Does anyone else hate being different?

[pastellrain]

Sometimes I feel like this, in a way it almost feels like I'm alone in the world I guess?

Well, in some aspects, such as artistically, I enjoy being unique, mostly because I like showing a side of me to the world so they can finally be able to understand who I am... But socially, it's not too fun.

I guess some of you are going to say that I'm "not that different", but saying that is basically like saying "your problem isn't that big" and that I don't have a good enough reason to be venting. But really this is something that bothers me

The ways I feel different from people is that I'm really childish, the polar opposite of austere, and idk I tend not to understand most people... it's just hard to explain. For a very long time I was terrible at comprehending people's decisions and motives in history and stories because they seemed so distant from me and I don't exactly think like an adult... I have a child's mind basically. When I watch a movie that's supposed to be "deep" it all just flies over my head... frankly I can see more depth in children's shows than in adult material that's meant to have a deep meaning idk I'm just bad with that stuff. I think I can only understand things when they make it really clear instead of abstract and weird

I see beauty in all the wrong places I guess... not to sound pretentious but my definition of beauty and things that are important to me don't seem to be shared by most other people... like for me, I like to believe magic is real and all that childish stuff because I feel like holding on to that hopeful and enchanted feeling is the most important thing in life... I feel like outside of my little veil of fantasy, life just isn't that exciting, especially adulthood when you can't feel that whimsy of a child anymore... I just don't get the appeal of life beyond childhood when you can't play with toys anymore or have "ocean adventures" with my dolls in the bathtub... yes I used to do all those dumb things and all I really want in life is to be able to go back to childhood and have a vivid imagination that can take me anywhere

I hate that when I'm really passionate or excited about something, virtually nobody understands or knows exactly what I'm so enthralled about. There's nobody really to share my excitement or amazement with because they can't relate...

I don't make friends easily at all, because I don't click with anyone. I really hate it. I've been going to anime club at my school for a month and I haven't really made a friend

I don't like being different, because it makes me feel alone. Anyone else?

 

[Llust]

i hate being different but i dont mind as much as i used to. im actually glad im different compared to the people im surrounded by, which are primarily ignorant/spoiled girls and some guys as well. its nice knowing that im not known just another copy of one of those people and the fact that im different is a great feeling imo..but there are times when i actually feel really insecure about it bc i stand out so much - i rarely get that feeling anymore though. im not like other people--my daily outfit is vague/boring, the things i pass time with are different compared to what people i know irl do (gfx designing, drawing manga, dancing, self studying different languages, writing music translyrics, gaming, programming, etc) and although those are probably things a lot of people do, its rare for me to come across someone like me irl. i got over being different and having nobody to relate to when it comes to milestones. during the first year or so of feeling lonely because of this, i was a depressing wreck..but i eventually learned to deal with it and developed that introvert type of personality where i feel like being lonely probably isnt that bad bc it means more time for me to relax and do whatever i want without worrying about plans and such. tbh i feel like my primary reason as to why its hard for me to make friends is bc i can barely find anyone who's like me. i dont see the possibility of me being close with someone unless they watch anime, read/write fanfics, gaming or are basically just an internet weeb like myself bc those are literally the only things that i would talk about to people. if thats the only thing i'd want to talk about and relate to while someone else is just a 'hayy lets go to the mall n stuff' type of person, it would be pretty obvious that we wouldnt be anything more than acquaintances.

 

[Izzy Reincarnated]

No, I love being different. I like doing what I want to do. I don't care if anyone judges.

 

[Shimmer]

I used to hate being different because I would have trouble finding people that think like me and like the similar stuff I do. I've had close friends before that filled the "best friend" slot but for the past 3 years, I haven't had a best friend in real life and it's kind of depressing. In fact, I haven't had anyone that I would like to hang outside of school with besides my Internet friends. Having Internet friends is good and I treasure them but I would like to have in real life friends too.

I then realize that it's nice to be different because then it gives you something special. It's not that you yourself are messed up or stupid, it's just that you just can't find anyone close to you that shares something with you and that's okay. Someday you will and for the meantime, you just have to keep holding on.

 

[jiny]

I hate being different. It makes me feel dumb.

