Can my teacher force me to join the choir?
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My only piece of advice? Do not just accept the situation for what it is, give up, or join. I'm so glad I'm no longer in school; I'm sick of people pushing kids around and dismissing their opinions just because they're young. You are an individual who has the right to make your own choices.
If you don't want to join the club, don't go. I do highly recommend speaking to the counselor; I strongly doubt your counselor will tell you just to "stop making a fuss and join". And if they do, well... I don't think your school hires staff very well ;/
I can't imagine how your music teacher could "punish" you for not going. He would not have the right to give you detention or a lower grade in this situation, and I hope he doesn't. But he doesn't sound like someone you can talk to about it, so the counselor is the best option. If I were in your situation, I would flat-out not go to detention if he assigns it, lol. But then again, I've always been a huge enemy of "the system" as they call it and I've always vehemently stood up against what I believed was wrong or unfair.
Choir is a LOT OF WORK. Choir is not something you can "just do for the grade". You HAVE to be passionate and knowledgable about music and singing and performing, or else the choir will be torturous for you and you will negatively affect the quality of performances.
Good luck, I hope this situation is able to resolved soon without much headache! Keep us updated!
If you don't want to join the club, don't go. I do highly recommend speaking to the counselor; I strongly doubt your counselor will tell you just to "stop making a fuss and join". And if they do, well... I don't think your school hires staff very well ;/
I can't imagine how your music teacher could "punish" you for not going. He would not have the right to give you detention or a lower grade in this situation, and I hope he doesn't. But he doesn't sound like someone you can talk to about it, so the counselor is the best option. If I were in your situation, I would flat-out not go to detention if he assigns it, lol. But then again, I've always been a huge enemy of "the system" as they call it and I've always vehemently stood up against what I believed was wrong or unfair.
Choir is a LOT OF WORK. Choir is not something you can "just do for the grade". You HAVE to be passionate and knowledgable about music and singing and performing, or else the choir will be torturous for you and you will negatively affect the quality of performances.
Good luck, I hope this situation is able to resolved soon without much headache! Keep us updated!
Nah. Your teacher is just kinda abusing their position in order to make you do something you don't wanna do.
Don't give in. What's the worst they can do? Drag you out and force you to sing on stage? Pin you down and make you sing opera?
Don't ever feel like you gotta do what an adult says just because they're older/in a more authoritative position than you. No one can order you about and no one can tell you what to do. People are often taught to go along with things so as to be polite and not make a fuss but seriously. It's not rude or outlandish telling someone you don't wanna do something. You have the right to say no and if they're not respecting it, then they're being the rude ones.
I know if you're a student and you're going up against a teacher, you feel as if you've kinda automatically lost due to the imbalance of power thing but seriously. Stand your ground. You're doing nothing wrong.
Don't give in. What's the worst they can do? Drag you out and force you to sing on stage? Pin you down and make you sing opera?
Don't ever feel like you gotta do what an adult says just because they're older/in a more authoritative position than you. No one can order you about and no one can tell you what to do. People are often taught to go along with things so as to be polite and not make a fuss but seriously. It's not rude or outlandish telling someone you don't wanna do something. You have the right to say no and if they're not respecting it, then they're being the rude ones.
I know if you're a student and you're going up against a teacher, you feel as if you've kinda automatically lost due to the imbalance of power thing but seriously. Stand your ground. You're doing nothing wrong.
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I understand what you're saying but that doesn't just magically get rid of anxiety, you can't practice your way out of having it. It doesn't always work like that.
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Except if you practice speaking in front of other people it will definitely help anxiety
I've talked in front of people lots and been around large crowds of people and it has only just made me hate it more. Might be different for OP but mental illnesses like that aren't as easily fixed.
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Agreed. I also have really bad anxiety, and in my personal experience I have never been able to "untrain" my anxiety by exposing myself to the thing that makes me anxious. Have I learned more effective ways to behave or cope in those situations? Yes. But the anxiety is still there, and still bad. You can learn how to manage anxiety sometimes by exposing yourself to anxiety-inducing situations, but that doesn't guarantee the anxiety will go away; sometimes, it doesn't even help, or even makes it worse, because you'll vividly remember the situation and start dreading it more.
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.......... normal choirs don't stare at each other when we sing. we all look at the teacher who either conducts or plays the piano. the only time we look (well, FACE) each other is when we're in circles and that's only to help us learn our parts better. we don't even look at each other, we all look down at our music. people only get solos if they WANT to and if the teacher decides that yes, this student sings well and confident and should get this part. during performances, the audience are looking at your group as a whole, not just you. i have bad anxiety but HEY. IM STILL IN CHOIR.
if that's not how they do it at your school, then that's messed up.
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im confused
i was forced to join choir when i was in gradeschool for music class. but our teacher didnt make us do anything crazy? all we had to do was sing some songs for the parents and that was it. it sucked, but yes, our teacher made us do it.
unless youre being forced to join for more than just doing the show for parents, then that sounds a little strange.
i was forced to join choir when i was in gradeschool for music class. but our teacher didnt make us do anything crazy? all we had to do was sing some songs for the parents and that was it. it sucked, but yes, our teacher made us do it.
unless youre being forced to join for more than just doing the show for parents, then that sounds a little strange.
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LunaMoon Crossing
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tell a teacher thats not affiliated with any music class. i told my teacher about things from gym and library, she settled it just fine. I HATE singing too. That's why i don't join chorus, but they shouldn't force you to. Your a child and your childhood should be fun, but mine was ruined. lol
ok yeah schools are totally different here than other places then. here, choir is a fine arts and you have to have 1 fine arts credit to graduate high school. fine arts includes band (which doubles as gym credit), choir, art, orchestra, drama, dance, and mariachi.
op needs to take this matter to the principle or smth.
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well, when it happened to me, i was SUPER young. like nobody had a choice. we had to go to chorus instead of music, and im sure our grade was also tied for it. it sounds a little different in this scenario tho.
That's not the case for our school. You don't graduate or anything, you just leave with your grades.
Tbh I don't see what the big deal is. I mean yeah it's annoying, but everyone has to do **** they don't want to do sometimes. I had to go to orchestra because I did music GCSE and I just went, and actually ended up quite enjoying it. You might too.
The problem is that it's time-consuming and difficult, and I'll have to do this for the whole school year. Plus, I'm really anxious and having my music teacher stick me on a stage in front of the whole school will not help.
I know it's not the same for everyone and it's already been said on this thread, it might be good for the anxiety. I've had anxiety and although being forced to perform onstage was terrifying, I did it and felt better afterwards.
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