeling ugly is suuuuper close to home for me so it is really really really important that i get through to you: you're absolutely fine the way you are! i know it's easy for other people to say 'you're beautiful just how you are' but it really is true!!!
it's nonsense that people would like you better if you were prettier, that's just not at all true. besides, being a generally nice and happy person to be around actually makes you prettier, and that's the honest truth. people who have good personalities are more attractive in general and are perceived as more attractive by the people around them; so you don't need to worry!!
if you can do one thing for me today, i want you to sit in front of the mirror and actually verbally tell yourself that you are so so pretty and that you are a hot babe okay it sounds super silly but if you do it often enough you'll start to believe it and see it for yourself
honestly, it's up to you to decide for yourself that you are totally gorgeous (which you are!) and once you make that decision and begin to believe it, nobody can stop you
please don't worry about how you look, you're not in the slightest bit ugly! the only ugly thing about you is the attitude you have towards your own appearance, and that can so easily be changed for the better!!! if it helps to boost your confidence, maybe you could look up some make-up tutorials on youtube and see if you can find one you like. i always feel better about myself when i'm all dolled up, even if it doesn't actually make much of a difference to my face
honestly, please please don't let yourself get into a slump about this, i've wasted so many years of my life beating myself up and punishing myself because i couldn't see how pretty i actually am, and i would never want you to go through the same thing
chin up!
I understand your struggle. Sometimes, it's really hard not to care what other people think and what other people tell you. But what you have to remember is that you're giving them the satisfaction of making you feel miserable about yourself. They don't deserve that and they don't deserve the time of day from you if you get treated that way.
I've been there and I know what you're going through. Even my "friends" all through my school years bullied me and made fun of my looks and my face. It takes time and effort to get passed viewing yourself so negatively, but you have to give it that time and effort to achieve anything. And I can tell you that it's one hundred percent worth it. Don't let other people poison you or your opinion of yourself. Their hearts are ugly, and that's much worse than not having a gorgeous face. The people in your life that matter are going to care about what's on the inside and your personality---that's what really counts and what really matters. Everyone is beautiful, but some of us need to get the courage to look inside and see it for ourselves. We're all special and unique and no one can take that away from us---unless we let them.
Don't let them. They can't win if you don't let them win. And I can guarantee that there will always be people who love you and appreciate you for who you are. Always. Once upon a time, I used to think myself an exception to that. But that's a way of consoling and pitying ourselves. If you want to move forward, you have to learn to accept and love yourself for the person you are.
Okayokayokayokay, I know how you feel. You honestly need to get comfortable in your own skin because, let's face it, you're gonna be stuck with it until the life-clock stops ticking.
First of all, people say you shouldn't change. This is very true in some ways, but there's times when it's okay to change and that's if it's for the right reasons. Change for you, and only you. If you're changing yourself because other people don't like your aesthetics or personality, then screw them. Do you live to please them? No. Or at least you shouldn't.
I'll also point out that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Honestly, I can go to a busy shopping centre; scope the area and not pick out a single person who I'd class as ugly. That might just be my own mind-set, but unless you look like this:
I've grown up with my self-esteem to the floor, and I'm still working on it myself.
By the way, just think, looks don't last forever. You could be a volcano, but one day the wrinkles will come out and the age will start to show a bit more. If people just like you for your looks, then they won't stick around when that happens. Personality can stay beautiful forever if you let it. So really, it means that you'll be keeping the friends who love you for you.
Trust me, you're beautiful. Don't worry what others think. They don't mean anything to you. They are not going to be around you forever. Be yourself babe <3
No one is ugly imo, everyone is beautiful in their own way. It doesn't exactly have to be physical but most people have tons of attractive things about themselves that they don't realise.
On the other hand, I just feel like I don't have a...face. Not literally, it's weird to describe, but I feel like I just have a normal face that could blend in with anything, I don't have a look about me, I'm just...me.
Meh, I guess that could be considered as feeling ugly. There are days I feel ugly but mostly I'm grateful I have nice cheekbones and a square jawed face, that sort of thing.
