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Tyeforce said:
Josh. said:
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Does rubbing my hand count? But still don't worry, I'll see what will happen tomorrow in PE
when I see him.
He was rubbing your hand? That's a bit more serious... He does know that you're straight, right? If not, you should make sure he does, or else things could turn out bad for both of you.

Of course, he could just be overly sensitive (as many gay guys are, myself included), and rubbing your hand was merely an expression of comfort, not love.
Yeah he does, But the rubbing was just like once for like 2-5 seconds so I have no idea of what feelings he has to me.
Oh, then that's nothing. I do that all the time. XD I'm so used to rubbing Andrew's hand with my thumb when I hold his hand that I sometimes accidentally do it when holding other people's hands, and sometimes I do it to whatever I'm holding if I'm talking to or thinking about him. XD
 
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He was rubbing your hand? That's a bit more serious... He does know that you're straight, right? If not, you should make sure he does, or else things could turn out bad for both of you.

Of course, he could just be overly sensitive (as many gay guys are, myself included), and rubbing your hand was merely an expression of comfort, not love.
Yeah he does, But the rubbing was just like once for like 2-5 seconds so I have no idea of what feelings he has to me.
Oh, then that's nothing. I do that all the time. XD I'm so used to rubbing Andrew's hand with my thumb when I hold his hand that I sometimes accidentally do it when holding other people's hands, and sometimes I do it to whatever I'm holding if I'm talking to or thinking about him. XD
:P Then okay.
 
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in josh.'s defense, and to point it out again, i would be freaked out, too, depending on the type of hand-holding. if it was just kind of a handshake hand-hold, that's fine, but if he just sat/stood there and held my hand.. that's a different story.

either way though, he should be his friend still, obviously. it's just the whole shock, coupled with that action.
Holding hands ≠ love. I'm sure he didn't hold his hand because he liked him. He knows he's straight, so why would he hit on him? Seriously, why are straight guys so afraid of gay guys hitting on them? >_>

Besides, holding hands, no matter what gender or sexuality, is a sign of comfort, friendship, and happiness, among other feelings, not just love. Close friends hold hands all the time. I've held hands with my male friends and female friends, straight friends and gay friends. You should be smart enough to know when it means love and when it's just friendly comfort. Obviously, if it's with someone who doesn't even have the same sexual preference as you, then it's not love.
I'm straight, and I don't hold anyone's hand.

if you were to ask any other straight guy, I would feel safe to say that he doesn't go around holding his friends hands as a sign of comfort or anything.

girls/gay guys, I can't speak for, but heterosexual male, i am.

i'm not homophobic, but i would be freaked out by that. not if the person was hitting on me or anything, just if they were doing that.
 
Psychonaut said:
Tyeforce said:
Psychonaut said:
in josh.'s defense, and to point it out again, i would be freaked out, too, depending on the type of hand-holding. if it was just kind of a handshake hand-hold, that's fine, but if he just sat/stood there and held my hand.. that's a different story.

either way though, he should be his friend still, obviously. it's just the whole shock, coupled with that action.
Holding hands ≠ love. I'm sure he didn't hold his hand because he liked him. He knows he's straight, so why would he hit on him? Seriously, why are straight guys so afraid of gay guys hitting on them? >_>

Besides, holding hands, no matter what gender or sexuality, is a sign of comfort, friendship, and happiness, among other feelings, not just love. Close friends hold hands all the time. I've held hands with my male friends and female friends, straight friends and gay friends. You should be smart enough to know when it means love and when it's just friendly comfort. Obviously, if it's with someone who doesn't even have the same sexual preference as you, then it's not love.
I'm straight, and I don't hold anyone's hand.

if you were to ask any other straight guy, I would feel safe to say that he doesn't go around holding his friends hands as a sign of comfort or anything.

girls/gay guys, I can't speak for, but heterosexual male, i am.

i'm not homophobic, but i would be freaked out by that. not if the person was hitting on me or anything, just if they were doing that.
I'm not talking about just any random straight guy, I'm talking about a very close friend. And, yes, some people just aren't the hand holding type. But not every straight guy is so uptight like that.
 
