The Unpopular Opinions thread

[Stikki]

Maybe "I'm busy" means "I don't want conversation" or "I just want to be on my own" but saying that would come across as ignorant, dismissive or that there's something wrong which itself will turn into an hour of "look, nothing is wrong, I just want to be on my own, leave me the F' alone". Perhaps they just feel drained, overwhelmed or they simply just want to sit in their underwear eating cake and playing games. Maybe it's something really personal they don't want to open the door to further questioning with. Perhaps they're just having an absolutely awful day and want to sit and have a bit of a cry on their own. Whatever somebody is "busy" with is absolutely none of your business and absolutely nobody should have to tell you more than "I'm busy" if they don't want to. You're not entitled to a detailed answer in the same way you're not entitled to a conversation on demand.

I hate this modern entitled mindset social media and instant messaging has brought. Everybody has a device in their pocket now so everybody is expected to reply instantly, instant gratification on demand. The main thing I hate though, that these apps now tell you that a message has been seen. Everybody hates being left on seen but do you know what I hate far more? Sitting around doing absolutely nothing enjoying how comfortable my ass is on the couch because I'm totally drained from work and then I pick up my phone and curiously read a message from somebody. Now what do I do? Do I just leave them on seen? I'll tell them I'm busy. They're asking why, what do I say? I can't tell them I'm busy doing pretty much nothing because that sounds like I'm just being ignorant and dismissive with them, which I am, which I would be with literally anybody at that moment in time and I should be allowed to be because nobody is entitled to my time if I don't want to give it, especially if I'm in my own house, my 'safe space' where I shouldn't feel forced to do anything I don't want to do. Now they're asking me to do things and I have to tell them I would literally rather sit and do nothing right now than hang out with them which sounds awful but it's true. Now I feel like an ******* because I just don't feel up to dealing with social interactions right now but I've either been forced into it or forced to be ignorant all because it tells people I've seen a message so they're expecting an instant reply. Even if it doesn't say seen, "I sent it at 5PM! Why haven't you replied? I demand answers! Give me attention!"

If I tell somebody "I'm busy", it means I'm busy. If I don't tell them what I'm busy with, it's absolutely 100% none of their business BUT they can and should take it as "I've seen your message and I'm replying to you so you know I'm not ignoring you, I'll message back properly when I get around to it and have finished doing whatever it is I'm busy with". It's not a poor excuse, it's an answer to something the person either doesn't have time or didn't want to be doing in the first place.


Now ghosting, that's different, hence why I opted not to quote that part of your post.

Yeah I can relate to all of this these days haha. I used to be the opposite, but that was when I was so full of self hatred that dealing with myself alone was a horrible experience. So I would constantly distract by talking to others. Then I learned to like my own company. Now people just tend to exhaust me haha. I deliberately avoid opening messages, especially the ones that tell others I have seen them, because I don't want to have to deal with the inevitable entitled attitude about why I haven't replied, but also because I don't really want to get locked into a conversation and feel stuck there as I watch time disappear and feel I HAVE to stick with it cos I owe them, which isn't healthy.

I'll reply to people I enjoy talking to or those who are clearly having a very bad time, whether that's because of things happening or because their mental health is very bad, but then again these days a lot of people will insist their mental health is bad, when it's really as simple as feeling disillusioned with adulthood when you realise it sucks (and always has done) and disappointed that life didn't meet your expectations, which we all have to go through and come to terms with on our own. My own mental health is all over the place anyway, so I do what I need to do to take care of that, not put it all on other people to sort out for me. But then there's the fact that you never really know what someone else is dealing with, so putting all your s*** on someone else who is unresponsive and then getting annoyed with them for being that way isn't fair, because for all we know they're dealing with far far worse and are just trying to find their way through it and avoid loading themselves up with other people's problems on top of that.

