What's Bothering You?

I’m overthinking a ton of things that I probably shouldn’t be. I’m looking too much into things that I shouldn’t be. I’m concerned about things I shouldn’t be. Basically I’m letting someone take over my life… 🙃
I 100% feel you on this, I've been overthinking a lot of things about a certain someone in my life for the last few weeks and it's horrible especially when I know it's more than likely all in my head.
 
I'm moving on Saturday, but I'm already in pain just from putting everything I own into boxes. And we aren't hiring movers, so that's going to be fun. I'm so weaaaak.
 
a while ago I posted here about how my sister in law acquired a betta fish in a bowl from a friend.
My husband and I gave her tons of information the day I found out she was keeping the betta in a bowl, and offered her a 10 gallon fish tank that we already had. She never claimed it. That was maybe a couple weeks ago?

Anyway TODAY I was asked to go over to her place to set up her new tank and transfer the fish from the fish bowl to the tank, because my SIL is in the hospital.
I go over to her place and the fish bowl is... disgusting. It smelled so bad. Here's a picture
awful. just awful. can't even see all the way through. so much fish flake crap.
the tank that she got was clearly secondhand, not from me, and not a 10 gallon. Maybe a 5 gallon, which is alright, but there was a bag full of random secondhand, dirty aquarium stuff.. like filters and heaters and stuff. I got out the sponge filter, and it would have been too big imo for the 5 gal, and I didn't have any tubing to connect it to the powersource, so I went out and bought tubing + a thermometer + betta food pellets + a gravel vac. I couldn't afford substrate or silk plants or a bigger heater so that was annoying.
Went back. Set up my 10 gallon tank after spending like 20 minutes trying to figure out where the tank would even go (SIL is almost a hoarder and has a very upsettingly dirty house with barely any free power outlets). Decided on the kitchen counter even though direct sunlight is not great for fish tanks.
Set up the tank to the best of my ability. Plastic plants aren't great, neither is the "substrate" (just a bunch of loose rocks my husband bought years ago from a pet store). But it's way better than the bowl 🤷‍♀️


it was just a nightmare. I spent like a half hour just writing a bunch of info on sticky notes for her. Hope she heeds my advice. I just want the betta to be okay. But man I hate her house so much omg
Ugh, I'm so sorry. I'm just glad you were able to set it up. I mean, Betta fish are hearty, but that absolutely does not mean they should be abused, which is essentially what was/is happening. Animal abuse/neglect of any kind is never right. Period.
 
okay, so today i learnt that actively looking at things that you know will upset/offend/hurt you is actually a form of self-harm. i barely paid any mind to that until i realized that i used to do that, and still find myself doing it sometimes. yikes!
 
I want to buy a house, but there are no houses to buy. Two years ago, my parents bought a family house. 4 rooms 2 bathrooms. Now I’m buying a house with the same budget they had but for less rooms, and there’s nothing. I only really need one room, and there’s nothing. I’ll just go and live in a box.
 
the fact that my parents literally don't give a crap about me lmao. they're always telling me i don't eat enough but then can't be bothered to remember to buy me pasta after i asked a month ago (i can't get to a store myself) or anything else that i would eat. they go food shopping with everyone in the house in mind apart from me lol, and then when i point it out they just shrug. nice. not like the doctor literally said i'm severely clinically underweight or anything but go off ig.
 
a while ago I posted here about how my sister in law acquired a betta fish in a bowl from a friend.
My husband and I gave her tons of information the day I found out she was keeping the betta in a bowl, and offered her a 10 gallon fish tank that we already had. She never claimed it. That was maybe a couple weeks ago?

Anyway TODAY I was asked to go over to her place to set up her new tank and transfer the fish from the fish bowl to the tank, because my SIL is in the hospital.
I go over to her place and the fish bowl is... disgusting. It smelled so bad. Here's a picture
awful. just awful. can't even see all the way through. so much fish flake crap.
the tank that she got was clearly secondhand, not from me, and not a 10 gallon. Maybe a 5 gallon, which is alright, but there was a bag full of random secondhand, dirty aquarium stuff.. like filters and heaters and stuff. I got out the sponge filter, and it would have been too big imo for the 5 gal, and I didn't have any tubing to connect it to the powersource, so I went out and bought tubing + a thermometer + betta food pellets + a gravel vac. I couldn't afford substrate or silk plants or a bigger heater so that was annoying.
Went back. Set up my 10 gallon tank after spending like 20 minutes trying to figure out where the tank would even go (SIL is almost a hoarder and has a very upsettingly dirty house with barely any free power outlets). Decided on the kitchen counter even though direct sunlight is not great for fish tanks.
Set up the tank to the best of my ability. Plastic plants aren't great, neither is the "substrate" (just a bunch of loose rocks my husband bought years ago from a pet store). But it's way better than the bowl 🤷‍♀️


it was just a nightmare. I spent like a half hour just writing a bunch of info on sticky notes for her. Hope she heeds my advice. I just want the betta to be okay. But man I hate her house so much omg
That fish bowl looks terrible, but you did such an amazing job setting up the new tank! 🌟😊
 
a while ago I posted here about how my sister in law acquired a betta fish in a bowl from a friend.
My husband and I gave her tons of information the day I found out she was keeping the betta in a bowl, and offered her a 10 gallon fish tank that we already had. She never claimed it. That was maybe a couple weeks ago?

Anyway TODAY I was asked to go over to her place to set up her new tank and transfer the fish from the fish bowl to the tank, because my SIL is in the hospital.
I go over to her place and the fish bowl is... disgusting. It smelled so bad. Here's a picture
awful. just awful. can't even see all the way through. so much fish flake crap.
the tank that she got was clearly secondhand, not from me, and not a 10 gallon. Maybe a 5 gallon, which is alright, but there was a bag full of random secondhand, dirty aquarium stuff.. like filters and heaters and stuff. I got out the sponge filter, and it would have been too big imo for the 5 gal, and I didn't have any tubing to connect it to the powersource, so I went out and bought tubing + a thermometer + betta food pellets + a gravel vac. I couldn't afford substrate or silk plants or a bigger heater so that was annoying.
Went back. Set up my 10 gallon tank after spending like 20 minutes trying to figure out where the tank would even go (SIL is almost a hoarder and has a very upsettingly dirty house with barely any free power outlets). Decided on the kitchen counter even though direct sunlight is not great for fish tanks.
Set up the tank to the best of my ability. Plastic plants aren't great, neither is the "substrate" (just a bunch of loose rocks my husband bought years ago from a pet store). But it's way better than the bowl 🤷‍♀️


it was just a nightmare. I spent like a half hour just writing a bunch of info on sticky notes for her. Hope she heeds my advice. I just want the betta to be okay. But man I hate her house so much omg
Thank you for doing this, I grew up abusing fish my whole childhood before I learned better. It may not stick, but you've at least given the little guy a chance.
 
I'm having the worst period cramps ever, its been like this for four hours and i had to go to school and it hurts to walk ughh
 
It's just, one of those days

Everythin is ****ed, everybody sucks



Also I'm still sick a week later. Atleast I have orange juice now.
 
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