Serious Talk on Sex -Keep It Mature! description about a manga now added

[fallenchaoskitten]

you know, if I know my bf all too well, then I'm sure he'd want to take it off for me >o>""
but anyways, can you give me a few tips about what boys like?

considering I'm the shy type, I'm not too sure of how to act
but yeah when I talked to my bf about it he's like "I'll give you confidence " >//////<♥

Asking what a boy likes is similar to asking what a girl likes.
There is no definite answer.
I mean... in general we all pretty well know that, sexual speaking, what is sort of at the base of "what each gender likes." XP
((note... I said "base" of it... not all of it or only it... or how exactly things are done))
And since this is sexual education type thread, I am thinking this is kinda toward sexual means of what does the other like? ... again, simply assuming by the topic of the thread.

So...
Here it goes...
For shy people...
In almost every magazine at the store today, there is something on the cover about "New was to please your guy!" "What she wants to hear and be done to her!" "New tricks to liven things up!"
I'm not saying to buy them since most of the time it's a waste of money, but if you are inline, just grab one and flip through it. I think it would be much safer than trying to find "sex tips" online while blindly searching google.
When in the heat of the moment, try something you read or saw. If you are too shy to ask... If they don't make you stop or give any non-verbal queues that they aren't enjoying it ((like... idk... they start texting)) then just keep doing it. After everything is kinda done and over and ya cuddle or watch a movie or whatever you are doing, just kinda ask "so what did you think of [either say it or hint to what it was]" or something along lines of "did you like it better or worse than the other times?"... Communication is key. You can't rely on just non-verbal communication but actually talking and saying something.
And if you are too scared to say it in the moment, is normally easier once it is over and things have "calmed down."

 

[Fearthecuteness]

Just to let everyone know I put a link in the description box for contraception. It's a uk site but basically covers a lot about different methods of contraception so I hope it will be very helpful to a lot of people and help you all decide what's best for you.

 

[Kyle]

Wait, are we talking about length or width here? Cause there is a difference. Seven inches for width definitely would be painful.

Anyway, it really doesn't matter to me. Whatever length my boyfriend has, I'm satisfied. xD

Length, and I imagine that five or higher would be painful in width. Now that I think of it I don't know what an average width would be but I'd imagine it varies a lot more than length from guy to guy. But width probably matters more than length when it comes down to her pleasure, so there's that.

 

[fallenchaoskitten]

Just to let everyone know I put a link in the description box for contraception. It's a uk site but basically covers a lot about different methods of contraception so I hope it will be very helpful to a lot of people and help you all decide what's best for you.

I decided to open it... And I read through what I am currently on... and... well... it kinda down-played the true risk of it.
Like, if you open a medical dictionary or a OB/PEDs new college textbooks it says ((not a student, but I worked at a college bookstore and it would get boring sometimes)) because of the risk you should be on it for no more than 2 years. And new studies ((like within past year or so)) say to only take it for 1 year. Nothing of that is mentioned there on the website. The topic of why the books say two years is mentioned, but down played.
And I even asked my dr about it and she agreed as well, but mentioned tests that can be done to make sure that a person is healthy enough to continue past the 2 year mark.
... Now this is only with the kind I am on, so I can't talk about the accuracy of the others.

With that being said.
I'm running over to FB to ask my huge all natural insane activist friend the links to her research pages about contraception. Since she is the one who told me that the time you should be on it went from 2 years down to 1.

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Length, and I imagine that five or higher would be painful in width. Now that I think of it I don't know what an average width would be but I'd imagine it varies a lot more than length from guy to guy. But width probably matters more than length when it comes down to her pleasure, so there's that.

Ummm... I think they were joking about the width thing. XP
Mostly because I know several women that think 7 is too small. So, no, it's not "typically painful" for most women experienced or not. ^^'
And if you aren't experienced, any size could hurt you really... even those considered below average.

 

[Kyle]

If they think 7 is too small for them then that is pretty unfortunate for most guys since I did a quick Google search to back up my statement and the average length was around 5.6 inches. I always considered penis size to be something guys cared more about anyway since it mainly is a self esteem issue above all else, but I am aware that when a girl says it "doesn't matter" they could just be BSing. Regardless, looking at the numbers should be sobering to people thinking something like 8 inches is ideal because the chance of you finding a decent guy with that isn't all that high.

