infinikitten
big old brat tbh
My parents were hands-off to the point of ignoring/neglecting me at times so I don't really understand what people are talking about when they say their parents are overprotective or too involved in their lives. I just can't imagine what that's like. It seems so foreign to me. Because it is, but, yeah. x3
I have a younger sister who my mother parents in a completely different style than she did when she was raising me (we have a big age gap, so I guess she had time to learn from her mistakes? sort of?) and she basically goes everywhere with said sis. Who is 14. Again, I can't imagine it. I was either chilling alone or out with friends when I was 14.
I remember one parent who, while I was out at Costco and had to hit the bathroom, stood outside while her son went off to pee or whatever and made him talk to her the entire time he was in there. I would have been MORTIFIED. I get that you want to keep track of your kid while you're out in public but wooow, that's way too much.
But yeah, as someone who never wants to have kids, I get that parenting is difficult. It's outrageous - you're responsible for another person's life, or more than one if you have multiple children. Every little thing you do will impact them whether you think so or not. Just use yourself as an example - think of all the things your parents have said or done when you were younger, throwaway comments that you've never forgotten, stuff like that. Parents shape their children's lives in more ways than they realize and I could never, and will never, do that. Props to whoever manages to raise a child up to be a healthy and functional human being, but it's HARD to do. Really hard. Give them some credit for trying.
I have a younger sister who my mother parents in a completely different style than she did when she was raising me (we have a big age gap, so I guess she had time to learn from her mistakes? sort of?) and she basically goes everywhere with said sis. Who is 14. Again, I can't imagine it. I was either chilling alone or out with friends when I was 14.
I remember one parent who, while I was out at Costco and had to hit the bathroom, stood outside while her son went off to pee or whatever and made him talk to her the entire time he was in there. I would have been MORTIFIED. I get that you want to keep track of your kid while you're out in public but wooow, that's way too much.
But yeah, as someone who never wants to have kids, I get that parenting is difficult. It's outrageous - you're responsible for another person's life, or more than one if you have multiple children. Every little thing you do will impact them whether you think so or not. Just use yourself as an example - think of all the things your parents have said or done when you were younger, throwaway comments that you've never forgotten, stuff like that. Parents shape their children's lives in more ways than they realize and I could never, and will never, do that. Props to whoever manages to raise a child up to be a healthy and functional human being, but it's HARD to do. Really hard. Give them some credit for trying.
One thing I know I would do would be to try to promote honesty and being able to open up to me about things they were worrying about or curious about, because I've struggled with that sometimes with my parents.
