Serious Talk on Sex -Keep It Mature! description about a manga now added

[Bearica]

Also:
Sex is nothing to be ashamed of (or to shame others because of) - it's perfectly natural. Whether you're in a relationship or not, you should never feel ashamed of having sex. It can be intimidating, especially at first, but it gets better once you learn what you like and dislike and especially if you're open with your partner about these things. Communication is always key!

 

[Leanne]

Your hymen doesn't get broken. Just stretched out. Virginity is more of a concept so stretching your hymen a little won't make you lose it. xD

Before I had sex with my boyfriend, we fooled around a lot and I think he stretched my hymen a bit before we actually had sex. It was a lot more comfortable and didn't hurt like many people said it would. But it's your choice. Some stretching may be more comfortable for you when you do have sex for the first time.

Oh my god I feel more embarrassed now than when I typed the word masturbation for the first time on this thread. Sorrryyyyy v.v . I don't know much about this, and I don't want to do much googling because my dad monitors my internet usage and I don't want to have him looking at me funnily when he finds out what I tried to google.

I was under the impression the hymen just broke.

I'm so so so sorrryyyyy for my ignorance ^^;;;

I guess if that's the case I will try to use my fingers more and see how it goes. But I need to wait for a day I know I will be completely alone at home hahaha.

Thank you everyone again ^^. I feel much, much better about many things after coming to this thread. I'm really happy I decided to ask my questions and I'm really happy I got responses to everything. ^^

Also:
Sex is nothing to be ashamed of (or to shame others because of) - it's perfectly natural. Whether you're in a relationship or not, you should never feel ashamed of having sex. It can be intimidating, especially at first, but it gets better once you learn what you like and dislike and especially if you're open with your partner about these things. Communication is always key!

I actually grew up in a family where sex is not frowned upon or anything. My parents always told me that if I had any questions, just ask them. But to be honest it feels too embarrassing to bring this to my direct family and that's why I don't. My dad bought my brother his first 'magazine', and everything he had to do was ask. My mom told me to tell her "if I ever need anything" in that context, and I think it's much easier to talk to her than to my dad. I maaaayyy ask her about the egg shaped toys because they make me really curious. I think after this thread I feel like I can talk to her more about this too. ^^ This thread has been pretty encouraging for many things, thank you all!

 

[Bearica]

Oh my god I feel more embarrassed now than when I typed the word masturbation for the first time on this thread. Sorrryyyyy v.v . I don't know much about this, and I don't want to do much googling because my dad monitors my internet usage and I don't want to have him looking at me funnily when he finds out what I tried to google.

I was under the impression the hymen just broke.

I'm so so so sorrryyyyy for my ignorance ^^;;;

I guess if that's the case I will try to use my fingers more and see how it goes. But I need to wait for a day I know I will be completely alone at home hahaha.

Thank you everyone again ^^. I feel much, much better about many things after coming to this thread. I'm really happy I decided to ask my questions and I'm really happy I got responses to everything. ^^

The hymen can rip and stretch but it doesn't really "break". It can be torn through things like sports, horse-back riding, bicycling, any number of activities really - it's not something to really associate with virginity if you ask me. That's more like an emotional thing.
I'm glad you feel better about things though! Knowledge is power.

 

[aetherene]

Oh my god I feel more embarrassed now than when I typed the word masturbation for the first time on this thread. Sorrryyyyy v.v . I don't know much about this, and I don't want to do much googling because my dad monitors my internet usage and I don't want to have him looking at me funnily when he finds out what I tried to google.

I was under the impression the hymen just broke.

I'm so so so sorrryyyyy for my ignorance ^^;;;

I guess if that's the case I will try to use my fingers more and see how it goes. But I need to wait for a day I know I will be completely alone at home hahaha.

Thank you everyone again ^^. I feel much, much better about many things after coming to this thread. I'm really happy I decided to ask my questions and I'm really happy I got responses to everything. ^^

It's totally all right! Someone wrote a hymen guide earlier on page 5 of this thread if you want to read it.

If you're going to use your fingers, make sure you wash them beforehand so you don't transmit anything unwanted into your vagina.

 

[Heisenberg]

I could literally ask nothing about sex that I didn't already know. That being said I'm more than happy to answer any questions about it, haha. If you prefer a more personal conversation please feel free to PM me and be assured it will be a mature and for lack of a better phrase- strictly business pm. I'm a twenty-one year old college female who is in a long term relationship and currently (not currently currently, lol) having sex on birth control. If you have questions on periods, birth control (especially the pill), or sex in general I'm open for PMs. In addition I've had three partners in my lifetime, two protected with condoms and one protected with pills and lost my virginity at the age of 14. I won't judge you or look at you any differently if you message me- so please feel free. I've helped quite a few people in the past with their questions. I can listen to your dilemmas and offer advice- any type of high school drama; trust me I've been in that position. Also happy to help with the friends-with benefits concept or your questions on female to male promiscuity. You can also ask me on here but again I'm open to personal PMs if you're not comfortable posting publicly.
It's not a qualification by any sorts but I am graduating in the next few months with a BA in psych and a counseling internship under my belt. ;P

