Do you plan to have children or be childfree?

Do you plan to have children or be childfree?

  • I plan to have children

    Votes: 113 51.8%
  • I plan to be childfree

    Votes: 105 48.2%

  • Total voters
    218
um i feel like the only one here who'd rather have my own biological kids..
Adopting one would be great, but I feel there's something special about creating your own child with the person you love (not that I've found that person yet), so yeah I'm a bit selfish that way

That's a perfectly valid reason to want to have your own kids!
I myself would just rather adopt. But there's nothing wrong with wanting your own either.
 
um i feel like the only one here who'd rather have my own biological kids..
Adopting one would be great, but I feel there's something special about creating your own child with the person you love (not that I've found that person yet), so yeah I'm a bit selfish that way

I voted a long while ago, but I think I'm in between.

It depends for me, really. Having a kid wouldn't be horrible, but I'm sure it wouldn't be that easy, yeah? That being said, I would rather adopt a child.

Also, I don't really think that's selfish. A lot of people have their own biological children, and I think that that's a valid reason.
 
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ugh... i really don't ever want to settle down like that, sounds TRES boring. but i suppose i probably will.
 
I despise toddlers but they can be pretty cool after 6 if raised properly. There's a very real motherhood wage penalty in 'murrica and I don't want some crotch spawn interfering with my earning potential. Also the thought of morning sickness and labor alone is enough to make me want to get my tubes tied.

But chances are if I can find the perfectly right person I probably will anyway and everyone will suffer.
 
To be honest, I never wanted kids until I fell in love with my current partner. Right now we are not ready to have kids but I would like to have kids with him when I'm older and more money to invest in my child's life. It's entirely selfish but I want to see a kid that looks like the both of us. Plus my husband would make a great dad and I wouldn't want to deprive him of that experience.
 
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I want to birth one, and adopt another. It was always my plan to adopt from Africa, but that seems to be less likely of a thing that could happen. That's alright, I don't mind adopting from within my own country. I think it's almost...unfair to want kids when there are so many that don't have loving parents and get lost in the system.
 
I don't want kids, ever
my mom wants grandkids but uh mom there's a reason you have two kids, ahaha

i'll take care of other people's kids; i actually like kids, but i just cannot see me raising one

though I do have names ready
 
No kids for me, unless my future partner (if I have one) can convince me otherwise.

I'm not interested in being pregnant or giving birth. Maybe I'd adopt if I were to ever have children.

My sister asked me one time hypothetically if I would be a surrogate mother for her if she were ever unfit to carry a child and I told her no. She was actually a little offended, saying she would do it for me if the roles were reversed. I told her that's great, but I wouldn't ask her to do so. I think if you're going to go through all that trouble to have a child, there a children out there who are already born who are waiting for families.
 
Nope. No way. I'd be a horrible parent first of all...anytime I ever think about hypothetically having kids it's usually in regards to some sort of experiment or mind game, and that's completely irresponsible so.

Plus kids get on my nerves...like I'm fine with them for maybe a few minutes but they require constant attention and it's so annoying. I can't do that. And they're a lot of money, too...having a kid would prevent me from going places and buying things I want. People probably see that as selfish, but I don't really care. It's my life, and I'd rather not spend my time or money on another little human. There's also the fact that I'm terrified at the idea of pregnancy and childbirth.

So one day, if I'm ever with someone and they want kids (and manage somehow to convince me?), it'd have to be adoption. Or like fostering an older kid would be cool, too, I guess. But biologically, no way. That'd be a definite deal breaker in a relationship. There's absolutely no settling on that.
 
Nope. I don't have that what motherly instinct feeling? Who knows maybe I might change my mind. I still feel like I'm young, but honestly even when I was a child I never liked other children.
 
Having a child seems ideal, but I don't plan to have one any time soon (maybe when I'm in my mid 40's or so).
Also want to have a stable career in something I love before focusing on building a family.
 
I would love to have a pair of twins of my own and adopt two more who need homes. I have problems with sound (anything annoys me rather quickly) but I've been around my niece and nephews and its a lovely thing to care for them and help them grow. Sadly it will be slightly difficult because of my sexuality, so having children will be pricey for me :P But I would only do this once I have a stable job and home to house all of them and our pets, and maybe a supporting girlfriend by my side.
 
Childfree. Not in a relationship, never will be(probably).
 
Even though I' m really good with kids I plan to not have any of my own. I don't want to pass on my learning disabilities from my moms side and the mental health issues from my fathers side.
 
Good thing most of the parents of the users who posted in this thread didn't share their ways of thinking with the ones their offsprings have now, otherwise this thread would've received a lot less replies.
 
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