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oop sorrie if this is such an odd subject, but lately i've been feeling sad for a couple of weeks now and i'm considering on going to talk to my school psychologist. I tried talking to my friends and all but its like idk they're really not trying to help i guess???? like when i try to talk to them they just ignore my message or just send me a sad smiley face /: BUT anyways back on the topic of school psychologist, I was wondering if you guys have ever gone to one and if they actually helped?? atm i'm quite scared on going bc some of the problems are relationship stuff and outside of school problems and im scared they wont listen to it nor give me advice on what to do x:

anyways answers are appreciated thank you.

edit: i guess another question i have is that can school psychologists like somewhat help you with relationship stuff?? like give advice idk :|
 
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I would definitely say to give your school psychologist a chance if talking to your friends isn't working out. Worst case scenario is that you don't find that very helpful either, but there's really nothing to lose either way y'know?? If you do have a few sessions with whatever psychologist or counsellor your school has but you don't feel any better afterwards, maybe ask them to point you towards some other mental health professionals in the area? That's what I did, but I live in Ireland and I'm sure we have fairly different school and mental health services from you guys over there. Still worth a shot though. Best of luck!
 
I used my school psychologist to ditch class. They don't really help though trust me. Who wants to listen to a teenager's angst and depression when they have their own problems to deal with? And it's not odd at all. If I were you I would talk to my older siblings or mom about it cuz you know they actually care, unlike your friends.
 
My tutor / form teacher sent some counselor woman to come talk to me lmao
I had a friend issue 2 years ago, and for some reason my tutor thought I was troubled by it so much that I needed to talk with this student support woman?? Like, I was upset for a few months those year ago but I'm fine now......? =_______= I know she was only looking out for me...but...it seems weird and random to think I have an issue

The student support woman was nice, but she kept quizzing me about things I wasn't comfortable with answering, a random example being why my hair was over my face. I've been doing that for a few months now as I'm kinda embarrassed about my face lmaoo... If I said that though, she'd think I'd have a whole other problem.

I found the whole thing rather embarrassing, and I don't like talking one on one. I felt there was too much pressure on me to answer, and I'm not just going to pour out my feelings to some random person
Especially because I don't even have a major issue that I need "support" with :/

However, to answer the question, if you think it would help and you definitely have a problem you want support with, go for it ^^ it really depends on you and your issue I guess
 
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Radda said:
I used my school psychologist to ditch class. They don't really help though trust me. Who wants to listen to a teenager's angst and depression when they have their own problems to deal with? And it's not odd at all. If I were you I would talk to my older siblings or mom about it cuz you know they actually care, unlike your friends.
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If i could talk to my older sibling or mom I would, but sadly i'm not that close to my mom or older sibling so its a bit too uncomfortable to talk to them about my relationship stuff and whatnot
 
I got very unlucky with my school psychologists they were not professional at all but that's just because of where I live you should definitely give them a try! I know what that's like just to get a sad smiley face when it feels like you just poured your heart out if you ever want to talk to me I'll be here!!
 
if you're looking for advice that your friends don't seem to be able to give you, your school psych is probably a good choice. I'm assuming you mean high school? They have special training on how to handle and properly advise someone of that age on a range of subjects (yes, including relationships, though depending on your age they may try to steer you away from certain things like sex or other things that are more geared towards an "adult" relationship.) They can probably help you better in that department, given that they're older and have more experience (generally) with that type of thing.

also keep in mind that if they determine you are exhibiting certain signs of depression/anxiety/etc, they may contact your parents and suggest that you go see a psychiatrist to get a diagnosis (if you haven't had one already) just as a precaution. however, this isn't necessarily a bad thing, as something like that could help you on the path to recovery if you do, in fact, suffer from something like that :) just keep in mind, the school shrink is there to help! just be open and honest about your feelings.
 
^ yeah also if you are worried that they will tell your parents ask beforehand what wluld make them have to contact your parents.
 
I agree that you should see your school psychologist because it can't hurt and I also think you should protect yourself if you fear your problem might be brought up to your parents against your wishes. Unfortunately as a minor your psychologist and teachers can and will make that decision and are actually trained to do so in certain situations.

Is there any other adult/older peer that you trust enough to share this problem with? If nothing else you can always make up a fake profile somewhere that's meant to give advice and pose your problem there and see what people say to you. Of course you might get a bunch of trolls who try to bring you down but just be aware of that and try not to let it get to you. Hopefully someone will read what you say and have advice for you.

If you're comfortable with it you could always make a blog on this site regarding your problem and see what advice people give you. There are a lot of younger people here but there are plenty of older people too who might have some good advice for you.
 