Tyeforce said:
Psychonaut said:
Tyeforce said:
Psychonaut said:
in josh.'s defense, and to point it out again, i would be freaked out, too, depending on the type of hand-holding. if it was just kind of a handshake hand-hold, that's fine, but if he just sat/stood there and held my hand.. that's a different story.

either way though, he should be his friend still, obviously. it's just the whole shock, coupled with that action.
Holding hands ≠ love. I'm sure he didn't hold his hand because he liked him. He knows he's straight, so why would he hit on him? Seriously, why are straight guys so afraid of gay guys hitting on them? >_>

Besides, holding hands, no matter what gender or sexuality, is a sign of comfort, friendship, and happiness, among other feelings, not just love. Close friends hold hands all the time. I've held hands with my male friends and female friends, straight friends and gay friends. You should be smart enough to know when it means love and when it's just friendly comfort. Obviously, if it's with someone who doesn't even have the same sexual preference as you, then it's not love.
I'm straight, and I don't hold anyone's hand.

if you were to ask any other straight guy, I would feel safe to say that he doesn't go around holding his friends hands as a sign of comfort or anything.

girls/gay guys, I can't speak for, but heterosexual male, i am.

i'm not homophobic, but i would be freaked out by that. not if the person was hitting on me or anything, just if they were doing that.
But not every straight guy is so uptight like that.
Most I know are. Then again, there's majorities and stereotypes and the exceptions to the rules. Nothing is 100% every time.
 
Tyeforce said:
Psychonaut said:
Tyeforce said:
Psychonaut said:
in josh.'s defense, and to point it out again, i would be freaked out, too, depending on the type of hand-holding. if it was just kind of a handshake hand-hold, that's fine, but if he just sat/stood there and held my hand.. that's a different story.

either way though, he should be his friend still, obviously. it's just the whole shock, coupled with that action.
Holding hands ≠ love. I'm sure he didn't hold his hand because he liked him. He knows he's straight, so why would he hit on him? Seriously, why are straight guys so afraid of gay guys hitting on them? >_>

Besides, holding hands, no matter what gender or sexuality, is a sign of comfort, friendship, and happiness, among other feelings, not just love. Close friends hold hands all the time. I've held hands with my male friends and female friends, straight friends and gay friends. You should be smart enough to know when it means love and when it's just friendly comfort. Obviously, if it's with someone who doesn't even have the same sexual preference as you, then it's not love.
I'm straight, and I don't hold anyone's hand.

if you were to ask any other straight guy, I would feel safe to say that he doesn't go around holding his friends hands as a sign of comfort or anything.

girls/gay guys, I can't speak for, but heterosexual male, i am.

i'm not homophobic, but i would be freaked out by that. not if the person was hitting on me or anything, just if they were doing that.
I'm not talking about just any random straight guy, I'm talking about a very close friend. And, yes, some people just aren't the hand holding type. But not every straight guy is so uptight like that.
random or best friend ever, holding hands isn't normal/normal for straight guys, in my opinion.

I would dare to say that it would be awkward for a girl if a guy she's close to but isn't dating holds her hand, as well.. but i can't really speak for that percentage
 
I've seen plenty of platonic guy/girl relationships have hand holding in them.

In other countries holding hands between people of the same sex is considered ok. In the US it's considered mostly taboo unfortunately.
 
Okay, This is really crazy now. So basically at school I started talking to him again, he was happy about that and I was like okay cool. But now he's actually changed, Since he knows I know he's gay, He can finally act all gay around me like saying to me "Don't you think Brad Pit is sexy?" of course I said know. He knows 100% that I'm straight, I guess he's taking advantages and it's actually getting to me like joking around acting like I'm gay with him.

Now I feel like well, I'm pissed at him. I guess this'll change your minds.
 
Josh. said:
Okay, This is really crazy now. So basically at school I started talking to him again, he was happy about that and I was like okay cool. But now he's actually changed, Since he knows I know he's gay, He can finally act all gay around me like saying to me "Don't you think Brad Pit is sexy?" of course I said know. He knows 100% that I'm straight, I guess he's taking advantages and it's actually getting to me like joking around acting like I'm gay with him.

Now I feel like well, I'm pissed at him. I guess this'll change your minds.
Why don't you tell him that then?
 
Yeohkei said:
Josh. said:
Okay, This is really crazy now. So basically at school I started talking to him again, he was happy about that and I was like okay cool. But now he's actually changed, Since he knows I know he's gay, He can finally act all gay around me like saying to me "Don't you think Brad Pit is sexy?" of course I said know. He knows 100% that I'm straight, I guess he's taking advantages and it's actually getting to me like joking around acting like I'm gay with him.