Of course it's different if you're in a relationship with someone and they deliberately ignore you. That's cruel. But that's because relationships of that nature need communication and understanding to survive. People outside of that owe us nothing and you can only really be responsible for your own happiness, not expect others to fix it and comply with your personal wishes. That's selfish.

 

[Alienfish]

I agree with this one. Although I specifically dislike it when people use it to refer to AC villagers they want.

I absolutely used that myself but I do agree.

I think people here use for other reasons than something they really want, them using it instead of eg. fantastic, beautiful, awesome etc. and it's like they(as in those people) don't define "dreamy/dreamiest" good whatsoever when they could just have used a common word.

 

[Croconaw]

I absolutely used that myself but I do agree.

I think people here use for other reasons than something they really want, them using it instead of eg. fantastic, beautiful, awesome etc. and it's like they(as in those people) don't define "dreamy/dreamiest" good whatsoever when they could just have used a common word.

Like you said, I think people use this term for things they want. I’m definitely guilty of this, although I find it cringe. I wouldn’t know what other word to use, though.

 

[Mr_Keroppi]

1. Cars 2 was best Cars movie.
2. Soft drinks are nasty and sting my mouth.
3. Grapes are overrated and Strawberries need more love because best fruit ofc

 

[VanitasFan26]

YouTube has become so unwatchable these days. Its becoming the new TV

 

[-Blue-]

YouTube has become so unwatchable these days. Its becoming the new TV

I still use it, but blocking comments due to 'kids' is really annoying. And now they hide dislikes. Is big company so fragile they can't take criticism anymore? It happened almost right after Nintendo's NSO+ membership got 100,000 dislikes to it's something like 10,000 likes.

 

[Mr_Keroppi]

YouTube has become so unwatchable these days. Its becoming the new TV

OMG SO TRUE, everything is so like staged and product type! Advertisements and so much settings and stuff! I miss YOUTUBE videos like VIDEOS not movies and tv series! Some are good but some are not, I guess everything changes overtime, even youtube. Its like corporations also take advantage of it now!! I miss the community and not just advertisements and companies we want REAL PEOPLE.

 

[VanitasFan26]

I still use it, but blocking comments due to 'kids' is really annoying. And now they hide dislikes. Is big company so fragile they can't take criticism anymore? It happened almost right after Nintendo's NSO+ membership got 100,000 dislikes to it's something like 10,000 likes.

There is an Extension you can download on your browser to enable back the YouTube Dislikes. I have Chrome so I downloaded it and I can see what dislikes the video has. I will agree it was a dumb decision on YouTube's part to disable dislikes and there is no doubt that its already causing confusion of which videos are good or bad. Even the person who made their first video on YouTube back in 2005 thought this was a bad decision.

 

[Croconaw]

There is an Extension you can download on your browser to enable back the YouTube Dislikes. I have Chrome so I downloaded it and I can see what dislikes the video has. I will agree it was a dumb decision on YouTube's part to disable dislikes and there is no doubt that its already causing confusion of which videos are good or bad. Even the person who made their first video on YouTube back in 2005 thought this was a bad decision.

To be fair, I understand why they did it. I know some people may not like the decision. I used to disable the like and dislike feature on my videos back in the old YouTube days. I no longer create content, but I used to get upset by the amount of dislikes and how rude people would get in the comments section. I would often disable comments for the same reason, but I would do this myself as opposed to YouTube doing it for me.

 

[VanitasFan26]

To be fair, I understand why they did it. I know some people may not like the decision. I used to disable the like and dislike feature on my videos back in the old YouTube days. I no longer create content, but I used to get upset by the amount of dislikes and how rude people would get in the comments section. I would often disable comments for the same reason, but I would do this myself as opposed to YouTube doing it for me.

With all due respect I know sometimes looking at dislikes may seem overwhelming, but it is important to point what videos are good or bad. This is going to make the clickbait videos worse and not to mention there are creators promoting scams. Without the dislikes then people will be easily fooled and they would not know that the video was actually bad, but because the dislikes were disabled and you shown only likes it causes a lot of problems to appear.