 

[fallenchaoskitten]

Ohh.... it also doesn't mention what it actually GAVE me on the website.
Like, I didn't have it until after I started on it and now have to take another medication because of it...
And my doctor did tell me that it isn't exactly uncommon to have that happen when taking this kind of contraception... sometimes the body regulates itself out in like 9months or more, but sometimes it does... like my case. ^^'
Even when I was there in the hospital for my last check up, one of her nurses got it from it as well... and she is using the same medicine as me. She is lucky though that her body is mostly regulating it's back to normal, but it was nice talking to someone else who have the same problem. ^^'

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If they think 7 is too small for them then that is pretty unfortunate for most guys since I did a quick Google search to back up my statement and the average length was around 5.6 inches. I always considered penis size to be something guys cared more about anyway since it mainly is a self esteem issue above all else, but I am aware that when a girl says it "doesn't matter" they could just be BSing. Regardless, looking at the numbers should be sobering to people thinking something like 8 inches is ideal because the chance of you finding a decent guy with that isn't all that high.

It is avg. for a reason... Because there are men who are only 2 and others that are 10. And even the avg between those numbers is 6.
But really, you can have or not, if you don't know how to use it, what's the use?
Everyone has their personal preference to things. And just as some men take into consideration natural breast size ((which I think avg size is C in US sizes ... which are ****ed up anyways which I won't get into unless asked)) some people take into consideration natural* penis size. Even if the sizes they are wanting are unrealistic.

* natural meaning when erect size and not using any means to actually enlarge their born-with size... didn't mean natural as in flaccid.

 

[Fearthecuteness]

I decided to open it... And I read through what I am currently on... and... well... it kinda down-played the true risk of it.
Like, if you open a medical dictionary or a OB/PEDs new college textbooks it says ((not a student, but I worked at a college bookstore and it would get boring sometimes)) because of the risk you should be on it for no more than 2 years. And new studies ((like within past year or so)) say to only take it for 1 year. Nothing of that is mentioned there on the website. The topic of why the books say two years is mentioned, but down played.
And I even asked my dr about it and she agreed as well, but mentioned tests that can be done to make sure that a person is healthy enough to continue past the 2 year mark.
... Now this is only with the kind I am on, so I can't talk about the accuracy of the others.

With that being said.
I'm running over to FB to ask my huge all natural insane activist friend the links to her research pages about contraception. Since she is the one who told me that the time you should be on it went from 2 years down to 1.

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Ummm... I think they were joking about the width thing. XP
Mostly because I know several women that think 7 is too small. So, no, it's not "typically painful" for most women experienced or not. ^^'
And if you aren't experienced, any size could hurt you really... even those considered below average.

Oh really? Hmm. Maybe it's different in the uk.

 

[fallenchaoskitten]

Oh really? Hmm. Maybe it's different in the uk.

It's the "depo"... which is the shot. I would assume something called by the same medical name would be the same through any country.

I have heard outside of the books that to only be on it for 2 years because of the bone lose... But it really isn't about the bone loss and you get osteoporosis like now, but when it is time for menopause you kinda screwed yourself over and are extremely likely to have it.
If someone just says they want to be on the shot and request it, I guess some doctors assume they already know some of the side effects like that, since some women will be on it for 8 or so years and never knew it could do that.
It seemed like they kinda played it down of the website with if you're under 19 you should be fine... which isn't always the case.
I hate to compare something like this to smoking, but most of the times the effects of smoking take years after you have stopped to start to effect you.
I talked with my doctor because my regular doctor put me on this insane diet plan so I was worried about malnutrition by ways of Vit D and Cal to help maintain my bones. And I knew I was getting close to just the 1 year. They can do bone density tests to check to make sure your bones are staying at or above "avg" to insure you are safe to continue something like that for a longer time.

Also, the depo, or really any "no estrogen" can cause your body to kinda STOP making it's natural estrogen. Which your body needs... And that is what is happening with me as a result of the depo. I can't take anything estrogen BC wise safely because of my migraines. ((and thanks to a stupid person at plan parenthood I learned that the hard way.))
Other kinda "non-estrogen" BC's are out there. There is a pill, which after doing research and talking with people I found out it isn't really that good of a BC. And then here is the insert, both in arm or tubes.
Inserts are great in that you don't want to remember things and can get ones that last 3, 5, or 7 years.
It is more likely that if you do get pregnant while on the insert compared to the depo, to be a tubal.
... Which I don't think I could really handle that. I just don't think I could handle going through something like a tubal with my mind set at the moment. ^^'
Though, the likely hood of getting pregnant while using either insert or shot is said to be the equivalent to or not as likely as just using a condom.
But anyways, out of them, the depo is more likely to do that whole "body stop making estrogen" thing compared to the inserts. Idk why. I forgot what my doctor told me. XP

