Do you find this rude or normal?

[extreme-fuzzy-socks]

When you and a seller agree to do a trade/purchase/etc., does it bother you if they respond immediately after saying that they're adding you and want you to open your gates?
I check the forums while I'm at school, at work, or babysitting, and just because I'm on the forums doesn't mean I can hop on my DS.

Maybe it's just me, but I wish people would establish a time first, or at the very least say "I'm available within the next hour or whenever you are."
I realize it's not a huge issue, because you can just say you can't get on your DS at the time. It just irks me a little.

Anyways. Your guy's thoughts? Do you prefer setting a time or having someone just add you and then want to immediately trade?

 

[Shimmer]

Usually, they're on and they just want to trade asap to avoid stalling out the trade. That's why I never post in a thread unless I can have my 3DS right then and there.

 

[Pokemanz]

Most people assume that if you're setting up the trade now, you can do the trade now.

Setting up trades only to say "yeah well not right now" doesn't make sense imo

 

[Vizionari]

I'm fine either way. As long as we know when to do the trade, whether at that exact moment or a time set later. It's a little rude though that even when you state in the OP that you can't trade at the exact moment, people will say "I'll add you now and open my gates/tell me when gates are open."

 

[zoetrope]

I always pounce on people who want to trade if they are online. But if they aren't available then it isn't a problem. I've just had so many trades fall by the wayside and found out that this is the most efficient way to go about it.

If I do this to you don't take it personally!

 

[extreme-fuzzy-socks]

That's honestly good to know because I feel like I'm being petty on this, but I wasn't sure. I might just have to only post if I'm ready to trade.
But then if I'm trying to buy a villager or such, I'm worried someone else will get there first.

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I always pounce on people who want to trade if they are online. But if they aren't available then it isn't a problem. I've just had so many trades fall by the wayside and found out that this is the most efficient way to go about it.

If I do this to you don't take it personally!

I totally get it's nothing personal, I'm just curious if that's the norm to just assume people are ready to trade whenever! I don't mean to direct this at anyone c:

 

[zoetrope]

Oh, that's understandable. I guess it also depends on tone. I always ask whether people are available to trade at that moment and wouldn't demand it or anything.

By the way I vooted for both is fine.

 

[Tokage]

Personally, I'm fine with either but I can see how it can be taken as rude or inconsiderate. However most people probably assume the trader is available *now* after posting so I would guess they'd just want to get it done and over with. I do prefer to set up times though because it makes things run more smoothly, but most of the time "right away" is perfect for me lol.

 

[LambdaDelta]

tbh, I feel if you're in one of the trading sections of the forum, you should be able to be be ready to trade asap

variables like time zones and other stuff going on in people's life can make it setting up a time to trade a bit of a pain, and its also kinda annoying to need to hold stuff for an extended period of time (esp if you're running a shop)


plus if everyone just adapts a setup trade method, then it can also end up being a huge pain in terms of organization


I have rescheduled trades before, but typically only when I had trouble connecting, and pretty much always just in the next 30 minutes or so.

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that said I generally ask if the person's ready beforehand, as opposed to just YO OPEN GATES/COME OVER NOW

 

[Kitty2201]

I prefer to trade right at the moment because it's hard to meet someone because mostly everytime I've ever done that, the person isn't on, and I do check their time zone and everything to make sure it's right. And if we don't set up a time even and say to trade later or something, it seems like me and the other person are never on at the same time, that's just my opinion though

 

[Mega_Cabbage]

Nah I just like trading ASAP. If they aren't available to pick stuff up, then it's their loss.

 

[daniduckyface]

My personal opinion after having conducted several trades here over my time here (well over 300)

I have invisible mode on because i sometimes browse when i am not available and i don't want confusion. I have my time zone in my signature to also help aid in communication and possibly arranging a time if there is a difference. I do put in my threads that i am offline/online etc and to understand that i am a student and i can't always trade etc and if the other party starts demanding things of me that's when i call it off. I am fine with either method for trading and have no preference for either as long as the trade is completed in the end without trouble. Not everyone can be available the second they make a post since a majority of this forum in my experiences are older and have work etc. If someone says they are adding me though, i typically assume they are available but i do tell them if i can't trade right away and they normally do the same back to me.

I would say though to prevent confusion: state in an OP to mention if you can't trade right away or make a note to mention it when you are ordering something for a trade. it never hurts either to say you want to reserve something or ask for a villager because more than likely the OP will make arrangements as most of the forum here is very nice and flexible.