Now I feel like well, I'm pissed at him. I guess this'll change your minds.
Why don't you tell him that then?
I have like, How many times and he well... He's not those type of guys who are serious.
 
Josh. said:
Okay, This is really crazy now. So basically at school I started talking to him again, he was happy about that and I was like okay cool. But now he's actually changed, Since he knows I know he's gay, He can finally act all gay around me like saying to me "Don't you think Brad Pit is sexy?" of course I said know. He knows 100% that I'm straight, I guess he's taking advantages and it's actually getting to me like joking around acting like I'm gay with him.

Now I feel like well, I'm pissed at him. I guess this'll change your minds.
Yeah, you can't be friends with him anymore. Just say you never want to talk to him anymore and be done with that freak!
 
Injustice said:
Josh. said:
Okay, This is really crazy now. So basically at school I started talking to him again, he was happy about that and I was like okay cool. But now he's actually changed, Since he knows I know he's gay, He can finally act all gay around me like saying to me "Don't you think Brad Pit is sexy?" of course I said know. He knows 100% that I'm straight, I guess he's taking advantages and it's actually getting to me like joking around acting like I'm gay with him.

Now I feel like well, I'm pissed at him. I guess this'll change your minds.
Yeah, you can't be friends with him anymore. Just say you never want to talk to him anymore and be done with that freak!
You be trollin.
 
Bacon Boy said:
Injustice said:
Josh. said:
Okay, This is really crazy now. So basically at school I started talking to him again, he was happy about that and I was like okay cool. But now he's actually changed, Since he knows I know he's gay, He can finally act all gay around me like saying to me "Don't you think Brad Pit is sexy?" of course I said know. He knows 100% that I'm straight, I guess he's taking advantages and it's actually getting to me like joking around acting like I'm gay with him.

Now I feel like well, I'm pissed at him. I guess this'll change your minds.
Yeah, you can't be friends with him anymore. Just say you never want to talk to him anymore and be done with that freak!
You be trollin.
/sarcasm
 
Injustice said:
Bacon Boy said:
Injustice said:
Josh. said:
Okay, This is really crazy now. So basically at school I started talking to him again, he was happy about that and I was like okay cool. But now he's actually changed, Since he knows I know he's gay, He can finally act all gay around me like saying to me "Don't you think Brad Pit is sexy?" of course I said know. He knows 100% that I'm straight, I guess he's taking advantages and it's actually getting to me like joking around acting like I'm gay with him.

Now I feel like well, I'm pissed at him. I guess this'll change your minds.
Yeah, you can't be friends with him anymore. Just say you never want to talk to him anymore and be done with that freak!
You be trollin.
/sarcasm
/can't be read over the internet that well
 
Josh. said:
Okay, This is really crazy now. So basically at school I started talking to him again, he was happy about that and I was like okay cool. But now he's actually changed, Since he knows I know he's gay, He can finally act all gay around me like saying to me "Don't you think Brad Pit is sexy?" of course I said know. He knows 100% that I'm straight, I guess he's taking advantages and it's actually getting to me like joking around acting like I'm gay with him.

Now I feel like well, I'm pissed at him. I guess this'll change your minds.
lots of gay guys do that, imo. solely based on the ones that i have been in class with/known, not merely by stereotyping them/coming from a baseless assumption. my friend did the same thing, i usually/always told him "*censored.4.0* i ain't gay, lololol" or something along those lines. he joked back about that, and it wasn't that big of a deal to either of us.

he isn't trying to convert you or make you see brad pitt/whoever he is attracted to the same way he does, he's just joking around.

if he really can't stop it when you tell him how you feel about it, then my opinion is he would have been the same way before he was gay (ex: not stopping jokes when you're offended/hurt/uncomfortable/etc) and in that case, it's your decision as to whether you feel he is really a good/close friend or not.

his sexual preference has nothing to do with his actions.

while gay people have a stereotype that they're all flaming and trying to convert/hump everything they see, not every one of them is like that, and it all depends upon their personality.

if you were to reverse the roles, with him being a "flaming heterosexual", would you feel any more uncomfortable with him talking about how hot/sexy/etc that X movie star is?
 
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