But really, if the body not making estrogen because of your BC is scary, there is a cream for that.
It can help regulate it back to how the body was before... just takes time to find the right dose.
I'll tell you from experience that when you kinda have the right dose, labeto skyrockets. If it is way too high, you feel like you are completely insane and you will just be sitting there and sudden out of no where start to cry and you will have no idea why you are crying so you will get upset because you are confused and cry even more. >.> ((I think I saw a glance of what people talk about with pregnancy hormones at that stage XP))
But I know in the USA many facilities actually have samples of it for you if that is your problem instead of making you buy the prescription. ((last two times they gave me free samples despite me having a prescription XP))

Oh, and the website did say it is 12 weeks for the depo, but I didn't see it mention that it is often times done more frequently than 12 weeks.
Just thought some info I would share...
If you are of the people who are having the crazy period it talked about after you start the shot have and been on it at least 6mos, they recommend changing it from every 12 to every 11 or 10 weeks. And just 1 or 2 weeks does make a huge difference. =3


But anyways...
...
I read a lot of pamphlets they have in the office. o.o
They have a lot of info...
Too bad my next dr visit isn't until late next month or I would see if they have a website written on them. >.>

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I don't think my wall of text is big enough. >.>


EDIT
So... if anyone has questions about the shot and side effects and that kinda thing, I'd be more than happy to help either with you posting or PMing me.
I am not the only one who has been on it. My sister was on it and 4 of my friends were on it... So I got to not only experience it myself, but hear how it effected my friends as well.

 

[fallenchaoskitten]

Awe. I just saw front and I got credited. -feels special-
...
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And I really hope the stuff I touched on in my wall of text doesn't scare anyone away from BC.
It really just was to show the importance of doing research, actually read the pamphlets at the offices, and to have serious conversations with your medical provider to insure you get the correct form that can better protect you and regulate your hormones in a safe manner.
Everything has side effects now-a-days with every type of medication. It is important to read and learn about them. Once you do, it is much simpler to learn ways to help prevent being on of the people who get that side effect. ^-^

 

[rockthemike13]

I do not force myself to engage in sexual activity with my partner. I enjoy it as much as he does and I try to open myself up more to the idea of it since having it out of my mind for a long time, I just forget to remember. Me and my husband have a very active and healthy marriage in all aspects and when he is in the mood, and I am not feeling bad or sick, of course I will switch my mindset over. Sex is not as important to me the last year or so because, again of some health issues, but I am not forcing myself and my husband understands completely when I can't or don't feel up to anything. My general point was that going around and saying sex isn't important in a marriage, don't do it! ..Is irresponsible advice to give. When you are marriage you share your soul with that person, you tell them everything, you think of them as your best friend, sex is a physical way to express that love and connection. It can be a very big part of bonding between two people. If you have kids running around, don't talk, don't hang out, don't go out on dates or aren't intimate, then what the hell is going on? That would seem like torture to me. To each his own I guess...

I say this with utmost respect to you and whoever else may disagree with me, but I don't feel sex is an integral part of a healthy relationship. From my years of dealing with people and witnessing relationships rise and fall, it merely seems like a perk.

I don't feel this is irresponsible or ignorant, I would oppose you in this matter and encourage any body who feels they are being pressured, or are pressuring other people into sex that they are the ones acting out of line.

My wife and I spend almost all of our waking hours when we are not working together. We cook, watch movies, watch tv, play video games, go hiking, travel, go shopping, pretty much every thing. Very little if any of that time is spent having intercourse, and I would say we are perfectly happy together. After 6 years of being together we're still inseparable, and love each other just as much as we did when we first met.

I am not saying not to have sex, just expressing that it is merely my opinion that people emphasize far too much importance on it, when I feel it shouldn't be put on a pedestal at all. If it happens, it happens, if it doesn't, there are still amazing ways to share your love for each other.

 

[HarmoniousMelody]

I say this with utmost respect to you and whoever else may disagree with me, but I don't feel sex is an integral part of a healthy relationship. From my years of dealing with people and witnessing relationships rise and fall, it merely seems like a perk.

I don't feel this is irresponsible or ignorant, I would oppose you in this matter and encourage any body who feels they are being pressured, or are pressuring other people into sex that they are the ones acting out of line.

