I’m conflicted in a way that is making me feel like a jerk because it doesn’t really impact my life at all and I feel like I’m somehow raining on someone else’s parade.
Long-distance friend/Twitter mutual, who I think I mentioned before, finally went into labor, and I want to be supportive, but I really have never been someone to gush over babies and so badly never want to be a parent myself that I got surgically sterilized, so I feel like it’s hard for me to muster the appropriate level of support. They also had a really rough pregnancy, complaining up until the very end about nausea, breathing problems, pain, depression from having to go off their meds… and to cap it all off, they mentioned being told that it’s hard to go out and do fun stuff with a baby in tow, so they went out recently to try and enjoy some last-minute leisure, only to injure their foot so badly that they had to spend the end of the pregnancy largely wheelchair-bound. I just feel bad for them, honestly. It also took until nearly the end for them to show even a little excitement, them even saying earlier into the pregnancy that they don’t even like kids that much. In fact, they even said they never really intended to get married, either, though from what I can tell they at least are in a supportive relationship.
They also struggle a lot with noise sensitivity on top of everything else, so I really hope that they have the easiest and quietest baby in the world as well as all the in-person help they need, especially with how rough the journey was for them to even have this kid.
Again, there’s really not much impact on my life here, since we’re really just Twitter mutuals at the end of the day, so I feel like it should be easier to come up with something more supportive to say and then move on with my own day. I think though that since I not only don’t want kids, but also have never had a friend go through a pregnancy before (most of my friends are male or also don’t want kids and the majority are also just internet friends as well), it’s just making me grapple with feelings and circumstances that usually are wholly removed from my life (frankly all of 2025 so far has consisted of me thinking about things and putting myself out of my element).
. I’m really happy about that.
