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Would you be forgiving in this situation?
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juneau
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Is this someone you actually know, or just met through the game? I've only best friended people I know irl and if one of them took stuff from me I personally would not care, but I also can't imagine a scenario where my boyfriend or friends from college would lie to me about stealing my fake money.
If this is a stranger you only know through the game and haven't known them for very long, I'd be more wary. Either way, you know your friendship better than we do and if this is something potentially done maliciously or not.
If this is a stranger you only know through the game and haven't known them for very long, I'd be more wary. Either way, you know your friendship better than we do and if this is something potentially done maliciously or not.
Well this is going to sound obnoxious but who on Earth are you guys adding to your best friends list? They're my IRL friends personally and if this happened to me I wouldn't even think anything of it - these people are my friends...
I gotta say, adding someone to your best friends doesn't happen by accident either. If you don't actually fully trust the people on your best friends list and they're just some stranger to you, someone you'd be genuinely frustrated at for shaking your money trees, then why are they on your best friends list in the first place?
None of this excuses it, I'm just stunned the question would come up regarding best friends. If it was a total stranger then sure, unlikely to have been an 'accident', but best friends? I mean sort it out with them if they're actually someone you know and trust?
I gotta say, adding someone to your best friends doesn't happen by accident either. If you don't actually fully trust the people on your best friends list and they're just some stranger to you, someone you'd be genuinely frustrated at for shaking your money trees, then why are they on your best friends list in the first place?
None of this excuses it, I'm just stunned the question would come up regarding best friends. If it was a total stranger then sure, unlikely to have been an 'accident', but best friends? I mean sort it out with them if they're actually someone you know and trust?
i agree. only 'best friend' people you fully trust and you're sure of. best friending a stranger is just setting yourself up.
LuchaSloth
Sloth
I have to agree with Llunavale here. The "best friend" option exists for a reason. Not sure what benefit adding someone as a "best friend" would have over simply adding someone as a regular friend, if you don't fully know/trust that person. Only my brother and one of my closest IRL friends are on my "best friends" list.
That aside...I'm not really too attached to money trees. I plant them when I have the option...never more than 10k anyway. If someone accidentally stole one by digging it up, then it would have to be undergrown? They didn't know it was a money tree because it was diminutive in size? Or they just straight up shook it and stole the money? I don't know...either way, I'd be unhappy if it was the latter...but I would still be forgiving if I knew the person IRL. I'd be like "Hey...why'd you take my money tree? Care to pay me back for that?"
That aside...I'm not really too attached to money trees. I plant them when I have the option...never more than 10k anyway. If someone accidentally stole one by digging it up, then it would have to be undergrown? They didn't know it was a money tree because it was diminutive in size? Or they just straight up shook it and stole the money? I don't know...either way, I'd be unhappy if it was the latter...but I would still be forgiving if I knew the person IRL. I'd be like "Hey...why'd you take my money tree? Care to pay me back for that?"
Onederland
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Okay honest, there's too much back and forth with this.
Regardless of personal issues, colorblind-ness, etc etc - if the apology was sincere, a plan of action should've followed immediately. "Oh hey, I noticed I dug up your money tree by accident. I can come back and replant it or drop off the bells to you. Or I can mail it to you too."
Just a "Sorry." signifies that the culprit realizes their wrongful actions, but are not proactive in repairing the situation.
A "Sorry, I it happened, but I suffer from XYZ." but with no plain of action to fix the situation, is not an explanation, it's an excuse.
It's virtual currency, It's a trivial amount - so with that said, it is not the amount that matters, it is the actions and initiative to mend the situation that does. And even if this person was your IRL friend, the sentiment still stands. I don't know about you but I don't like my IRL friends making excuses either.
Regardless of personal issues, colorblind-ness, etc etc - if the apology was sincere, a plan of action should've followed immediately. "Oh hey, I noticed I dug up your money tree by accident. I can come back and replant it or drop off the bells to you. Or I can mail it to you too."
Just a "Sorry." signifies that the culprit realizes their wrongful actions, but are not proactive in repairing the situation.
A "Sorry, I it happened, but I suffer from XYZ." but with no plain of action to fix the situation, is not an explanation, it's an excuse.
It's virtual currency, It's a trivial amount - so with that said, it is not the amount that matters, it is the actions and initiative to mend the situation that does. And even if this person was your IRL friend, the sentiment still stands. I don't know about you but I don't like my IRL friends making excuses either.
have they offered to rectify the situation? pay you back at all? i can understand accidentally pressing the wrong button in the first place, especially with brain fog, but did they just...leave with the money tree and offer nothing but a "sorry"? i wouldn't accept that apology. if they were really sorry they would pay you back.
raqball
Senior Member
How does someone "accidentally" take a money tree?