My wife and I spend almost all of our waking hours when we are not working together. We cook, watch movies, watch tv, play video games, go hiking, travel, go shopping, pretty much every thing. Very little if any of that time is spent having intercourse, and I would say we are perfectly happy together. After 6 years of being together we're still inseparable, and love each other just as much as we did when we first met.

I am not saying not to have sex, just expressing that it is merely my opinion that people emphasize far too much importance on it, when I feel it shouldn't be put on a pedestal at all. If it happens, it happens, if it doesn't, there are still amazing ways to share your love for each other.

Couldn't agree with you more

 

[xxLollyxx]

I say this with utmost respect to you and whoever else may disagree with me, but I don't feel sex is an integral part of a healthy relationship. From my years of dealing with people and witnessing relationships rise and fall, it merely seems like a perk.

I don't feel this is irresponsible or ignorant, I would oppose you in this matter and encourage any body who feels they are being pressured, or are pressuring other people into sex that they are the ones acting out of line.

My wife and I spend almost all of our waking hours when we are not working together. We cook, watch movies, watch tv, play video games, go hiking, travel, go shopping, pretty much every thing. Very little if any of that time is spent having intercourse, and I would say we are perfectly happy together. After 6 years of being together we're still inseparable, and love each other just as much as we did when we first met.

I am not saying not to have sex, just expressing that it is merely my opinion that people emphasize far too much importance on it, when I feel it shouldn't be put on a pedestal at all. If it happens, it happens, if it doesn't, there are still amazing ways to share your love for each other.

I think it's so nice that you and your wife enjoy each other in non-sexual ways. Every relationship is different so what is normal to one relationship, may not be normal to everyone else and just because you do each other like crazy doesn't mean the relationship is happy or great either. I have an amazing relationship with my husband and we do sooo many different things together. We go on dates, we shop, play video games, lay in bed and talk and laugh all day, we can do anything and be happy together. We express our feelings in different ways all the time. Sex isn't necessarily love...and being in love doesn't necessarily mean having sex. However I think we have a perfect balance we do that almost daily though lol so for us, that is an important aspect. Every other aspect is just as important though and we make sure we talk and communicate and are honest about everything.

I don't get why guys are so obsessed with size. I saw someone mentioning the average. Do you guys actually like measure it? Why would you do that? Who do you even share that info with?
Too big is a problem too. It can hurt and be painful. Do men ever think about that?

 

[rockthemike13]

I have an amazing relationship with my husband and we do sooo many different things together. We go on dates, we shop, play video games, lay in bed and talk and laugh all day, we can do anything and be happy together. We express our feelings in different ways all the time.

That just completely made my day! I wanted to thank you for sharing that, I work all day and hear nothing but how terribly unhappy people are with their boyfriends/girlfriends/spouses. About people getting cheated on, getting divorced, not loving their partners any more, staying together because of unplanned pregnancies, etc etc etc. It's so incredibly awesome to hear successful love stories. I hope you and your husband stay happy together for the rest of your days!

 

[Diamondarcadia]

As I said before, to each his own I wish you all good luck in your relationships. Keep doing whatever keeps you happy and together

 

[Fearthecuteness]

It's the "depo"... which is the shot. I would assume something called by the same medical name would be the same through any country.

I have heard outside of the books that to only be on it for 2 years because of the bone lose... But it really isn't about the bone loss and you get osteoporosis like now, but when it is time for menopause you kinda screwed yourself over and are extremely likely to have it.
If someone just says they want to be on the shot and request it, I guess some doctors assume they already know some of the side effects like that, since some women will be on it for 8 or so years and never knew it could do that.
It seemed like they kinda played it down of the website with if you're under 19 you should be fine... which isn't always the case.
I hate to compare something like this to smoking, but most of the times the effects of smoking take years after you have stopped to start to effect you.
I talked with my doctor because my regular doctor put me on this insane diet plan so I was worried about malnutrition by ways of Vit D and Cal to help maintain my bones. And I knew I was getting close to just the 1 year. They can do bone density tests to check to make sure your bones are staying at or above "avg" to insure you are safe to continue something like that for a longer time.

