What's Bothering You?

[jiny]

my crush keeps asking who i like should i just f it and tell him it’s him???? i’m so scared of rejection pls. literally all his friends said it’s obvious he likes me back but omg in the back of my mind i still feel like i’m gonna get rejected

 

[Xara]

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aw, love . i’m so sorry that you’re hurting right now. i may not know what’s going on, but no one has the right to tell you whether a decision you made is right or wrong, especially if they don’t know the whole story. i know how awful having people be upset with you is, but you have to do what’s best for you. you deserve to be happy.

i truly hope that things get better for you soon, and my pms are always open to you if you ever need to talk or vent. please take care of yourself, friend. <3

 

[Soigne]

really tough time dealing with anxiety lately. it was manageable for a while, but it feels like i'm back to square one. it hurts not having friends, but for the most part i'm not sure i even have it in me to maintain friendships in my current state lol. it feels like i wake up nervous and stay nervous until i go to sleep. there's a constant pit in my stomach and i just wish i could do something about it. doctors are booked out for months. everything seems pointless.

 

[moo_nieu]

pissed that i moved into an apartment that smells like pee and was covered in so much cat hair that it filled up two grocery bags even though its just 800sf. pissed that the ac is ancient and only blows super cold or super hot after hours if you turn the dial above 80 and doesnt have a working temperature gauge or way to switch from heat to cool or turn off. it just has an inaccurate coiled piece of metal meant to contract and expand with the temp. im freezing all the time. pissed the air filter was ripped to fit the vent and was entirely saturated with dust. it was absolutely disgusting. been over 2 weeks now and still dont have a new air filter although we removed the gross one ourselves. pissed we had to hunt down our mailbox bc she wont tell us where our mail is. her mom has showed up twice now with no mask and even stepped inside the apartment the first time asking why we said it was dirty when she cleaned it herself. the fridge was completely covered in black pet hair all over the walls and in every drawer and shelf in there (and the rest of the apartment). she still wont tell us our carport number bc apparently its hard to contact management but everyone else is using the carports and its been almost a month now. guessing its a repeat of how she "tried to schedule a cleaning" but then didnt actually do it until a week after us living here and then couldnt get a crew bc it was the day before labor day. pissed that we still dont have a second mail key despite it being in the lease and saying she will charge us for any missing keys at the end of the lease. pissed that the toilet was still messy and unflushed from the previous resident. pissed that the heavily advertised fireplace is boarded up and unusable unless a chimney crew comes in bc apparently its been nasty for years. doesnt even seem worth the effort when it will likely make the house really dirty again. pissed that she wouldnt give us a discount and fix the problems even though the lease states the house needed to be clean and free of accumulated filth from previous residents. it was either one time discount or she would pay for cleaning but the cleaning was supposed to be done already before we moved in. its not a favor to us to have people come through a week later. at least the steam cleaners messed up scheduling so that their cleaning would be free. its been over a week since they left but the carpet still smells like a ton of pee. they felt so bad for us that they said theyd come back a second time free of charge and gave us their card so we wouldnt have to go through the landlord. i just got home from visiting my partners family and i hate that im here paying super overpriced rent for a health hazard. wheres the air filter that was supposedly ordered??? are we supposed to just live over two weeks like this? its not fair to just take advantage of hiked up rent prices and not even care about the health of your tenants. i seriously want to sue but who even has the time or money for that. im so pissed. our mattress even smells like pee on the bottom of it now. i just feel so powerless and angry and sad. this isnt fair.

 

[xSuperMario64x]

brushing my teeth is one of those things where I basically have to force myself to do it and it's such a pain in the *** but if I dont then my teeth feel gross, plus it only takes 2 min so like why would I not do it lol

 

[Stella-Io]

This damn company hasn't reached out back to me about sending me my damn 100$ VISA card since the one I bought got scammed. Guess I have to call AGAIN tomorrow after I ALREADY had to call them just to make them send the email in the first place. God damn.

