when ur friends obviously hate u

[visibleghost]

yah does this happen to anyone else? i have a total of 4 friend, 3 of them are in one group w me and the other one is seperate. the thing is that two of the friends in the group literally don't reply for months, we've known eachother for 4 years and it's been like this for 2 or 3 years lol :I
and, like, we're writing through kik. and i know they have interent because they update their blogs and change their names/pics on kik but they never reply even tho me and the other person write in the chat every day

idk why and tbh idc anymore. i used to get sad but now i mostly get annoyed when they do answer because they'll be like "HAVE U MISSED ME!!!" and i'll be like "hhh sure" and then they'll be super upset like??? wtf??? i've tried talking to u for so long, i've been here for u all this time, but u havent replied and whenever ur back u act like i don't matter OF COURSE I'VE STOPPED CARING.
i sadly can't leave the chat beause that'd mean losing my friend that i actually speak to and like in that chat lol so i'm kinda stuck in this.

idk i just really hate specifically one of my "friends" who are like this and i needed to rant about them lol

has this happened to u? what did u do? also why do u think they hate me lol

 

[piichinu]

be aggressive and then ditch them but keep in contact with the one friend

and idk why they would hate u, tbh this happened to me. it could be that theyre jealous, they find you annoying, or they feel that you have """wronged""" them. its up to you to find out

 

[visibleghost]

be aggressive and then ditch them but keep in contact with the one friend

and idk why they would hate u, tbh this happened to me. it could be that theyre jealous, they find you annoying, or they feel that you have """wronged""" them. its up to you to find out

yeah lol but one of them probably have bpd or something like that (they've told me that) and they'd probably feel really bad if i did something like that so idk (i think they prefer leaving ppl over getting left and tbh idc about it that much, like i'm fine with them hating me or w/e) :< thankfully they rarely reply so i don't have to deal with them a lot

and yeah i guess they could feel "wronged" but tbh i've been super careful and nice and thought about literally everything i've written to them but they still hate me lol and they've never told me why

this is literally somkething they've written on their blog: "i hate th kik chat" so yah ?\_(ツ)_/?

 

[Jacob]

Some people aren't huge texters you know? I get like that all the time when I am in huge group chats.

I am currently in a group chat on instagram with like 15 of my closest friends and I haven't been active in it in months. I read it tho, and I let them know that I read it by saying hey every couple days. This is because texting really bores me and I prefer to meet and chat in person. Maybe your friends are like this too?

I suggest you make plans to meet up irl and if things don't go well, just drop em

 

[visibleghost]

Some people aren't huge texters you know? I get like that all the time when I am in huge group chats.

I am currently in a group chat on instagram with like 15 of my closest friends and I haven't been active in it in months. I read it tho, and I let them know that I read it by saying hey every couple days. This is because texting really bores me and I prefer to meet and chat in person. Maybe your friends are like this too?

I suggest you make plans to meet up irl and if things don't go well, just drop em

oh i didn't know that.. i think one of them might be like that bc they're still nice and i think they're pretty busy and awkward so?? yea
the other one probably just hates me lol

also i have met them irl but i've gotten left out a lot when the two that never reply anymore were going to meet up which really upset me (they made plans in the chat, i said ye i can come too!! and then they never said anything about it until the day they met when they were posting a ton of pictures captured "look how much fun we are havign!!" and i was literally 200 meter away from them but it was so obvious that they didn't want me there so i didn't even try LOL)

also sorry about my ranting i'm getting really annoyed whenever i think about them and ranting/kinda talking **** about them feels really nice

 

[pillow bunny]

you seem to hate your friends so just get new friends

 

[visibleghost]

you seem to hate your friends so just get new friends

i do but i'm really bad at getting new friends so it's much less of a pain to speak to ppl u already know lol

 

[Athariel]

If they hated the Kik chat thing then why do they have it and sign in to it? Sounds like they are intentionally ignoring you so that when they come back you'll be really happy to see them and boost their ego. It's childish and rude.