Also, the depo, or really any "no estrogen" can cause your body to kinda STOP making it's natural estrogen. Which your body needs... And that is what is happening with me as a result of the depo. I can't take anything estrogen BC wise safely because of my migraines. ((and thanks to a stupid person at plan parenthood I learned that the hard way.))
Other kinda "non-estrogen" BC's are out there. There is a pill, which after doing research and talking with people I found out it isn't really that good of a BC. And then here is the insert, both in arm or tubes.
Inserts are great in that you don't want to remember things and can get ones that last 3, 5, or 7 years.
It is more likely that if you do get pregnant while on the insert compared to the depo, to be a tubal.
... Which I don't think I could really handle that. I just don't think I could handle going through something like a tubal with my mind set at the moment. ^^'
Though, the likely hood of getting pregnant while using either insert or shot is said to be the equivalent to or not as likely as just using a condom.
But anyways, out of them, the depo is more likely to do that whole "body stop making estrogen" thing compared to the inserts. Idk why. I forgot what my doctor told me. XP

But really, if the body not making estrogen because of your BC is scary, there is a cream for that.
It can help regulate it back to how the body was before... just takes time to find the right dose.
I'll tell you from experience that when you kinda have the right dose, labeto skyrockets. If it is way too high, you feel like you are completely insane and you will just be sitting there and sudden out of no where start to cry and you will have no idea why you are crying so you will get upset because you are confused and cry even more. >.> ((I think I saw a glance of what people talk about with pregnancy hormones at that stage XP))
But I know in the USA many facilities actually have samples of it for you if that is your problem instead of making you buy the prescription. ((last two times they gave me free samples despite me having a prescription XP))

Oh, and the website did say it is 12 weeks for the depo, but I didn't see it mention that it is often times done more frequently than 12 weeks.
Just thought some info I would share...
If you are of the people who are having the crazy period it talked about after you start the shot have and been on it at least 6mos, they recommend changing it from every 12 to every 11 or 10 weeks. And just 1 or 2 weeks does make a huge difference. =3


But anyways...
...
I read a lot of pamphlets they have in the office. o.o
They have a lot of info...
Too bad my next dr visit isn't until late next month or I would see if they have a website written on them. >.>

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I don't think my wall of text is big enough. >.>


EDIT
So... if anyone has questions about the shot and side effects and that kinda thing, I'd be more than happy to help either with you posting or PMing me.
I am not the only one who has been on it. My sister was on it and 4 of my friends were on it... So I got to not only experience it myself, but hear how it effected my friends as well.

Ahhh. Too much information for my brain to take in at once. Dx but yeah. I'm on the depo and here they give you a test every 2 years to make sure you can stay on it and you can stay on it till you're like 40 or something.

 

[fallenchaoskitten]

Ahhh. Too much information for my brain to take in at once. Dx but yeah. I'm on the depo and here they give you a test every 2 years to make sure you can stay on it and you can stay on it till you're like 40 or something.

I sorry. TT^TT

I don't get why guys are so obsessed with size. I saw someone mentioning the average. Do you guys actually like measure it? Why would you do that? Who do you even share that info with?
Too big is a problem too. It can hurt and be painful. Do men ever think about that?

It was something someone asked which is why we all started talking about it. XP

Many high school and middle school boys measure and have locker room "competitions" ... and it soooooo irritating to hear about. -dated a jock/weight lifter in high school- But not all of them do.
I guess it makes those little boys feel like men. -rolls eyes-

But yes, large penis sizes can actually hurt someone.
... Just like large breast can actually come up and smack you or your partner in the face and hurt them, just not as painful. ((... has happened to my "very gifted" sister a few times...))
I mostly wanted to express the breast size thing w/ the penis size thing... mostly because I see women obsessed with their breast size as well and feel that people put way too much expectation into the size of their or their partners body parts without actually really thinking about it. XP

 

[radical6]

"Reminder for those who don’t know, if you have a vagina, make sure to urinate immediately after you have P-in-V sex. Bacteria can get in your urethra during P-in-V intercourse so as soon as you are done having sex, go to the bathroom to pee, even if it doesn’t feel like you need to, because even a little pee can flush out the bacteria and prevent a UTI. I didn’t know about this and I got a UTI from my first time, and it was super awful and uncomfortable and unfortunately even those with good sex education rarely learn info like this. I want everyone with a vagina to know how to prevent it because UTIs suck hard. That is all."

well i didnt know that. good to know i guess

 

[Kyle]

"Reminder for those who don’t know, if you have a vagina, make sure to urinate immediately after you have P-in-V sex. Bacteria can get in your urethra during P-in-V intercourse so as soon as you are done having sex, go to the bathroom to pee, even if it doesn’t feel like you need to, because even a little pee can flush out the bacteria and prevent a UTI. I didn’t know about this and I got a UTI from my first time, and it was super awful and uncomfortable and unfortunately even those with good sex education rarely learn info like this. I want everyone with a vagina to know how to prevent it because UTIs suck hard. That is all."

well i didnt know that. good to know i guess

Also applies to guys, but most get the need to go naturally so it's not so bad.

