"You are mine, I won't let you go!" Romantic or not?

[iamnothyper]

in the context you gave i would push the guy away and slap him like wtf man. getting physical like that is a no-no, even if he said it sort of jokingly.

if you look at korean dramas they say a lot of corny and borderline creepy things and the girls all swoon. idk

 

[eggs]

to me, i find controlling behavior (only towards me) very romantic, but i kind of blame that on my crippling dependency on others to feel even an ounce of self-worth, lmao.
what the behavior should REALLY look like is abusive and controlling, like others have said.

 

[DJStarstryker]

Uh... no.

My very first boyfriend back in high school said things like this. He was a creepy, controlling, emotionally abusive type. And even after we broke up he stalked me for a while.

The worst thing he did to emotionally abuse me was I wanted to break up with him way earlier than I did. But I didn't because he would start to threaten to commit suicide and do other insane things like that.

 

[Astro Cake]

Totally creepy.

 

[Sleepi]

definitely not romantic, that is very creepy. also it implies a sense of 'ownership' (the person that would this sort of thing would be really controlling also) over a person and I really don't agree with that, no one should have ownership over anyone.

i find it to be abusive and controlling. but that's just me.

I agree with this also.

 

[cIementine]

where's the titanic option smh
it's definitely not romantic because that would imply the phrase is somewhat compassionate, caring and kind like all love should be whereas this is more possessive, abusive and controlling. it shows the person aims to be the upper-hand in the relationship rather than give their partner the basic human freedom they deserve.
however in a metaphorical sense it could insinuate they don't want to let go of someone emotionally, suggesting they feel a spark - a bond - with this person and wants their company forever. although in a physical sense, this is objectifying the person as nothing more than a prisoner who belongs to them.

 

[Knopekin]

The second half is cheesy-cute, the first half is creepy.

 

[boujee]

In your context, no.

But it overall depends. I personally like it cause well I like dominance. I love to feel love. Not in a obsessive matter or "you're mine and only mine"(cause I'm pretty sure anyone who got into a relationship believe that their significant other was the "one" and I'm pretty sure that this line has encounter you in some type of way- not in that context but along the lines).

What's mine is mines, not like oh I control this person and everything they do but this is my significant other so *** off.
"That's all me"

If you're into people who really don't give a *** then ight

 

[Sugilite]

Tbh I get bored fast

 

[DarkDesertFox]

"Your life is ogre... You're mine, and I'll never let you go."

 

[cIementine]

"Your life is ogre... You're mine, and I'll never let you go."

a poem i'm studying in school (valentine by carol ann duffy) relates to both possessive love and onions.

 

[Alienfish]

Depends on the context of the relationship the two are in.

this. and as long as they are not overly clingy about it, that's just annoying

 

[DarkDesertFox]

a poem i'm studying in school (valentine by carol ann duffy) relates to both possessive love and onions.

That is the most romantic poem I've ever heard of.

 

[Stalfos]

Possessiveness is always a turn off.

 

[MozzarellaSticks]

If it's fiction, it's hot. It's fiction, a fantasy. It's not supposed to be realistic. Hell, half their conversations would look weird and awkward in real life. No one is reading a romance novel thinking it's like real life. Real relationships and dating are awkward and messy.

In real life, it entirely depends on the context. Effecting someone so much emotionally that they say that can be hot. It's not like people mean exactly everything they say. Exaggerating is pretty common. If they actually are overly possessive, it's a problem.

 

[Aniko]

in the context you gave i would push the guy away and slap him like wtf man. getting physical like that is a no-no, even if he said it sort of jokingly.

if you look at korean dramas they say a lot of corny and borderline creepy things and the girls all swoon. idk

It can be in any context, fiction or not, jokingly or not, but in fiction like in drama or shoujo for instance the guy often say this when he thinks that the girl who he was ignoring from the beginning will end up with another guy.

Now it's a heterosexual example, but I also have a gay friend who finds it hot in fiction and totally a turn off in reality.

- - - Post Merge - - -

Uh... no.

My very first boyfriend back in high school said things like this. He was a creepy, controlling, emotionally abusive type. And even after we broke up he stalked me for a while.

The worst thing he did to emotionally abuse me was I wanted to break up with him way earlier than I did. But I didn't because he would start to threaten to commit suicide and do other insane things like that.

That's a very good example of a non healthy relationship and unfortunately in fiction, young women/men are often told that it's okay. Thanks for sharing.

- - - Post Merge - - -

In your context, no.

But it overall depends. I personally like it cause well I like dominance. I love to feel love. Not in a obsessive matter or "you're mine and only mine"(cause I'm pretty sure anyone who got into a relationship believe that their significant other was the "one" and I'm pretty sure that this line has encounter you in some type of way- not in that context but along the lines).

What's mine is mines, not like oh I control this person and everything they do but this is my significant other so *** off.
"That's all me"

If you're into people who really don't give a *** then ight

That's different for everybody I guess, some like it because it makes them feel like the person care and some other just don't.

 

[nintendofan85]

I really thought of it as cheesy.

 

[Aniko]

where's the titanic option smh
it's definitely not romantic because that would imply the phrase is somewhat compassionate, caring and kind like all love should be whereas this is more possessive, abusive and controlling. it shows the person aims to be the upper-hand in the relationship rather than give their partner the basic human freedom they deserve.
however in a metaphorical sense it could insinuate they don't want to let go of someone emotionally, suggesting they feel a spark - a bond - with this person and wants their company forever. although in a physical sense, this is objectifying the person as nothing more than a prisoner who belongs to them.

Sorry for the Titanic option, I don't really know the movie so it didn't come up to my mind.

That's a very interesting post. Yes, it's not necessarily to be taken to the first degree, but then I also wonder why not choosing better words, there are plenty of ways to tell a person that you enjoy their company and wish that to last for a long time.

 

[Ghost Soda]

I can't think of a context someone would say this in where I wouldn't be weirded out at best or disgusted at worst.

 

[Flaming_Oceans]

Umm... it depends on the context and the situation you're in, mostly.