"You are mine, I won't let you go!" Romantic or not?

[Aniko]

Hi! With some people I was discussing about romance in fiction vs reality and some, found very "manly" (because a guy in that example) and romantic a person saying to another "you are mine, I won't let you go!". Personally, in real life, I find that a bit creepy (especially in my own language) but I know that it's very romantic for other persons (whatever the gender and orientation). What about you? Do you like it or not? Do you think it's linked to cultural differences, generations or personal tastes? I would like to hear about your opinion. Thanks.


The context: The persons are not dating (yet). One hold the other tightly by the shoulders or arms, kissed them forcefully and told them they are theirs and they won't let anybody else have them, or won't let them go (not in a literal way)

Like I said in a comment, in fiction like shoujo or drama we often see the guy (in that example) saying that to the girl he was ignoring from the beginning because he thinks she will date another person.
But you can think of any context, in what context you like it and when you don't.

I also wonder why the person declaring says "you' re mine" and it's not the opposite "I'm yours"

**Also very interesting article here
http://www.animenewsnetwork.com/feature/2015-11-18/why-dangerous-anime-boys-are-all-the-rage/.95512

 

[oath2order]

Depends on the context of the relationship the two are in.

 

[Cailey]

kinda creepy, depends how it is said.
it's also a bit cheesy in my opinion - you can think it but like don't say it?

obviously if it's in a controlling way, that's a no-go for me but I guess it's cute if it's said in a joking way followed by a cute kiss or something, idek lol. it depends on the type relationship the two people are in as well as how long I guess!

not sure why it'd be cultural? maybe generation or personal tastes.

 

[Aniko]

In another group, North Americans seem to find it less romantic and more possessive than other countries, so that's why I added cultural difference.

 

[tae]

i find it to be abusive and controlling. but that's just me.

 

[GalacticGhost]

I think it's creepy and controlling, especially if the two people aren't even dating yet. Unless, of course, one of them says it jokingly.

 

[Zane]

The context: The persons are not dating yet. In the example given the guy even tried to forcefully kiss the girl, but it can be in another context.

It's already creepy (or corny) but in that context it's just terrible

 

[Twisterheart]

It sounds really creepy and controlling in my opinion.

 

[radical6]

Depends...

1) Are they dating?

If no, then this sounds creepy.

2) If they are dating, are they about to break up / is one partner unhappy?

If yes, then it's still creepy as hell.

Honestly, no one is anyone's property. It's not really romantic... I guess some people find this romantic bc omg alpha guy!! but no one should be saying that seriously. It's creepy.

I mean, unless you were like literally dying and they were saving you, I see no reason to say this.

 

[cinny]

Depends...

1) Are they dating?

If no, then this sounds creepy.

2) If they are dating, are they about to break up / is one partner unhappy?

If yes, then it's still creepy as hell.

Honestly, no one is anyone's property. It's not really romantic... I guess some people find this romantic bc omg alpha guy!! but no one should be saying that seriously. It's creepy.

I mean, unless you were like literally dying and they were saving you, I see no reason to say this.

^ Agreed with everything and the last part.
I was thinking about titanic when I read the title idk.

 

[KaydeeKrunk]

I think it depends heavily on the situation and stuff, like I can imagine like a girl going to die or fall or something and him saying that, but the whole "mine" thing really puts me off.. I don't know.

 

[Aniko]

Depends...

1) Are they dating?

If no, then this sounds creepy.

2) If they are dating, are they about to break up / is one partner unhappy?

If yes, then it's still creepy as hell.

Honestly, no one is anyone's property. It's not really romantic... I guess some people find this romantic bc omg alpha guy!! but no one should be saying that seriously. It's creepy.

I mean, unless you were like literally dying and they were saving you, I see no reason to say this.

1) No

2) Not in that context but it could be. (some ppl like that kind of drama)

Haha yes if you are dying, I guess it's okay.

I get the idea why it could be romantic for some, but I also think words are important, say that way, I think it sounds possessive even if it's not how the person truly feel. I also think that if I was saying the same thing to a guy I like, he would just run away.

- - - Post Merge - - -

I think it depends heavily on the situation and stuff, like I can imagine like a girl going to die or fall or something and him saying that, but the whole "mine" thing really puts me off.. I don't know.

In the example given, the person was somehow jealous and possessive, and for some persons it was a mark of love D:

Now we were also talking about fiction vs reality, for some it's okay as long it stays a fantasy, for some others it's also okay in real life.

 

[Fearthecuteness]

If my partner turned around and said that I'm his then I'd just leave them. Saying that someone's yours is like basically saying "I'm the dominant one here and you are my property so you don't get a say in what you want in a relationship".

 

[visibleghost]

manipulative and creepy would stay away

 

[kayleee]

Weird if the people aren't dating yet, jealousy issues if they are dating

 

[King Dorado]

1) I get the idea why it could be romantic for some, but I also think words are important, say that way, I think it sounds possessive even if it's not how the person truly feel. I also think that if I was saying the same thing to a guy I like, he would just run away.

context is everything. you're right- if a woman said that to me before we were dating or when we weren't a serious item, or after breaking up, I'd change my phone number and hire a bodyguard. but if it were whispered to me during moments of passion it wouldnt bother me, i'd even find it romantic.

 

[Shimmer]

This line can be taken sweet or creepy, depending on how it is said. I generally don't take it as "being held hostage" but more as a humourous type of thing. Though, if the person doesn't mean it as a creepy statement, there are loads of other ways to convey the message instead of using that statement.

 

[himeki]

sounds really yandere-y
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[Akira-chan]

If they aren't dating and say, they don't wanna lose a friend its still kinda creepy but sweet. If they are dating then still kinda creepy and possessive. Any other way is just no stop.

 

[Bowie]

I think it's very romantic, but I also think it's very much dependent on the circumstances. You wouldn't be comfortable if somebody who was just a friend said that, or if someone you genuinely wanted to split up from said that. If somebody you loved told you that I think it would be quite cute, actually. But not every circumstance is the same and sometimes it just comes out as being creepy.