 

[Princess Weeb]

I could literally ask nothing about sex that I didn't already know. That being said I'm more than happy to answer any questions about it, haha. If you prefer a more personal conversation please feel free to PM me and be assured it will be a mature and for lack of a better phrase- strictly business pm. I'm a twenty-one year old college female who is in a long term relationship and currently (not currently currently, lol) having sex on birth control. If you have questions on periods, birth control (especially the pill), or sex in general I'm open for PMs. In addition I've had three partners in my lifetime, two protected with condoms and one protected with pills and lost my virginity at the age of 14. I won't judge you or look at you any differently if you message me- so please feel free. I've helped quite a few people in the past with their questions. I can listen to your dilemmas and offer advice- any type of high school drama; trust me I've been in that position. Also happy to help with the friends-with benefits concept or your questions on female to male promiscuity. You can also ask me on here but again I'm open to personal PMs if you're not comfortable posting publicly.
It's not a qualification by any sorts but I am graduating in the next few months with a BA in psych and a counseling internship under my belt. ;P

(This is kind of an open question but since you mentioned it)
Assuming you're from somewhere where the legal age is over 14, do you (or anyone else that has had sex underage) regret doing it at all? Would you take it back if you could?
People always go on about how you will regret it if you lose your virginity at such a young age, so would a few months or years to make it legal make that much of a difference?

 

[Fearthecuteness]

Oh my god I feel more embarrassed now than when I typed the word masturbation for the first time on this thread. Sorrryyyyy v.v . I don't know much about this, and I don't want to do much googling because my dad monitors my internet usage and I don't want to have him looking at me funnily when he finds out what I tried to google.

I was under the impression the hymen just broke.

I'm so so so sorrryyyyy for my ignorance ^^;;;

I guess if that's the case I will try to use my fingers more and see how it goes. But I need to wait for a day I know I will be completely alone at home hahaha.

Thank you everyone again ^^. I feel much, much better about many things after coming to this thread. I'm really happy I decided to ask my questions and I'm really happy I got responses to everything. ^^



I actually grew up in a family where sex is not frowned upon or anything. My parents always told me that if I had any questions, just ask them. But to be honest it feels too embarrassing to bring this to my direct family and that's why I don't. My dad bought my brother his first 'magazine', and everything he had to do was ask. My mom told me to tell her "if I ever need anything" in that context, and I think it's much easier to talk to her than to my dad. I maaaayyy ask her about the egg shaped toys because they make me really curious. I think after this thread I feel like I can talk to her more about this too. ^^ This thread has been pretty encouraging for many things, thank you all!

Don't worry you're not being ignorant. That's just a thing so many people say that I didn't even know it just stretches until the other day. What you're probably better off with for your first sex toy (in my opinion) is a Small vibrator so you can get the feel more of hat actual sex is like and it should be more comfortable for your first time. Just remember to use a lot of lube with a sex toy.

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Also has anyone here covered anal yet?

 

[Bearica]

(This is kind of an open question but since you mentioned it)
Assuming you're from somewhere where the legal age is over 14, do you (or anyone else that has had sex underage) regret doing it at all? Would you take it back if you could?
People always go on about how you will regret it if you lose your virginity at such a young age, so would a few months or years to make it legal make that much of a difference?

Not the person you're quoting but I lost my virginity when I was 15 (right before I turned 16) and I don't regret it. I mean, it wasn't great or anything but I don't think anyone has ever had a fantastic first time haha. I don't talk to the dude anymore and we stopped talking shortly after it happened but there's no real point in regretting it for the long term, since you can't change what happened. It's important to learn what you like and what you dislike - you won't be compatible with everyone.

 

[aetherene]

No one's talked about anal yet.

I've never done it, so I only know from what I've read: use lots of lube and go slow.

 

[Fearthecuteness]

No one's talked about anal yet.

I've never done it, so I only know from what I've read: use lots of lube and go slow.

Also use protection because you're more prone to getting an STD or STI and you can also get pregnant if the guy ejaculates inside you.
Also never go straight from anal to "normal". you can get all sorts of infections that aren't STIs that way.

 

[Heisenberg]

(This is kind of an open question but since you mentioned it)
Assuming you're from somewhere where the legal age is over 14, do you (or anyone else that has had sex underage) regret doing it at all? Would you take it back if you could?
People always go on about how you will regret it if you lose your virginity at such a young age, so would a few months or years to make it legal make that much of a difference?