I would accept their apology then promptly remove them from my best friend list..
Bells are so easy to get in this game I don't understand stealing a money tree... I just sold almost 1.7 million worth of bugs and creepy crawlers to Flick...
I would accept their apology then promptly remove them from my best friend list..
Bells are so easy to get in this game I don't understand stealing a money tree... I just sold almost 1.7 million worth of bugs and creepy crawlers to Flick...
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Tiffany
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If they apologize and give back the money/money tree than yes. the apology is appreciated but to me it's not sincere if they don't return what they took. Maybe them having a mental disorder means they don't understand that they should also return what they took. if that might be the case then I'd explain that they need to also return what they took. I don't know them and so I can't know if they will understand that they need to return it and if they don't that's another isssue. If they are family maybe you could speak to their parent/guardian and maybe they can help you. If you do forgive them and let them back in your town I would limit their access at least for a while(maybe permanently if they can't understand what they can and cannot do in ur town). Good luck
brockbrock
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If your friend has brain fog, I would try to be understanding. Imagine experiencing the worst kind of jet-lag, but all of the time. You often do things you wouldn't otherwise do. Not excusing your friend here, as I don't know them and their situation (or yours), but just want to point that out.
Maybe you could explain to them how it made you feel? If the person gave you back the money, then to me that's a sincere gesture. This could be used by you to be a learning opportunity for your friend, to teach them about what to do next time something like this happens? It also helps to know if this person is an actual friend of yours, or someone you don't know well and have only had brief interactions with? If it's someone you've cultivated a relationship with I think it's kind of brash to brush them off because of this one thing unless it becomes a pattern, but everyone has their own code of conduct.
Blueskyy
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If they were truly sorry they would make an attempt to return the money at the very least. Remove your fake friend. I had someone on my friends list take a flower because they needed it, but I don’t think they understood island etiquette. I went on a rant through text explaining they can’t do that lol.
If they returned the money, then yes, they're sorry if not... then they really aren't.
RisingSun
Senior Member
I think I would accept the apology, but then they would need to regain my trust. Until then, they get the removed from BF treatment, and can come over without the use of axe and shovel for a while.
Do tell me how someone accidentally shakes your tree, and unintentionally presses Y three times on the bell bags that dropped? I'm curious.
Would I forgive them though? Yeah, I guess. Would I keep them on best friends list? Nah.
Would I forgive them though? Yeah, I guess. Would I keep them on best friends list? Nah.
DJStarstryker
Senior Member
Color blindness is generally a problem with things are the same shape, or if positions were swapped (say for example if a traffic light suddenly had red and green swapped) away from what the person is used to. All of the fruits and the money bags are shaped differently. It doesn't matter if you're color blind. You'd be able to tell the difference.
You can choose to forgive them, but I don't know if they should be a best friend anymore. And you also might want to take the same precautions you would when trading with strangers - ie put fences around your money trees so they can't even shake them, accidentally or otherwise.
You can choose to forgive them, but I don't know if they should be a best friend anymore. And you also might want to take the same precautions you would when trading with strangers - ie put fences around your money trees so they can't even shake them, accidentally or otherwise.
Pickler
Senior Member
I really wouldn't care about 30k. If my friend needed it, they could have 300k. It's TRUE they violated your trust, so you're right to unfriend them if you want. It's completely up to you. I personally wouldn't care at all about such a minor violation.
Edit: after reading your responses, this "friend" is telling some pretty stupid lies. I'd feel insulted that they think they can lie to me. If they can't admit they just wanted the money and chose to steal, then I'd block them for insulting my intelligence. I'd only forgive them if they confessed.
Edit: after reading your responses, this "friend" is telling some pretty stupid lies. I'd feel insulted that they think they can lie to me. If they can't admit they just wanted the money and chose to steal, then I'd block them for insulting my intelligence. I'd only forgive them if they confessed.
DJStarstryker
Senior Member
I can see where you're coming from, but this is a video game. You don't "need" anything. If you really wanted to pay off your house or your bridge, or you really want to buy that item from Nook's Cranny, then just ask. I'm sure many friends would try to help out if asked. But the person took without asking. They broke trust.
Generally when people do things like that in video games, they will do it again. That's been my experience. That person may genuinely be a good person, but they would have to earn trust back. That's why I suggested removing from best friend status, but possibly forgiving them. If the person earns trust back over time, then maybe they could become a best friend with more power again.
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