"You are mine, I won't let you go!" Romantic or not?

[Kinoko]

Depends on the relationship and the context but in most cases that's a red flag for an abuser

 

[Llust]

that sounds sweet and all, but im not that type of a romantic person at all. the most i can handle is an 'i love you' or being called babe..but anything else is just cringeworthy. it physically hurts when i read texts between a couple like 'love you boobo bear <3,' 'luv u to sweetcakes *insert various pink emojis* like no. that stuff sounds like the crap i see in cheesy movies and im not trying to judge anyone specifically, but this is just how i see it. luckily, ive only gone out with guys who prefer casual convos over the nicknames and everything so i didnt have to deal with any of that bc they felt the same way about those things xD like im not saying im against romantic things in general, but the generic things like fancy dates that cost over $50 are just not my thing. id rather just stay home with my significant other and watch netflix and binge our lives out tbh

i think i accidentally got off topic..but yeah i have negative thoughts about that line. sounds like something an overly romantic guy or abusive boyfriend would say

 

[Cinn_mon]

At first im like yea k that's fine but then I stopped and was like, "wait no" I don't like the tone of ownership in that no matter what part of relationship you're in because I feel like it should be an equal give and take from each other and having one be dominant in a relationship is silly

but if you like that kinda thing, go for it, because that's not my business. you do you


unless it's actually physically or mentally abusive
then it is

 

[Soigne]

I think it's very controlling and I don't like it. You don't own anyone other than yourself.

 

[ElysiaCrossing]

Yeah, it seems a bit creepy to me. but as all the others have said, it really depends on the context.

 

[Aniko]

Yeah, it seems a bit creepy to me. but as all the others have said, it really depends on the context.

One of the context given : There is someone you like but that person doesn't seem interested in you and just when another nice person seems interested in you, the first person wakes up and claims you.

Or, someone tries to get your attention but you are not ready, or already like someone else but then the person get aggressive or tries to take advantage of a weakness (might be a break-up or something like that) to play the savior and claim you.

Or, You are already dating and the person suspects you or think you suspect them to cheat or wanting to break up.

 

[emolga]

sounds like something those yandere girls would say

 

[crystalchild]

gross, i would be extremely wary of someone who said that.

possessiveness doesn't attract me in the slightest, it's creepy and mostly unhealthy. i need to be a free spirit.

- - - Post Merge - - -

if they were just being silly and saying it for dramatic effect, it could be fine - depends on their personality and the relationship in general. but if they were serious, i'm not into it.

 

[KiloPatches]

Was this fiction Literotica? Its a common trope, "You are mine" as opposed to "I'm yours". I dunno. Some women are into that.
Yeah, in real life, I could see this as sort of creepy, but I have seen "creepier things"....
In fiction, that is....
Such as a father admiring his daughter's womanly form in the moonlight realizing how grown up she had become - is that perverted?
Such as a niece, grown up, visiting her uncle she hasn't seen since she was a kid, and her uncle realizing, even fearful, that his niece was sexually attractive, coming to vacation in this new land..... fearful that other men would seduce her, that is, but yes, acknowledging her attractiveness himself. Perverted? Some would say yes.... More so, he realized she wasn't a child anymore, and when the uncle's heart was broken, he gave her a ritualistic piece of jewellery that indicated she was single and willing to marry - any man of her choosing (Not him, of course). Throughout the course of the story, she does end up falling in love with someone and marrying them. Her "vacation" is lengthened when her parents are killed back in her home province, by tyrants (who kill of any rebels to the uprising - to which her parents were).
There are crazier things.... Game of Thrones, the book series, certainly has its moments!

 

[Aniko]

Was this fiction Literotica? Its a common trope, "You are mine" as opposed to "I'm yours". I dunno. Some women are into that.
Yeah, in real life, I could see this as sort of creepy, but I have seen "creepier things"....
In fiction, that is....
Such as a father admiring his daughter's womanly form in the moonlight realizing how grown up she had become - is that perverted?
Such as a niece, grown up, visiting her uncle she hasn't seen since she was a kid, and her uncle realizing, even fearful, that his niece was sexually attractive, coming to vacation in this new land..... fearful that other men would seduce her, that is, but yes, acknowledging her attractiveness himself. Perverted? Some would say yes.... More so, he realized she wasn't a child anymore, and when the uncle's heart was broken, he gave her a ritualistic piece of jewellery that indicated she was single and willing to marry - any man of her choosing (Not him, of course). Throughout the course of the story, she does end up falling in love with someone and marrying them. Her "vacation" is lengthened when her parents are killed back in her home province, by tyrants (who kill of any rebels to the uprising - to which her parents were).
There are crazier things.... Game of Thrones, the book series, certainly has its moments!

It was mostly from light novels means for teens girls, but it's something we see in shoujo manga, and kdrama as others pointed out, romance movies etc.

As for creepier things, yes borderline incest, brother-sister complexes, abuse in all forms are common. I think most of people separate fiction from reality, like I like samurais and swords, but I don't want to see anybody using them on people in real life.
When it comes to romance though, it seems like the line between fiction and reality is thinner for some. There are scenes that may appear "hot" for the stories and characters but if you look at them rationally is mostly abuse, at least for me.
I wouldn't find hot for instance if someone I barely know grabs my arm tightly enough to let their mark, kisses me forcefully and then, telling me that I belong to them and they won't let someone else have me or something along those lines...
It's creepy as hell, but in romance it happens all the time and plenty of people go "kyaaaaa" "awwww" and whatelse. I can understand it's part of fantasy, no problem with that, but when people wish for that to happen in real life and find that really romantic...I'm skeptical, ok maybe for some people it's their thing but do everybody wish for it to happen? Or find it romantic in real life?

 

[Esphas]

very creepy. people arent possessions and in a relationship i certainly wouldnt want to be treated like one. i dont want to be 'theirs'. its like saying 'i own you, so you have no will outside of my own'. id run as fast as i could lmao

 

[Aestivate]

Depends on how the person says it. It can be very romantic but if not said playful it can sound pretty creepy

 

[pandapples]

If my bf said that to me right now I would think it's cute. Because of how I imagined he would say it... but if he's serious then that would be something to be concerned about. Definitely not romantic either way.

 

[epona]

'you're mine' has always made me feel a bit queasy when i hear it but that's because i associate it with one person in particular


but yeah i agree 'i'm yours' is much nicer

 

[HungryForCereal]

it depends on what kind of relationship the two are in. if its like a one sided love where you dont like the other party and they say it to you, then its creepy. but if its lovey dovey relationship then its very romantic.

 

[Minerva]

I don't like the phrase, it sounds too controlling.

 

[piske]

Totes creeps. Second Minerva in that it is controlling!

 

[nerdatheart9490]

Yeah, that sounds a bit... possessive

I wouldn't want someone saying that to me. It sounds like what guys say to a woman when she's trying to leave an abusive relationship.