In a dilema here CLOSE NOW

[Josh]

So my friend who has been my friend for ages (3-4 years) has just told me that he's gay. Then I said Don't worry and he held my hand and said thank you. I felt really uncomfortable and when I see him it's all weird. I'm not gay, bi or lesbian and I'm not going to say that well... I'm not a fan of gay people ect but yeah I still treat them the same as a normal person but I couldn't be best friends or good friends with one, It's scary because he's the first gay person I've known offline EVER.

So should I be his friend or not?

Yeah I know blog tree and if I'm not a fan of gay's or whatever than go ahead and flame me, It's my opinion and well, you're not going to change it.

 

[Micah]

Yeah, I'd still be his friend. He was your friend before you knew his orientation so why should that change it?

Not all gay people want to have sex with every guy they see just like straight people don't want a relationship with everyone of the opposite gender. That's a pretty big myth.

I'd imagine it's pretty tough to come out. He's probably looking for someone who can understand and still be his friend through it all. The fact he told you means he trusts you. You should be flattered.

 

[Ron Ronaldo]

Of course you should still be his friend!

It's a little conceited if you're uncomfortable because you think he's going to hit on you. Do you like every girl you're friends with? =\ And even if he did like you that way, I doubt he'd do anything about it because he knows that you're straight.

Sexuality shouldn't determine whether or not you're friends with someone. Just be a good friend and support him through this. Why is his being gay scary?

 

[Psychonaut]

sure, why not?

just make sure that if he continues to do things like that, to tell him that you aren't comfortable with him doing those things (like holding your hand, etc)

other than that, he's the same person as you knew before. if you were good friends beforehand, why not now?

if he changes into something else after it's known that he's gay, then you have a reason to not be his friend anymore. but if it's just because of his preference, then that's kinda shallow, in my opinion.

i'm not gay, but i had one very good gay friend. coolest gay dude i've known, even though he was flaming (all day erryday). other gay guys are/were just annoying to hear/talk to/be around, but he was alright.

judge him on his personality, not his orientation. ;D or some such.

yes, be his friend.

 

[Miranda]

Yes still be his friend! It'd be shady to just "dump" him because he came out to you. He obviously thinks a lot of you as a friend and knew he could trust you or he might not have told you in the first place. Respect him. You don't have to agree with his lifestyle, but still be his friend. Like everyone else said, he's still the same friend he use to be he just happens to be gay.

 

[Josh]

Thanks guys, I may sound like I'm discriminating gay people but it's just because I've actually not met or seen one in real life (TV doesn't count). I guess I'll be his friend, he has helped me a lot.

Thanks a lot.

 

[Miranda]

Thanks guys, I may sound like I'm discriminating gay people but it's just because I've actually not met or seen one in real life (TV doesn't count). I guess I'll be his friend, he has helped me a lot.

Thanks a lot.

That's good, glad to hear you will be his friend. Just support him, I'm sure that's all he really wants his support.

 

[Psychonaut]

Thanks guys, I may sound like I'm discriminating gay people but it's just because I've actually not met or seen one in real life (TV doesn't count). I guess I'll be his friend, he has helped me a lot.

Thanks a lot.

you make him sound like an endangered species or something

he's just another guy. just make sure you treat him that way, and not shy away when you need to tell him to back the *censored.3.0* up, etc.

however you choose to word it.

 

[Rocketman]

It'd be really awkward. I feel really awkward around mentally ******** people. It's not that I don't like them, but I dunno. May be awkward, but to be nice, I'd still be his friend. He can't help it if he's gay anyway, just like mentally ******** people can't help it either.

 

[Ciaran]

No stopbeing freind with him cos he give you aIDS and try nd buttsecks u up/

 

[Ciaran]

No stopbeing freind with him cos he give you aIDS and try nd buttsecks u up/

...Seriously? >_>

No, it was sarcasm :|

I can do grammer real good, like.

 

[Conor]

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[Micah]

No stopbeing freind with him cos he give you aIDS and try nd buttsecks u up/

...Seriously? >_>

No, it was sarcasm :|

Yeah, I know.

 

[Deleted User]

How is it a delema? Just continue to be friends with him. It would be like if one of my friends said they were going to dye their hair. Would I care? No. Because it doesn't make them a different person.

 

[Thunder]

I'm not gonna lie, if my friend came out to me, and held my hand like that, i'd feel pretty uncomfortable. :L

 

[kalinn]

Of course still be his friend.
Obviously he trusted you enough to tell you that.
and just because he's gay doesn't mean he's going to hit on you or whatever.

He's still that best friend you've been with.. Just you know a little more about him now.
and I'm sure it's just crazy now cause you just found out, but after a while it won't seem to matter anymore. You'll probably completely forget.

Now for the holding hand part... I'm not really sure.
Just maybe politely tell him not to do that? or something.

 

[[Nook]]

Keep being his friend.

Unless he "loves" you.

 

[Bacon Boy]

I'm not gonna lie, if my friend came out to me, and held my hand like that, i'd feel pretty uncomfortable. :L

This. I've had this happen to me before. It gets awkward when, a day or two after he tells you, he begins to hit on you and the such. You need to just tell him (if it gets to that) that you don't feel comfortable with him acting like that. There's no reason to not be his friend (just reiterating here). Who knows? Maybe your friendship will be stronger because of this.

 

[Rocketman]

Reminds me of that That 70's Show episode where that gay guy comes out on Eric and wants to drive him home and Eric refuses because he's afraid of an encounter.

 

[Mino]

I really don't get it when people say things like "I'm not a fan of gay people" or "I don't agree with homosexuality". Since when do you become fans of/agree with people's sexual proclivities? It all sounds like not-so-subtle euphemism.