Why do people ghost on a trade?

[lizardon]

So this happened to me on my birthday last month.

Someone here(with over 100 positive feedback ratings), was looking for a specific flower wreath DIY, and I told him I can help him to find it, he agreed to trade a lucky cat with me. And after a long day of work, I spent over 3 hours and found the DIY, I PM him, he said will trade on the 2nd day at 9am my time. Actually the 2nd day is my birthday, but I don't mind to do that trade, since he likes that DIY.
And on that 2nd day, I woke up early and waiting for him to get online, and sent him a PM says I'm ready to trade. And after few hours of waiting, when he got online, he didn't reply my PM, even though he was replying other's post. I kept PM him asking when to trade, he never replied back to me. After 6 hours of waiting on my birthday, I PM him said I won't hold this DIY for him, since this is just ridiculous, I just hate waiting in real life. I own companies, I never do business with timeless people.
And somehow I saw the new post that he is giving away 3 free flower wreaths, is the one I found for him. I think he found it somewhere, and never reply my PM and told me anything.

People who doesn't care about their appointments or schedules or other people's feelings, also irresponsible, they won't be successful in real life.

I haven't heard anything from him until today, no PM saying he doesn't need anymore, or any apologize of wasting my time.

I can see him posting Selling posts for ACNH, wondering if he meet someone like himself, how does he feel??

I didn't give a negative feedback to him, just want to forgive and be nice, but anyways, he wasted my time.

 

[_Rainy_]

It triggers my anxiety a little I always wonder if I did something wrong. I’m not exactly a pushover if I’m really mad I will say something, but I’m very easygoing and it’s hard to make me mad. However, if it’s a person I want to stay friendly with than I get awkward and not know what to say, so I avoid confrontation. I also have ADHD and can be forgetful so if I’ve ever ghosted someone it’s not on purpose.

 

[Le Ham]

Yeah, generally I don't hold it against people for doing things like ghosting because I can't hold others to a standard I don't trust myself to keep. Leaves me a little confused when they do it, sure, but I've been dismissed as rude enough times on account of my social anxiety or poor communication skills that it's a dirty word I refrain from applying to anyone. Of course that's one of just many reasons people ghost, but I have no reason to assume they wanted to waste my time.

Not directed at op, this is just in general, but you never get to know what just anyone is going through in their lives - you can choose to either pretend you know, or accept you don't, and however you decide to respond follows.

 

[frogslime]

Oh gosh, I don't know how people have the nerves to do that. I may be shy at times but even I will say when I want to back out of a trade/purchase.