 

[riummi]

not really :/ i only hate when there is ABSOLUTELY NO ONE who can relate to my weirdness

 

[Albuns]

I dislike the lack of "different" people out there, but I don't dislike being it. Sure, it makes me look and act stupid, but so long they can tolerate it and I can find some enjoyment out of it, I'll keep thinking I'm some legendary pyromancer.

Even if you can't find people who can relate to those things like you can doesn't mean they aren't out there. People act and think based on stuff around them, like certain trends that appeal to them. And others do it to not be the odd one out. If you what you enjoy isn't something that other people can't understand, then just keep looking for those in the same position as you, people are bound to show up once they see an example.

 

[boujee]

We're all different tbh
Unless you're speaking exotic weird and putting this label upon yourself that you're just do different and no one understands


I mean like, not everyone is going to like you. You're probably not their cup of tea.

 

[Mega_Cabbage]

Eh I don't mind being different. I don't want everyone to start acting exactly like me because that would be a very boring world to live in.

You can't really expect everyone to like things that you like. Try spending time with different people. I know my classmate and I were very different (she was an avid writer who loved to be girly and I was a geeky math loving tomboy), but she turned out to be my best friend.

 

[TarzanGirl]

I'm pretty weird and always feel like an alien or something and I don't make friends easily either. I get depressed about being so different sometimes and feeling alone, but I still wouldn't change it because I don't want to be like everyone else! I still like a ton of "childish" things too but I don't see anything wrong with it. Being an adult doesn't mean you have to be boring!

 

[Fantasyrick]

Hell nah me being different is what got me so many friends lol I'm friends with almost everybody Cx so to answer the question,no I love being different!

 

[CrossAnimal]

No, I love being different. I like doing what I want to do. I don't care if anyone judges.

This.

I used to hate being different. Not anymore. It's the differences that make us special.

If someone doesn't like me the way I am, f*** 'em.

 

[kayleee]

Okay but if you think about it if everyone is different than everyone is the same

So you are different just like everybody else so therefore what's there to be upset about

 

[gravyplz]

Its common to think that if your not "normal" or popular, that your in the fault, when really whats "normal" nowadays is being vain, self absorbed, addicted to social media, unaware and un empathetic to whats going on in the world and so on. im glad im not a whiny little white guy treating women like objects and complaining about all my privalleges

 

[Nuclear Bingo]

I'll admit I wish I was more average in terms of height, intelligence, and brain function to keep it vague. But I'll be damned if it's obvious that there's a few things off by society's standards. My friends say that it's obvious I'm different but I guess it's an uphill battle haha

 

[sock]

I understand what you mean and I have felt that way before, but now? I'm about as different as you can get in some aspects and I honestly couldn't give a **** what other people think. I'm happy, and that's what matters to me.

Because, I hate modern life in some ways. The way people judge so easily, the pointless selfies and starbucks cups on instagram. The way we all follow each other like sheep and are not unique anymore. We feel as though we can't be unique. We feel like we have to be a part of the crowd to be able to fit in. And I hate that, I absolutely hate it.

- - - Post Merge - - -

I used to hate being different. Not anymore. It's the differences that make us special.

If someone doesn't like me the way I am, f*** 'em.

Perfect, thank you.

 

[KaydeeKrunk]

Honestly I love being different, when I was younger I used to hate it and wish I was "normal" and I would pretend a lot to fit in but it only made me sadder cause I had to hide the real me. Now that I am an adult I love being weird and different because it's nice being able to not hide myself anymore.

 

[Rasha]

I hate being shy and socially awkward. makes me feel like a ******** person and people never take me seriously. I also suck at defending myself and I let people walk all over me. I fail as a human being and I'm ashamed

 

[HMCaprica]

Sometimes I hate it, depending on in what situation I am in, just like I am different on this board but I find that to be a good thing. In other Areas I might not like it So it all depends.

 

[cIementine]

interests wise, i'm fine with not liking what other people like. it sounds kind of stuck-up but i frown upon people who are bland and are just into whatever's popular at the time, but if it makes them happy that's ok.
i sometimes wish i wasn't so awkward and sarcastic and a push-over.