What's Bothering You?

Still haven't found a different job yet. Driving 50ish mins twice a day 5 days a week is really getting old. Especially since one day last week I got stuck in traffic on the way home so 50mins quickly became 1 1/2 hours in the car (not counting my morning drive). Ugh.
 
i may have to put my cat to sleep. her health is so poor, and i don’t see that changing. she can barely walk, she can’t jump, there’s something wrong with her vertebrae, she has a heart murmur, bladder stones, she’s severely overweight and her breathing issues have returned. she is having nasty coughing fits frequently. she’s supposed to have surgery on her knees within the next 2-3 weeks, but i don’t see her surviving it. and even if it did, what would it matter? all of her other issues will still be there. the surgery may not even help her.

she’s in my room right now, and i panic every time she so much as moves her head, terrified that she’s going to start coughing. terrified that she won’t be able to breathe. she wants to be with me, and i will never deny her that, but i am so ****ing scared. and my parents keep leaving me home alone with her, knowing that if something were to happen while they’re out, i would not be able to help her.

i want to run from this so badly; hide myself in another room so that i don’t hear her coughing and gagging; pretend that it doesn’t exist. but i won’t, because i refuse to act like the coward i am — she deserves more than to be abandoned.

i don’t want to let her go. i don’t know if i can. the thought of her no longer existing leaves me hyperventilating and in tears, but i don’t want her to hurt. i just... i’m not ready for this. i just want more time.
hey there, im really really sorry to hear these happening to your loved one. ive experienced the same thing with my hamsters, i was such a mess when they started acting really sickly and i couldn't sleep at night knowing they were hurting and there was nothing i could do but to be there in their final moments. it's been 10 months since and sometimes i still think about them; even now that i'm taking about them, my heart wrenches up a little bit and i feel like crying.

im not the best in giving advice, but i just say let it out if you need to cry. it's a really painful situation to be in, but i found myself feeling a little better after a long and good cry, even if the feeling is temporary. talk to your cat as well, give them all the love while you still can, make them as comfortable as possible. you can also talk to friends and family if it helps ease the pain; i confided a lot in my mom and boyfriend during my hamsters' last moments. i hope you can give all the support you can to your cat, and you can also receive all the support you deserve yourself.

all the love in the world to you and your cat. im sure your cat lived a long and fulfilling life with a caring owner like you, so please dont be hard on yourself.
 
People both online and in real life annoy me to no end lately. When did it become difficult for people in society to act decent?
 
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Thanks, but I still feel like an outcast. Everyone else can draw humans perfectly, yet my art look like it was done in 5 minutes. I might I as well just stop drawing at all. I really want to become an author, but I'm never going to achieve that because my art is so bad. So I'll probably just leave after shrouded in mystery is finished and sell all my collectibles to someone else since I can't even be here with my terrible art

you should take a look at my humans. they’re horrible. they’re not anywhere close to being perfect either.

Just a suggestion, you might want to edit your shop post that mentions how long you did each drawing if you’re feeling insecure about that.

If people are looking at your posts and liking them and buying your art, you should be proud of yourself. I know I am not one to talk since I sometimes come in here and post my anxiety about my art. There will be many times where you will feel discouraged; but if you really enjoy it (that is most important and not if others like it), then keep doing it. Don’t think of quitting every time you get discouraged unless you aren’t having fun; there will be many ups and downs when you are learning to draw and sharing it with people.

If you aren’t happy with your art, look up tutorials and exercises to help you draw better and learn how to draw — but only if you want to keep doing this.

Sorry if this comes out harsh. i don’t mean to be mean. i feel this so much since my art isn’t good either. I am not good at expressing myself or giving advice without sounding mean :/

I am sorry you still feel like an outcast. So many people have told you many times like during the camp event and now that we like having you around; we enjoy your positivity.

The only disgrace to artists are people who steal others artwork and then try to sell them. Please try to calm down; every artist starts somewhere.
 
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Thanks, but I still feel like an outcast. Everyone else can draw humans perfectly, yet my art look like it was done in 5 minutes. I might I as well just stop drawing at all. I really want to become an author, but I'm never going to achieve that because my art is so bad. So I'll probably just leave after shrouded in mystery is finished and sell all my collectibles to someone else since I can't even be here with my terrible art
a lot of people have said their praises and i agree, i think every artwork is wonderful as long as love and effort is put into it :]
i personally feel that you can direct your frustrations into improving youself the way you want to. i always get bad art blocks and whenever i pick up drawing again, i feel my artwork looks terrible and it’s not up to my standard. what i do is i look at tutorials online on art styles i find fun and inspiring and just copy what they’re doing — from there i can tweak the method to fit more my taste while still keeping the essential tips and tricks i just learned. it’s not shameful at all to consult guides online if you’re looking to improve yourself! at the end of the day the only person you should be comparing to is yourself. i cant draw realistic humans for the life of me and that’s okay; i much prefer cartoon-like drawings over realism, so i dont think they’re comparable at all. there is no one perfect way to draw a human; it’s all up to what you feel makes you happiest. :] don’t be too hard in yourself, take an art break if you need!
 