Sucks when I see how skinny I am though, especially when you get poked in the ribs and you can feel it going straight through to your internal organs
It's completely normal to have days where you're like, "ugh, do I seriously look like THAT." but don't let it get you down to the point where it depresses you! We are our own worst critics and we do it daily. Take a deep breath and tell yourself that you're not only beautiful, but you're unique. There's no one else like you - and that in itself is a beautiful thing!
I'm going through the same problem. I find it really hard to look in the mirror and be satisfied with what looks back at me. Especially when I've been put down and made fun of since grade school. What people say shouldn't make me feel any different about myself, but it does. I always get the, "who cares what they say, just love yourself". I really try to love myself, but no one will really let me.
What I try to do is wear clothes that make me feel good about myself and stay away from negativity. And if someone is rude to me, I try to laugh it off for the time being. It helps for a while, but it's hard when the thoughts always come creeping back. It isn't always easy, but it helps. I hope you realize your true beauty, because everyone has it.
While I've never really been bullied on my looks, I have a severe lack of confidence in my self image so I tend to call myself hideous quite alot, even tho women and men (woo~) tend to call me cute!
Although I'm pretty sure you're not ugly at all, the only thing you could really say that's "ugly" is your attitude to yourself, but thankfully that stuff isn't permanent since when you accept yourself and your looks, you'll be feelin' ace.
Thing is that as other people have said, the majority of people will have something about their appearance they don't like, but ironically most people that they'll talk to probably won't even notice or care about the feature they're worried about. You'll often find that people who bully people is because they feel dissatisfied with their own appearance and do so to make themselves feel better about their own "bad" appearance, so don't feel that people bully you simply because you are (or rather they think you're) ugly.
Your physical appearance doesn't necessarily have to be "good" to be likable, sure it might play a small part, but even if you are what some people would define as ugly, you can still be well-liked because of who you are, not because of what you look like - to many people, negativity will make you far more unattractive than from having a big nose, being fat or thin or whatever else you feel makes you ugly will. You'd be surprised how much likable thinking and acting positively can make you, and even smiling at people.
If people do judge you based on your appearance then you're probably best not involved with them anyway unless you want to fall into the same behaviour of assigning people worth based on their appearance.
if people are honestly bullying you about your looks, then that says a lot more about them than it does you. it shows they're definitely insecure about something. just try to always keep in mind that beauty is an opinion, not a fact and that there's only one you out there, and there is going to at least be someone out there that thinks the sun shines from your butt, so screw the right now because it isn't going to last forever.
Beauty is just an idea contrived by the media and businessmen who want you to buy their products so you'll feel how you already should, or something like that. My advice is to fake it till you make it. If you pretend you feel like you're the prettiest person alive eventually you'll think it's true and you can say adios to that bad attitude and the people who feed off of it.
Everyone has something they dont like about themselves even if they dont admit it. Beauty is different for everyone, but remember beauty isnt all about physical appearance. The phrase its whats on the inside that counts, is in fact true. Someone may not be beautiful to societys standards, but their heart and mindset is something that can them be beautiful. Another thing to remember is that society has weird beauty standards, and a great majority of people dont fit the mold. And thats okay. Forget everyone else. Heck. Say goodbye to the haters, and bullies and focus on you. If they're spending all their time trying to bring you down then that means in some way that youre above them. I know first hand how much a bullys words can hurt, but someday that person will be totally irrelevant to your life. I promise.Everyday give yourself at least one complement. Looking pretty fierce that day? Tell yourself that! Tell yourself "DANG! I look fierce today!", or if youre feeling pretty that day tell yourself that! Like others have said, fake it until you make it!
But most of all, dont be afraid to be you because all it will do is attract genuine people who actually care about you and want to be your friend
It's funny, I used to feel really ugly and still do from time to time, even though objectively I can see I'm not. If people want to bring you down, they will find a way to do it and after hearing negative things over and over again, you can start to believe them. People at school were really nasty to me. They'd make fun of me for my success in sport and school and pick on me for minor flaws in my appearance such as a couple of moles I have on my face. I wish I'd realised back then that there was never anything wrong with me, it was them that had the problem because it really used to get to me and destroyed my self confidence.
Just don't call yourself ugly. It's the worst thing you can do to yourself. I know it's hard because I know how just one negative comment hurts, even if you were to get 100 compliments that day. Focus on doing things that make you feel good about yourself and don't even give the bullies the time of day.