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I agree that you should see your school psychologist because it can't hurt and I also think you should protect yourself if you fear your problem might be brought up to your parents against your wishes. Unfortunately as a minor your psychologist and teachers can and will make that decision and are actually trained to do so in certain situations.

Is there any other adult/older peer that you trust enough to share this problem with? If nothing else you can always make up a fake profile somewhere that's meant to give advice and pose your problem there and see what people say to you. Of course you might get a bunch of trolls who try to bring you down but just be aware of that and try not to let it get to you. Hopefully someone will read what you say and have advice for you.

If you're comfortable with it you could always make a blog on this site regarding your problem and see what advice people give you. There are a lot of younger people here but there are plenty of older people too who might have some good advice for you.
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well i mean, the psychologist is there to help the kids so i dont think they should avoid seeing them. (not saying u said that but your 2nd paragraph kinda implies it idk) the certain situations that have to be reported by law are things like suicidal thoughts, if theres a risk youll hurt yourself or others, if youre taking drugs etc. the psychologist shouldnt tell the parents about just feeling sad without the consent of the kid. obviously there are bad psychologists that suck at their job but hopefully the school psychologist isnt one of them
 
Do school psychologists actually exist? Psychology is an entirely different field to counselling, as they deal with the inner workings of the brain and psychological factor, I couldn't call a school counsellor a 'psychologist' unless they really said they were. Most of the ones in my area are full of ****, I have a problem with being touched and I break down when people go to grab me. I'm having difficulties with school phobia so I was pretty distraught, I stood in the hallway the whole time as nobody was letting me leave EVEN THOUGH ONE OF THE TERMS WAS THAT I WOULD BE ALLOWED TO LEAVE IF IT WAS TOO MUCH. So anyway, this ***** goes to G R A B me and I got so freaked out I left the school lololol. Most school support things like that are children's counsellors that specialise in helping young people. They can be helpful but don't expect them to do the job a qualified counsellor or mental health nurse would do if you need that. oki anyway.


If you feel like it can help you, go for it. Your friends don't seem very 'friendly' to me. You could even ask the school psychologist about that. Telling them how you feel about the way they ignore you can help you feel better, they should be there for you and offer advice when you feel low because that's what friends are for. Counsellors they have in school are often there to help kids and adolescents with their worries, so you could ask about anything. Sexual health, relationships, drugs, depression, anything. If they didn't listen to you or give you advice, they wouldn't be doing their job.

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well i mean, the psychologist is there to help the kids so i dont think they should avoid seeing them. (not saying u said that but your 2nd paragraph kinda implies it idk) the certain situations that have to be reported by law are things like suicidal thoughts, if theres a risk youll hurt yourself or others, if youre taking drugs etc. the psychologist shouldnt tell the parents about just feeling sad without the consent of the kid. obviously there are bad psychologists that suck at their job but hopefully the school psychologist isnt one of them
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Taking drugs isn't something to be reported to the authorities. If you were selling them to people in school, they would have to do something, but they normally call your parents (IF YOU LET THEM, that's always a thing. If you're not comfortable with them calling your parents they won't) or try to find you help via an organisation outside of the school. The only times they can legally report you are if you pose a threat to yourself or other people. If you're doing drugs or you know someone who is and you tell them, they might say "I need to report this", but they can get fired for that.

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Don't get discouraged by crazy school counsellor stories. You never really know unless you try it. If it goes horribly and they're a miserable cow, stab them calmly leave and stop going and/or report it to your school's governing body.
 
Im sure they could help you with any problem you are facing. It's worth a try cause they're free and right there. ^^
 
forestyne: oh okiedokie it might be different in different places but the school psychologist at my school abd my psychologist have both said that they have to let your parents know if you take heavy drugs so idk
also school policies may vary, like ob my school youre suspended if they suspect youre on drugs so i think the school psychologist could/would report it But it differs from school to school.
 
I've had friends who had really positive experiences with school counselors who helped them a whole lot. And it's confidential unless it's something they think will cause harm to you or others, so that's nice. I've only ever had a real therapist and she was god awful so I can't talk from good experiences. But they CAN help. I don't think they'd have a problem discussing relationship issues they are pretty free to talk about anything with you I am pretty sure.
 
