What is your relationship status?

What is your relationship status?

  • Married

    Votes: 12 16.4%

  • Engaged

    Votes: 3 4.1%

  • Relationship

    Votes: 13 17.8%

  • Long-distance relationship

    Votes: 5 6.8%

  • It's complicated

    Votes: 4 5.5%

  • Single, but have been in at least one relationship before

    Votes: 19 26.0%

  • Single and have never been in a relationship

    Votes: 14 19.2%

  • Other

    Votes: 3 4.1%
  • Total voters
    73
happily taken by my soulmate 🥰 we've been together for two and a half years now. it's long distance, and sometimes it's difficult, especially because we're both busy people and it's hard to plan trips. but I couldn't imagine myself with anyone else 💓🐇

also probably worth mentioning that I'm demi-aroace, so I'm in that funny spot between "I don't care about relationships" and "my partner is the love of my life" hehehehe
 
Been with my partner for [an amount of time greater than 5 years and less than 10 years, you can't trick me into giving away personal info online!]

I refer to him as my partner because we aren't married and don't plan to be--I'm female, he's Filipino, and we both have personal/cultural/social reasons for being uncomfortable with the historical institution of marriage. However, we live together and share all our expenses and responsibilities, travel together, have life insurance with the other person as beneficiary, make big decisions jointly, spend holidays with each other's families, etc. So calling him my boyfriend feels a little weird as it doesn't really convey that level of emotional and logistical interconnection.

I don't have any intention of ending the relationship, but if it did end for whatever reason, I don't imagine I'd be in a hurry to be in a relationship again. I would never describe myself as ace or aro because that would be untrue, as I absolutely do experience romantic and sexual attraction, but the percentage of people that I experience that attraction to in the first place is pretty low. I'm also a bit of a cynic about romance and staunchly feminist, so the pool of possible partners is not exactly enormous. I feel extremely fortunate to have connected with someone with whom I can have mutual respect, attraction, interest, affection, and shared values.
 
I had a boyfriend throughout most of my high school and college life (about 5-6 years? relationship) got together in 10th grade in high school and dated till around my 3rd or 4th year in college. And ever since, I've been Single. I was in my early 20s at the time? when we broke up, and now i'm in my 30s. Ironically enough, my ex had moved on in no time and dated someone else and eventually got married to them and just recently they got kids. And since he used to be a friend before dating, I did congratulate him on getting married and having twins.

Hopefully I can find someone I could spend the rest of my life with. I'm not keen on the idea of having kids myself, but I wouldn't mind fur babies (like cats and/or dogs). But it's hard to find someone since all I do really is go to work on days i'm scheduled and then stay at home 🫠
 
I decided to post in this thread for a second time since I've been in a long distance relationship with my current girlfriend for over six weeks. We never fight and are patient with each other, so it's mostly a smooth relationship aside from having to tame my fear of abandonment when she's too busy to respond. I'm hesitant to share much about publicly because most people (including myself in the past) strongly dislike online relationships, but I think my current girlfriend is worth it.

She showed interest at first and I started to reciprocate over time. We both love JRPGs and enjoy talking to each other about them. She's always kind, even when she isn't feeling the most bubbly and I don't feel like I have to mask as much since we both have autism. We both want to visit each other eventually and I hope that it can happen sometime this year. She makes me happy and I'm glad I lowered my guard from past trauma to be with her.
 
I've been in 3 relationships, currently single, and they were all online. i really wish i would've never dated the first one, he gave me a lot of issues and since it was during such a vulnerable time in my life (13-14), gave me a lot of insecurities that i still have trouble getting past. the second one was really weird and barely lasted for 2 months so I'm not sure how much that one even really counts. the third one was fine, even if it got pretty awful towards the end, they were at least nice to me and open with me and understood most of my issues, and we're still friends to this day.

ive been single for over a year now, and for a while i was really struggling with the thought of being alone and i kept developing "crushes" on people that barely lasted at all. i still kind of have issues with this but ive been doing better at keeping it contained. i don't know if i want to commit to a relationship anymore though, the good times were really good but the bad times were REALLY bad. bpd does that to you. it being strictly online didn't help either, so i wonder if dating someone in person would be better for me.

at the same time, i have untreated mental illnesses and as time goes on i get more unstable and jealous in my relationships, probably because whoever i date ends up being my FP. i would probably need therapy or something so it doesn't blow up in my face. i also tend to be really obsessive. and i don't know how i would meet anyone irl considering I don't go anywhere besides with my parents and my social skills are about 0. i don't have a lot of hope about it but as of right now I'm okay with being single since I'm used to it now. (my problem might have been because i switched partners way too fast, with only a few months between, and during some of my most formative years. ouch.)

also I'm not interested whatsoever in having kids. not happening.
 
Single, previously in a distance relationship where I paid a lot and invested time and a lot of mental health. After months of conflicts and resentment, I decided to let it go. I still talk to him sometimes, to watch animes for example, but I don't feel anything anymore for him and won't be with him again in the future.

We don't have anything in common anymore!

I do enjoy to be single for now. I'm definitely too shy and broken to be open for something.
 
Update on me.

I was looking for a relationship 3 years ago but had a guy who I reconnected with disrespected me in alot of small things and it makes me more guarded when it comes to meeting someone..

I would love to be in a relationship with someone who like me for me
 
I am single and very okay with it! In my youth, I had the dream of marrying and having children.

I was in a 9 year relationship as a "step dad" and I loved every second of it... even the hard times getting sick with my youngest stepdaughter because we couldn't stop watching corny drama TV shows on the couch while she was sick. We were miserable, but still laughing together, and it was a great experience!

I have given up though. I am totally happy coming home to my cats! Relationships dont seem to be my strong suit.
 
Voted for single, I've been in a relationship before. My last relationship was almost 10 years ago come this summer. I'm not very good with this kind of stuff.

I would like to get married to a fun and kind wife, why not, what else is there to do at 42?

It looks highly unlikely now. There was a point in my life where I was fretting and looking for a partner, but now I am growing more used to acceptance.
 
I don't know if I ever shared it on here, but my partner of 7 years asked me to marry him during the Summer!
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I have been with my girlfriend since we were in high school, this month will be 7 years since we met and May will be seven years together :) However, we had hid the relationship for 5 of those years for fear of family reaction but we have been out for over a year and a half and everything has been amazing!
 
PapaCrossing said:
Voted for single, I've been in a relationship before. My last relationship was almost 10 years ago come this summer. I'm not very good with this kind of stuff.

I would like to get married to a fun and kind wife, why not, what else is there to do at 42?

It looks highly unlikely now. There was a point in my life where I was fretting and looking for a partner, but now I am growing more used to acceptance.
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Never give up. I do understand you though. I am in the same boat, but apparently 5 years older than you.

I see people find people constantly at all ages, and I dont know how they do it.

Don't just accept your situation, trust me... thats what I have been doing for years, and its not a happy way to go. Believe me...
 
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