 

[Fearthecuteness]

"Reminder for those who don’t know, if you have a vagina, make sure to urinate immediately after you have P-in-V sex. Bacteria can get in your urethra during P-in-V intercourse so as soon as you are done having sex, go to the bathroom to pee, even if it doesn’t feel like you need to, because even a little pee can flush out the bacteria and prevent a UTI. I didn’t know about this and I got a UTI from my first time, and it was super awful and uncomfortable and unfortunately even those with good sex education rarely learn info like this. I want everyone with a vagina to know how to prevent it because UTIs suck hard. That is all."

well i didnt know that. good to know i guess

Thanks for bringing this up. I've been meaning to mention about this. That's why I'm stuck with a kidney infection right now and trust me, you don't want one of those.

Also if you have any kind of UTI then don't have sex until you finish taking all your antibiotics. It can just make it worse so it will take longer to recover. I read a few times that if you have sex when you have a kidney infection you can die. Can someone tell me if this is true or not?

Oh and some other things you can't have while you have a UTI is ANYTHING with sugar. When I say anything I mean even things that have natural sugar like oranges because the bacteria feeds on sugar.
Drink plenty of water and if you can, sugar free cranberry juice.

 

[fallenchaoskitten]

Thanks for bringing this up. I've been meaning to mention about this. That's why I'm stuck with a kidney infection right now and trust me, you don't want one of those.

Also if you have any kind of UTI then don't have sex until you finish taking all your antibiotics. It can just make it worse so it will take longer to recover. I read a few times that if you have sex when you have a kidney infection you can die. Can someone tell me if this is true or not?

Oh and some other things you can't have while you have a UTI is ANYTHING with sugar. When I say anything I mean even things that have natural sugar like oranges because the bacteria feeds on sugar.
Drink plenty of water and if you can, sugar free cranberry juice.

... I never heard of the "no sugar" when you have a UTI.
Good info.
And there are a lot of home remedies if you can't afford the antibiotics.
I thought I actually had a UTI, but when I went to the doctor, it actually already got to the Kidney Infection without me knowing... And it wasn't from sex, I think it was something to do with my tampons... I can't remember, but UTI's are actually pretty common thing outside of sex.
So, I felt your pain... They reallllly suck.
But, I have never heard of you could die from having sex when you have it... I know if untreated then it can cause permanent damage to your Kidneys.

ANYWAYS
The antibiotics were too expensive, and I had no insurance at the time. But I mean, I had to get rid of the Kidney Infection...
At home stuff is drinking lots of water, and ONLY water, and eat a few hand fulls of cranberries a day... I don't like cranberries, but I like craisins ((dried out cranberries kinda like raisins)) which is what I ate.
It took longer than if you would actually take the antibiotics, but if you can't afford them... then... yeah. XP


ON A SIDE NOTE
While trying to look up the whole die thing... I found this... Something I did not know...
"Recent spermicide use. Women with kidney infections were almost twice as likely to have recently used a spermicide. "
source :: http://www.webmd.com/news/20050105/sex-affects-womens-kidney-infection-risk
I also hit on some other topics of ways to get it ... like...
"Frequent sexual intercourse. Frequent sexual intercourse (greater than three times per week) over the last 30 days was found to increase the risk of kidney infections more than fivefold. "
... Which made me insanely shocked myself and most of my friends haven't had Kidney Infections from sex. XP
But, I always pee'd after sex and I think most of them do, too.

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OH!!! If you have a kidney infection, whatever you do, don't drink sweet ice tea. And the stuff can actually CAUSE a kidney infection, too!
When I was little I use to drink nothing but that pretty much... and IT gave me a kidney infection TWICE. I was too little to understand at the time, but basically I am no longer allowed to drink sweet ice tea ((and it maybe all tea actually)) per doctors orders.
I still cheat sometimes and maybe once a month or every other month, make a pitcher of tea for my husband and I, but very rarely.
I think it did actually do some damage to my kidneys? Maybe that is why I am completely forbidden to have the stuff? I don't know. I was like... 5 or something. People lie to you at that age to make things not as scary. XP
Only people who could tell me if it was damaging are either dead or won't tell me since they don't probably want me asking questions about how they accidentally over dosed me twice when I was little, too. XP
My family is a much of liars who cover stuff up to much. XP