Taking drugs isn't something to be reported to the authorities. If you were selling them to people in school, they would have to do something, but they normally call your parents (IF YOU LET THEM, that's always a thing. If you're not comfortable with them calling your parents they won't) or try to find you help via an organisation outside of the school. The only times they can legally report you are if you pose a threat to yourself or other people. If you're doing drugs or you know someone who is and you tell them, they might say "I need to report this", but they can get fired for that.
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Taking drugs actually would have to be reported if it's regarding a child under 18 in this country (UK). That is what we are legally expected to do. As it's a safeguarding/child protection issue we would have to report it and take further action with an investigation. We can get in an awful lot of trouble for not doing so. We would certainly never be fired for working to protect a child. For failure to protect them and act on information, we could be (and should be) fired for that.
It's different confidentiality rules for children than for adults to ensure that they are kept safe. You can't just ignore things that put them at risk.

Anyway, on topic, I can't see it doing any harm to at least try and speak to them. It's the same with anything, some people are better at what they do than others so you might find yourself talking to somebody who does absolutely nothing to help and shouldn't be in the job. In the school I work in at least I know if a child ever came to me to speak about their problems I would do my best for them.
 
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More times than not if you say something to them thats alarming and poses a threat to you or someone elses safety and well being, they will report it to your parents and you dont have a choice. If you're just talking about something like friends being jerks then probably wont, but if you mention hurting yourself or your friends somewhere in the conversation, they have to tell your parents or school officials. It's a law where I live at least so I wouldn't expect it to be much different. If you're concerned about your parents being involved then just keep calm and whatever.

They're good to talk to otherwise but they may not be able to help much if at all, if you mention how bad your friends are then they may recommend you to get new ones or to avoid them all together.
 
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Taking drugs actually would have to be reported if it's regarding a child under 18 in this country (UK). That is what we are legally expected to do. As it's a safeguarding/child protection issue we would have to report it and take further action with an investigation. We can get in an awful lot of trouble for not doing so. We would certainly never be fired for working to protect a child. For failure to protect them and act on information, we could be (and should be) fired for that.
It's different confidentiality rules for children than for adults to ensure that they are kept safe. You can't just ignore things that put them at risk.

Anyway, on topic, I can't see it doing any harm to at least try and speak to them. It's the same with anything, some people are better at what they do than others so you might find yourself talking to somebody who does absolutely nothing to help and shouldn't be in the job. In the school I work in at least I know if a child ever came to me to speak about their problems I would do my best for them.
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The UK education system is doing **** all, people were selling weed at my old school lol. I talked to my school counsellor about drugs and she did absolutely nothing. One of my old friends bought a Stanley blade in school and threatened someone with it, I told her and she didn't do ANYTHING. It's frustrating. Safeguarding doesn't include drugs or alcohol, to the extent of my knowledge on it. (At least at the schools I've been to)

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Like I said, there's no harm in going.
 
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I do highly recommend you visit your school psychologist / counselor. I visited mine whilst I was in my last year of secondary school and it really helped. She was such a nice lady and I always felt at ease. It's nice just being able to talk to someone who is external to your home environment and away from people that you know, so you can tell them things without fearing that someone else will find out or knowing they could be biased, etc. But like what other people said, the only time the counselor would tell someone anyone else any information would be if you were going to cause yourself harm or someone else harm, etc. If you're talking about issues relating to depression or anxiety or other mental health issues that necessarily aren't "dangerous" to yourself then they won't tell anyone else, unless you would actually ASK them to. I also loved my school counselor because her office was like a secret hide-out den under a staircase by the top of the school, so there was always a chill and calming atmosphere. I remember she had like a huge sofa with blankets and cushions on, the walls had dream catchers on and it was painted like a sea blue, and it always smelled so fresh in there. Sounds so random for me to say but honestly I always felt at ease when I was there. Everyone has a different experience with their counselor though, however, so try to go in without any pre-conceived thoughts. Go in with an open mind. If it works well for you, then great! But if not, then there are other options out there for you to explore. :')
 
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The UK education system is doing **** all, people were selling weed at my old school lol. I talked to my school counsellor about drugs and she did absolutely nothing. One of my old friends bought a Stanley blade in school and threatened someone with it, I told her and she didn't do ANYTHING. It's frustrating. Safeguarding doesn't include drugs or alcohol, to the extent of my knowledge on it. (At least at the schools I've been to)

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Like I said, there's no harm in going.
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I work in a school and have done so for 10 years now and drugs and alcohol have always been under child protection and safeguarding. So she really shouldn't have been doing that job as she wasn't doing it properly. That's something that really winds me up, they shouldn't be in that role if they can't do it right.
It's a shame that not every school does their best, just as not every teacher or member of staff should be in the job. Which is why so many at risk children get missed completely because nobody bothered. In my school, if we came by information a child was using drugs as we have done before, there would be an investigation and a report at the absolute mimnimum
 
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