Edit: turns out yesterday and today were some sort of holiday so I actually might not hear back till MONDAY aaaaaauuuugh

 

[Toska]

When people don't have all the facts and circumstances, it's normal for them to make assumptions that most of the time are wrong. Since I don't have them either, I cannot know who in this situation would be right and who wouldn't... but I can tell you this one thing: you have the right to look for your own happiness, and if there's within your reach, definitely seize it! Whatever happened, if it makes you happy, the others will have to deal with it if they don't approve. Because you deserve to be happy!

aw, love . i’m so sorry that you’re hurting right now. i may not know what’s going on, but no one has the right to tell you whether a decision you made is right or wrong, especially if they don’t know the whole story. i know how awful having people be upset with you is, but you have to do what’s best for you. you deserve to be happy.

i truly hope that things get better for you soon, and my pms are always open to you if you ever need to talk or vent. please take care of yourself, friend. <3

Thank you both so much. I’ve done a lot of thinking and decided that I did make the best decision for my happiness. Your comments helped me feel so much better, really. Hope you’re both doing well.

 

[Croconaw]

Spoiler: mention of bullying

My 11 year old cousin is being bullied in school and coming back to her house crying. She’s being ridiculed for her weight and her mom isn’t really helping the fact. What I mean is, she’s calling her piggy. I know it’s a nickname but you cannot call an 11 year old that who is called chubby in school and expect that to be okay. This is absolutely not okay. I know how it feels to be bullied in school and it sucks she has to go through it. I don’t have the heart to say it really doesn’t get better. I’m sorry, but it doesn’t. Schools don’t do enough to stop bullying. I’m more concerned with her mom calling her that nickname. Bullying is a serious thing and there needs to be consequences for schools that don’t take action… this is why I looked forward to graduation.

 

[a potato]

I had two (2) headaches so naturally I go down a Google rabbit hole for a diagnosis. Love it! /s

 

[_Rainy_]

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Sorry you’re going through that and you absolutely shouldn’t have to.

If you haven’t already, you need to keep a very detailed record of everything wrong preferably with pictures and dates and make sure you have proof that you didn’t damage these things because they could possibly try to blame these things on you. You can send these things in writing to them that they need to be fixed and I think they have a certain amount of time to comply before you can report them, but it needs to be in writing for proof that you have asked them. at the very least though make sure you have that proof because they don’t sound very reliable or trustworthy to me.

 

[Marridia]

I wanna draw but I cant find a good pose or a character basically I have no ideas help

 

[Xara]

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awe no, i’m sorry :’o. i can only imagine how disappointed you must be, but i’m hopeful that you’ll be able to find a job soon! you’re wonderful and have so much to offer, any workplace would be lucky to have you! hang in there, and my pms are always open if you need to talk or vent! <3

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god i feel this in my bones lol. i’ll be washing my face in the bathroom, and my toothbrush is literally right there, but my brain will still be like “no“. i have to force myself to do it, too, so you’re definitely not alone. :’)

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this hurt my heart to read. i‘ve honestly been exactly where your cousin is; i used to be bullied constantly over my weight and other things, and would go home in tears every day whenever my mother could actually force me to go, so i know just how awful it is and i’m so sorry that she’s experiencing that. i’m sorry that you’ve experienced bullying as well. nobody deserves that, and i absolutely agree that schools don’t do enough to put a stop to it. the schools that i’ve attended would only host an “anti-bullying” assembly once a year, hang posters around the school that honestly nobody reads and sometimes have students do projects about bullying, and that just isn’t enough.

the fact that your cousin’s mother is calling her “piggy” is honestly disgusting and, in my opinion, should never be a nickname given to someone. are you maybe able to have a conversation with her about that, or is there anyone else who could have that conversation with her? i just hate that your cousin has to deal with that on top of everything else. people can be so cruel, man. </3

 

[Croconaw]

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Thank you for replying! I’ve definitely tried to talk some sense into the mother, and she’s cut back, but still does it occasionally. I don’t think the mom realizes how hurtful words can be. Public schools are terrible at dealing with bullying, and unfortunately they don’t seem to be getting better. Her father is trying to get her into a cyber school, which I think would be better. Kids are absolutely undisciplined and cruel.

 

[Neb]

I think I’ve been ghosted by that friend who had the one sided crush on me. I’ve tried reaching out to preserve the friendship, but I haven’t heard anything. My reaction wasn’t even a no anyway. It was more of a “not yet.” Ugh this is not a great feeling.