I guess there is an argument to be made that dislikes were used as like "Cancel Culture" material mainly because when creators attack each other they would tell their fans to go and mass dislike their video still creating a lot hateful comments. So I can sorta understand the reasoning why they would disable dislikes, but still this creates a whole load of new problems

 

[Croconaw]

With all due respect I know sometimes looking at dislikes may seem overwhelming, but it is important to point what videos are good or bad. This is going to make the clickbait videos worse and not to mention there are creators promoting scams. Without the dislikes then people will be easily fooled and they would not know that the video was actually bad, but because the dislikes were disabled and you shown only likes it causes a lot of problems to appear.

I guess there is an argument to be made that dislikes were used as like "Cancel Culture" material mainly because when creators attack each other they would tell their fans to go and mass dislike their video still creating a lot hateful comments. So I can sorta understand the reasoning why they would disable dislikes, but still this creates a whole load of new problems

I understand. A minor problem turned into a big problem. I think giving the creator the option to block comments is a good decision, though. Some people are on YouTube (and the internet, in general) for no good reason other than to troll. Some of us are more sensitive than others so being able to have the option to block comments does help.

 

[VanitasFan26]

I understand. A minor problem turned into a big problem. I think giving the creator the option to block comments is a good decision, though. Some people are on YouTube (and the internet, in general) for no good reason other than to troll. Some of us are more sensitive than others so being able to have the option to block comments does help.

Yeah and YouTube had to disable comments on kids content mainly to cooperate with the COPPA law back in 2020.

 

[Alienfish]

Curious what y'all have for TV channels lol, there are definitely some good left here lol.

Tbh I more or less only use youtube for music(sometimes like old anime/movies etc i guess) and basically skip all influencer **** floating around.

yeah idk, I mean "dreamy" when it comes to clothes and stuff defo sounds cringe, just say it's like, a loveable, fantastic, great, amazing coat instead? rofl

 

[tessa grace]

Here’s an unpopular sports opinion: College football is wayyyy better than the NFL in every way. I know college football is only really big in the south, but I just prefer it. As someone who spent a lot of time in Tennessee and Alabama, their passion for college football is unmatched.

I definitely agree. As someone in the rocky mountain region I can assure you college football is big in my state. I love it because its cheaper, more exciting, and a lot less mean. Like every college just has a ton of spirit, literally its all a party and I'm here for it.

Post automatically merged: Jan 5, 2022

Oh and one more thing: you shouldn't have to choose cats or dogs. i like both.

 

[Alienfish]

Oh and one more thing: you shouldn't have to choose cats or dogs. i like both.

This. I generally prefer dogs but it's such a dumb question to be honest... like why can't you like both indeed?

 

[Beanz]

i don’t like using dry shampoo. i hate the texture and i’d much rather let my hair get oily and wash it every day like i have been doing.

 

[amemome]

i don’t like using dry shampoo. i hate the texture and i’d much rather let my hair get oily and wash it every day like i have been doing.

I agree with this. Dry shampoo on my oily mess just makes me look like I have a severe case of dandruff, and still makes all my hair clump. Also it smells way too strongly (for me) so it also makes me nauseous.

I've got hair that ranges on "ok to go a day without a wash" to "wash me right now stinky human" so I try to wash it every day. I know people say it's bad but I would much rather not smell scalp after every turn of my head.

 

[Croconaw]

I use dry shampoo sometimes. It’s easier to use while traveling. I also don’t like how it feels. It’s just more convenient for me. I wash my hair every one or two days. I also wear hats a lot, so my hair isn’t too visible all the time anyway.

 

[g u a v a]

tiktok should've stayed musical.ly

 

[Croconaw]

tiktok should've stayed musical.ly

I wish TikTok didn’t exist, honestly.