I would personally drop them. Basically just stop trying to talk to them online and if they try and talk with you tell them you're done with their selfishness. I'm sure they would prefer to be the one leaving instead of getting left, but everyone feels that way. If they were your friend, they would treat you like one, and they haven't.

As for the other friends you like, keep in touch with them. You don't have to be friends with everyone in the group. If they ask why you're no longer friends, tell them the truth. They will respect that and maybe do the same if they are being treated the same way.

 

[pillow bunny]

i do but i'm really bad at getting new friends so it's much less of a pain to speak to ppl u already know lol

?????

 

[visibleghost]

If they hated the Kik chat thing then why do they have it and sign in to it? Sounds like they are intentionally ignoring you so that when they come back you'll be really happy to see them and boost their ego. It's childish and rude.

I would personally drop them. Basically just stop trying to talk to them online and if they try and talk with you tell them you're done with their selfishness. I'm sure they would prefer to be the one leaving instead of getting left, but everyone feels that way. If they were your friend, they would treat you like one, and they haven't.

As for the other friends you like, keep in touch with them. You don't have to be friends with everyone in the group. If they ask why you're no longer friends, tell them the truth. They will respect that and maybe do the same if they are being treated the same way.

yeah that sounds like a good idea. i will probably do that. :>

 

[EpicGamer12]

maybe you should get friends in real life

 

[visibleghost]

maybe you should get friends in real life

lol that's not really going to happen ;;

 

[pillow bunny]

lol that's not really going to happen ;;

wtf if you don't even know these people irl there's no reason not to ditch them

 

[visibleghost]

wtf if you don't even know these people irl there's no reason not to ditch them

i'm not ditching them i have severe social anxiety and am autistic and for me that means i have the worst time getting to know people irl. also i'm not going to becom friends with people in school since most people have bullied me or at least been rude af and transphobic :> i do hang out with some ppl at lunch in school but we are not that close that i'd call them actual friends.

 

[pillow bunny]

i'm not ditching them i have severe social anxiety and am autistic and for me that means i have the worst time getting to know people irl. also i'm not going to becom friends with people in school since most people have bullied me or at least been rude af and transphobic :> i do hang out with some ppl at lunch in school but we are not that close that i'd call them actual friends.

if you're looking for internet friends then just go on tumblr and tell random people you love their blogs

 

[cIementine]

just tell them that you feel like they don't care anymore but you value your friendship and if they react nicely, continue with them. If not, drop them!

 

[visibleghost]

if you're looking for internet friends then just go on tumblr and tell random people you love their blogs

lol nah thanks i'm not actually looking for friends, just complaining about the ones i kinda have :<

 

[pillow bunny]

lol nah thanks i'm not actually looking for friends, just complaining about the ones i kinda have :<

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[Chris]

idk why and tbh idc anymore. i used to get sad but now i mostly get annoyed when they do answer because they'll be like "HAVE U MISSED ME!!!" and i'll be like "hhh sure" and then they'll be super upset like??? wtf??? i've tried talking to u for so long, i've been here for u all this time, but u havent replied and whenever ur back u act like i don't matter OF COURSE I'VE STOPPED CARING.

Well uh, sounds to me like it goes both ways. If you put across that you don't really care that they haven't spoken to you for a while then that just gives them even more reason not to bother speaking to you. If you want to continue being friends with them then someone has to be the bigger person (and it looks like that person's going to have to be you) otherwise it's just going to be awkward and cold and never get better.

 

[Jamborenium]

I had a best friend of mine ignore me cause I was depressed and her ignoring me only made my depression worse and worse eventually she told me that I was boring and that she didn't like talking to me anymore, this really stab a knife into my heart she was my best friend we've been friends since 2008 she stopped being my friend in 2012

I was always there whenever she needed me but she wasn't there when I needed her I would listen to her problems and I would help her out with them I would make her smile and laugh whenever she was feeling down, I would basically ignore all my negative feelings just to make her happy.​