 

[Xara]

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i’m so glad to hear that you’ve tried to talk to her and that she’s cut back, though i definitely hope that she completely stops soon. words really can be so hurtful, especially when your cousin’s already dealing with hurtful stuff at school. i’m also very happy to hear that her dad is trying to get her into a cyber school! doing school online helped me out with my own bullying situation along with some other things, and i think it could be really helpful for her as well! i hope she won’t have to put up with the bullying for much longer and that she’s able to get into the online school!

 

[moo_nieu]

Sorry you’re going through that and you absolutely shouldn’t have to.

If you haven’t already, you need to keep a very detailed record of everything wrong preferably with pictures and dates and make sure you have proof that you didn’t damage these things because they could possibly try to blame these things on you. You can send these things in writing to them that they need to be fixed and I think they have a certain amount of time to comply before you can report them, but it needs to be in writing for proof that you have asked them. at the very least though make sure you have that proof because they don’t sound very reliable or trustworthy to me.

thanks yeah were kind of expecting that to happen but we have a ton of photos and submitted everything in the first few days thankfully. nothing we can do now but suck it up and try our best to make it clean i guess.

at least now that were in the state we like we can visit places in person next time instead of having to rely on photos

 

[Millysaurusrexjr]

it's small and petty but I am annoyed at how expensive cork fabric is. $1.52 by the INCH,

 

[xSuperMario64x]

not as much of a bother now but I was woken up at 4:55am cause my dog was whining really softly and sparsely and it scared me so I got up and HE WEDGED HIMSELF UNDER MY BED AND WAS STUCK, EVERYTHING EXCEPT FOR HIS HEAD WAS UNDER THERE. I honestly have no clue how the **** he got himself stuck but I had to get up and lift up the bed so he could wiggle himself out. what an idiot lol.

anyways now it's 5am and I'm wide awake

 

[Orius]

Pretty annoyed by this shopkeeper at the game store today. I bought my Pokémon Sword and Shield today at two different game stores (same company, different chains/locations), only to find out that it's region locked! To Australia! That means I'd have to create a new account and change my region in order to purchase the DLC! What a hassle. Moreover, I was afraid that my Switch would be bricked if I change my region, so I refused to buy Pokémon Sword at the second store and had to now find a buyer for my bought Pokémon Shield.

Thankfully, the first shopkeeper at the first store was much more professional and knowledgeable, and he informed me that my Switch would be safe from bricking even if I change region because it's an official method approved by Nintendo... or something. Anyway, so I went back to the second store and criticized the shopkeeper for not knowing this stuff. I told him, "You need to know this stuff, or you'd risk losing your customers. I almost walked out and refused to buy the game." I'm someone who's very principled when it comes to customer service. If I pay money for your goods, I expect a certain level of service. I'm not an a-hole demanding servitude, but the least one could do is be knowledgeable about the crap you're selling. It's called "professionalism." We have a little tax in Singapore, by the way, called the GST - goods and SERVICES tax. SERVICE is in the name!

Anyway, more trouble brews at home when I came home to find out that my mum messed around with my drawers, "organizing" it so that I can't find anything. She even threw away one of the protective casings of my joy-con! What the heck?! Christ, I swear, she keeps pulling crap like that. I like my stuff disorganized! I like it messy in the places where I would remember where to find them!!!

Sigh. What a crappy day. And after I was happy too about buying my 3DS.

 

[GuerreraD]

really tough time dealing with anxiety lately. it was manageable for a while, but it feels like i'm back to square one. it hurts not having friends, but for the most part i'm not sure i even have it in me to maintain friendships in my current state lol. it feels like i wake up nervous and stay nervous until i go to sleep. there's a constant pit in my stomach and i just wish i could do something about it. doctors are booked out for months. everything seems pointless.

For what I've been reading lately in this thread, you're not alone in your anxiety. Several other people seem to be dealing with it, so first of all, don't be afraid of expressing your feelings about it, because at least some people will be able to relate

I've never suffered from anxiety, but I've been through depression a few times. I know it's not the same, but what I mean, I understand when you're feeling "back to square one". Wanting/needing friends but feeling unable of keeping them is a frightening inside thing!

I don't know if this will help you any, but you can always come here and let your voice out. You can keep it light with the other members, so not to feel pressured; yet others will read or reply to you, so hopefully you won't feel so alone. You're always welcome.