I love the constant gaslighting that comes when I tell you about *my friend* that you only talked to maybe 5 times
 
Tomorrow is my birthday and I am just feeling very fed up with everything. I didn't even do anything last year, Covid-19 happened, All I did was just sit at home playing games and watching TV, trying to find a job is such a pain these days, and I really haven't figured out what the heck I even want to do in life. I know people tend to ask me these questions of "What do you want to do in your life" or "What will you do when you're at this age" and I keep giving the same response "I don't know and I would not know until I find out". I don't want to sound like an ungrateful person, but the only people who celebrate my birthday is my parents (even though they have mistreated me) and a few friends who haven't left me yet. Other than that I am just feeling fed up.
 
bit of a rant.
this guy i was friends with in highschool messaged me a couple of weeks ago, and we exchanged numbers to talk since i don't really have social media. only one other person i went to school with has ever bothered to keep in contact with me, so it was nice to have someone to talk to and reminisce with. but, of course, it could never be that simple. it became pretty obvious, pretty quickly, that he just wanted to sleep with me or date me with the intention of doing that. i should've clued on when he said he contacted me because of a dream he had that reminded him of the crush he had on me when we were younger, but since i also had a (lowkey, comp. het.) crush on him back then too, i just sort of dismissed it as laughing at what was. nope! turns out it was his first wink, wink, nudge, nudge, and they got vastly less subtle the more we talked. he ended up saying a fair bit of NSFW stuff to me under the guise of joking around about teenage hormones (fortunately, i'm way too desensitized and found it funny more than anything) and then, when it became apparent i wasn't interested or was too dumb to take his hints, he stopped messaging me altogether. haven't heard from him in a month. men are the worst lmao.
 
I had a serious cry tonight, which normally only happens about once a year. I feel like I just undid months of healing. At least I have powerful medication and good friends. I just need to find a good therapist.
 
Can't believe I'm car sick. I've never been car sick before! Doesn't make sense. On my way in a cab to collect those unofficial Amiibos right now, and I'm not feeling so good...

Probably from my lack of sleep. Didn't sleep very well for the past few days.
 
Would be nice if you could reply, like I understand it might not be possible to change size since I already placed the order but just say so then smh.
 
Thanks, but I still feel like an outcast. Everyone else can draw humans perfectly, yet my art look like it was done in 5 minutes. I might I as well just stop drawing at all. I really want to become an author, but I'm never going to achieve that because my art is so bad. So I'll probably just leave after shrouded in mystery is finished and sell all my collectibles to someone else since I can't even be here with my terrible art
first of all, is someone here making you feel bad about your art? is someone telling you that you need to leave because your art is "terrible"? if so then they need to be reported. if you're telling yourself that then you just tell that little voice in your head to **** off, you don't deserve that.

second, it can take years and years of practice to perfect an art form/style. the drawings I made when I started as a kid look pretty awful, but that didn't stop me. heck I'm still perfecting my drawing skills. there will always be flaws and screw-ups but that's why you keep practicing. can't give up just because someone else is "better" at art (there are still artists here where I look at what they can do and think "wow my art sucks compared to theirs" but each art style is unique and you just have to be happy with what you have/what you can do for now). your drawings will always be a step in the right direction towards perfecting your form and style.

one of my favorite quotes of all time is "the expert in anything was once a beginner." just keep that in mind if you ever feel like giving up.

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anyways, what I came here for... my tiredness/fatigue today is ridiculous. I only cleaned for a few hours yesterday but today I can barely stay awake, I've already slept for like 12 hours and I'm still super tired and exhausted. I have no energy to do anything, not even stuff I want to do :/
 
I took my phone case off of my phone last night to so I could remove my SD card from there and when my case was off, I could see that the back panel of my phone is popping off. My phone battery has expanded which is pushing the back panel off. I really was not planning on replacing my phone anytime soon and I'm upset that now I'm going to have to 😔
 
This time my dad did not shut the bathroom door at all. I was going to go downstairs for something but uh no thanks since it is right past his bathroom. probably didn’t wash his hands either.

My print got a little bent at the corner; my dad does not seem to care since it wasn’t. a big one. I’m so upset right now. still mad at streamily for the mess and their stupid rule about not being able to edit it once placing your order even if i request change right after placing it. people make ****ing mistakes. and also my request to change instruction would have been on time if their systems was working.
 
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i had such a boring day at work yesterday, i was basically working the dine in lobby all by myself and it was so boring, all i did was clean and i only took a few orders. also i have a headache right now and it hurts 😐 i’m glad i didn’t go to school today though lol
 
I am tired. I am tired of pretending I’m doing okay. I am tired of opening up to people. I am tired of empty promises. I am tired of having my feelings and traumas disregarded. I am tired of being ghosted by people. I am tired of being cut out of people’s lives. I am tired of being treated like a creep. I am tired of people gossiping about me within earshot. I am tired of sharing my experiences to groups and having them assume the worst. I am tired of feeling alone.

The only things in my life that is going in the right direction is school and my novel. I work tirelessly for my good grades. Every day I am emotionally exhausted, but I study in spite of that. I will do whatever it takes to become a translator and finish that novel, even if it eats me away.

I have become a cynic over the past five years. I have been treated poorly by so many people that I’m never surprised by it. Instead I feel tired and isolated.

I desperately need a new therapist, but nobody in this area takes my insurance. Since I’m a full time college student I don’t have the money to pay for one either. I’m just left with antipsychotics and antidepressants that turn my anxiety into overwhelming neutrality. It’s like taking a vitamin without eating nutritional food. I have a tool that helps me, but it’s not enough to provide a complete treatment.
 
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Worried about my gray cat who is still a little sick.

Also upset a little with my dad who can’t see I’m not feeling good, and still depressed about the print. To others, a small bent corner may not be a big deal but these prints are expensive and enough already had gone wrong and i can’t help that even a little damage bothers me.
 
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