 

[extreme-fuzzy-socks]

My personal opinion after having conducted several trades here over my time here (well over 300)

I have invisible mode on because i sometimes browse when i am not available and i don't want confusion. I have my time zone in my signature to also help aid in communication and possibly arranging a time if there is a difference. I do put in my threads that i am offline/online etc and to understand that i am a student and i can't always trade etc and if the other party starts demanding things of me that's when i call it off. I am fine with either method for trading and have no preference for either as long as the trade is completed in the end without trouble. Not everyone can be available the second they make a post since a majority of this forum in my experiences are older and have work etc. If someone says they are adding me though, i typically assume they are available but i do tell them if i can't trade right away and they normally do the same back to me.

I would say though to prevent confusion: state in an OP to mention if you can't trade right away or make a note to mention it when you are ordering something for a trade. it never hurts either to say you want to reserve something or ask for a villager because more than likely the OP will make arrangements as most of the forum here is very nice and flexible.

That's honestly really smart, I like that method.

 

[daniduckyface]

That's honestly really smart, I like that method.

Yes it has helped because when i run my mega threads of buying stuff, i bump during the day sometimes at school and people assume i can trade that second just because the light by my user is green and get upset when i cant or whatever. Again most people are flexible and will be happy in the end as long as the trade is completed.

 

[LambdaDelta]

man, I actually dislike invisible mode more, just because I've seen so many cases where users give no indication if they're available or not. so you can end up waiting a long time for a response when they're already offline

it still wouldn't prevent me from trading with them, but...


I guess maybe I'm saying my preference if they were to go invisible would be to be invisible when unavailable, but visibly online when they can trade. if only there was a toggle button for this....

 

[extreme-fuzzy-socks]

man, I actually dislike invisible mode more, just because I've seen so many cases where users give no indication if they're available or not. so you can end up waiting a long time for a response when they're already offline

it still wouldn't prevent me from trading with them, but...


I guess maybe I'm saying my preference if they were to go invisible would be to be invisible when unavailable, but visibly online when they can trade. if only there was a toggle button for this....

A toggle button for if you're available to trade or not would be wonderful! I suppose you could just add that in your signature whenever you're online/offline/available to trade, but a button would be much easier to use, especially universally.

 

[daniduckyface]

man, I actually dislike invisible mode more, just because I've seen so many cases where users give no indication if they're available or not. so you can end up waiting a long time for a response when they're already offline

it still wouldn't prevent me from trading with them, but...


I guess maybe I'm saying my preference if they were to go invisible would be to be invisible when unavailable, but visibly online when they can trade. if only there was a toggle button for this....

I try to tell people when i am available or not but its a habit you have to get into and not everyone really thinks about it when they are posting but you can always check their activity to see if they have been posting recently to see if they are still on. I personally think it is just as frustrating to want to trade with someone who is appearing online with the green light and is browsing the site and not checking back on their thread so i guess both methods have their negatives.

 

[kelsa]

idk if i should even answer this cus i am so flighty~ but yeah it does irk me when they're like ALRIGHT ADDING YOU OPEN YOUR DAMN GATES. i always tell ppl to let me know when they're available and if we're both avail right then, great. if not, we'll do it later.

also i work 3rd shift so on weekends i sleep all day and i'm only available in the morning when most people are asleep/at work/at school (Fri and Mon), so setting up a time can come in handy. i know my schedule is whack so i understand some ppl can't do everything right then and there so i'm not just gonna be like 2 bad so sad~

 

[LambdaDelta]

I try to tell people when i am available or not but its a habit you have to get into and not everyone really thinks about it when they are posting but you can always check their activity to see if they have been posting recently to see if they are still on. I personally think it is just as frustrating to want to trade with someone who is appearing online with the green light and is browsing the site and not checking back on their thread so i guess both methods have their negatives.

oh yeah, certainly

and I'll admit I'm occasionally guilty of the problems with being shown as online, but in my defense my threads typically take forever to get actual responses. so a lot of times I can just get distracted by other things while waiting.

 

[daniduckyface]

oh yeah, certainly

and I'll admit I'm occasionally guilty of the problems with being shown as online, but in my defense my threads typically take forever to get actual responses. so a lot of times I can just get distracted by other things while waiting.

it's when people accept your order and say they are adding you and disappear is when it gets me because it's like uhhh either i have my gate open or am waiting for theirs and i don't know what to do because they've agreed to trade and we can't actually meet up