It can definitely make a huge difference as far as maturity level to be honest. You never truly realize that you're parents were right when they told you that you didn't know diddle about the world at the age of 12-17 until you're an adult. I'm from Texas and it actually wasn't the legal consent of age when I did it and there was a huge, huge huge confrontation between my family and the male who I was with at the time. He was 17 and I 14 and it was kind of a pressure situation but I can't claim that I didn't fully consent to it. He was going to be tried for statutory rape but the charges were later dropped. But we were in our own little world basically. We did practice it safely though, protection was always a must because I wasn't ready to face the consequences of having a baby. But that's the whole shuhbang right there; I wasn't ready to face the consequences of having a baby- and I realize that I shouldn't have done it. We both realized it. But in essence it's a yes and a no to regretting it. The age for me is often embarrassing to admit and I will always wish that I had given myself to my fiance, and he feels the same way; but we grew from our relationships with other people. I went through a lot of strife loosing it at such a young age because I was scared almost every single time after- pregnancy scares and mind games. You worry about not being able to take care of a child if you really messed up. It's not fair to the guy to say I regret it because I did love him at the time (least I'm pretty sure I did), and it was a pretty serious relationship, but in hindsight I would have loved to have given it to my fiance like I said. But because I do have my doubts, I have to say I do regret it even though it helped to make me who I am today.

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No one's talked about anal yet.

I've never done it, so I only know from what I've read: use lots of lube and go slow.

Go very, very, very slow. It's difficult to convince your partner of this concept but it's key to a pleasurable experience for the both of you! I'm not a personal fan of it, I will do it because he wants to once in a blue moon but to me it's just the feeling of a bowel movement. To others it's pleasure, and of course you could go into a Freudian research spree on that one. But use tons of lube, your anus doesn't create any natural lubrication because of course it's only designed to push things out! Never use spit, shampoo or any other random products; lubrication is the way to go. I don't suggest "fire and ice" ones or tingly ones because it can make the male lose his erection from feeling numb rather than warm, haha.

 

[Fearthecuteness]

Also I'd like to add that it's ok to experiment and use things like fingers and toys on your male partner or if a guy uses this stuff himself. Just because he enjoys it does not make him gay. Since that's where the male version of a G-spot is.

 

[aetherene]

Not the person you're quoting but I lost my virginity when I was 15 (right before I turned 16) and I don't regret it. I mean, it wasn't great or anything but I don't think anyone has ever had a fantastic first time haha. I don't talk to the dude anymore and we stopped talking shortly after it happened but there's no real point in regretting it for the long term, since you can't change what happened. It's important to learn what you like and what you dislike - you won't be compatible with everyone.

I really believe what I bolded.

Compatibility is a big deal with relationships and sex. Mostly because two people's sex drives or sexual act preferences don't match, then no one is gonna be satisfied sexually, which definitely can be a problem unless a compromise is reached.

 

[oath2order]

Also use protection because you're more prone to getting an STD or STI and you can also get pregnant if the guy ejaculates inside you.
Also never go straight from anal to "normal". you can get all sorts of infections that aren't STIs that way.

On this note, don't go FROM anal to anywhere.

You can go from "normal" or anywhere else TO anal, but not reverse.

No one's talked about anal yet.

I've never done it, so I only know from what I've read: use lots of lube and go slow.

Yes. I can guarantee that you will need a lot of lube. I'd recommend that you plan for how much you think you'll need, and get more. Trust me.

 

[Kildor]

How does Anal make a woman feel good? There's no parts that give pleasure in the bumhole, so how's that feel for her?

 

[Fearthecuteness]

How does Anal make a woman feel good? There's no parts that give pleasure in the bumhole, so how's that feel for her?

Some woman actually do find it enjoyable.

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Another important thing that needs to be stated here is ALWAYS go to the bathroom before AND after sex so you flush away the bacteria. Trust me on this one. You don't want a bladder or kidney infection.

 

[Bearica]

How does Anal make a woman feel good? There's no parts that give pleasure in the bumhole, so how's that feel for her?

I've never personally done anal - but it's something I imagine the woman has to actually WANT to do, instead of just doing it because their partner suggested it. So I guess it's an acquired taste for some? Sorry I couldn't answer this better.

 

[Fearthecuteness]

I've never personally done anal - but it's something I imagine the woman has to actually WANT to do, instead of just doing it because their partner suggested it. So I guess it's an acquired taste for some? Sorry I couldn't answer this better.

Not true. I've done it for my partner even though I don't enjoy it.

 

[Heisenberg]

How does Anal make a woman feel good? There's no parts that give pleasure in the bumhole, so how's that feel for her?

It helps to simulate the front part of the body at the same time But really you could ask Freud why if you want some mumbojumbo on it but other than that it just..makes some women feel good. I don't know man, haha. It hasn't felt good for me personally when my partner and I do it so it's really just for him.

 

[Princess Weeb]

Another sort of question idk kinda related

Clingyness?
I get emotionally attached and dependent on people, even those who use me/treat me horribly very very easily, and I find it hard to break away. (Please note by boyfriend treats me like a princess ahah) One of the main reasons I haven't done anything so far (aside from the pregnancy scares thing) is because I'm scared that i would never be able to leave the relationship, and the thought of having more than one sexual partner in my like makes me feel dirty. I think I could put up with it, but I'd hate it.
Any advice?