Can my teacher force me to join the choir?

[oath2order]

Just go and don't make a big deal about it. You're going to have to do a lot of things in life you don't want to do.

 

[Fawning]

No, don't go if you don't feel comfortable doing it. I would be doing the exact same thing if i were you. He can not force you at all!

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Just go and don't make a big deal about it. You're going to have to do a lot of things in life you don't want to do.

Yeah but a lot of those things won't be standing up on stage and singing in front a lot of people

 

[Murray]

No, don't go if you don't feel comfortable doing it. I would be doing the exact same thing if i were you. He can not force you at all!

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Yeah but a lot of those things won't be standing up on stage and singing in front a lot of people

Yeah those things will probably be much worse.

I'm not sure why your making such a big fuss; whether you just don't want to miss the occasional lunch break to rehearse or if you just want to rebel against your teacher for the sake of rebelling.

 

[Fawning]

Some people have worse anxiety than others, if it were me i physically couldn't do it because my anxiety can get so bad it would't let me. I'm not sure what OP's situation is but ye I'm just basing it on what i would do.

 

[lazuli]

It might just be less hassle to join and mouth the words [...]

do you seriously think that choir is literally just singing? i hate it when people just assume so. in choir, we have to write the solfege (pitches) for the songs, learn key majors and minors, key signatures, learn the rythmn of the song, and itll take a few weeks before we get to 'loo'ing (singing on pitch but not saying syllables), let alone words. choir is a lot of work.

op, your teacher sounds like an ass. do your best to get out of this if you truly don't like choir.

 

[Debra]

Everyone is different. If y'all wanna do things you obviously don't want - that's fine. Doesn't mean others should too.

A choir won't prepare OP for other things in life. It's a choir. Not everyone likes to sing and perform.

Edit: Read the post above me. I bet a choir is more like a... chore.
.. okay i'll leave now. sorry.

 

[oath2order]

No but the lesson of "you can get out of anything if you complain enough is a lesson that is taught here."

 

[Mayor Lark]

OP, I think you should stand up for yourself. Even the smallest of children have rights. If you don't want to join, DON'T. And you better make a good point of that. Stand up and argue your point, even if you're scared.
I'm speaking from experience here. I have major anxiety issues and I have a hard time speaking in public. But even so I don't let that hold me back from doing what I want. I want my life to be MINE, and I want to be happy about it.
So stop making excuses and stop assuming you know what they will say. You can't read people's minds. And look, even if they DO act negatively about it, there are PLENTY of people you can turn to for support.
I'm sure your mom loves you. You just have to show that, though you respect her, she ISNT ALWAYS RIGHT.

Get out there, kid. Do what makes you happy.

 

[Murray]

No but the lesson of "you can get out of anything if you complain enough is a lesson that is taught here."

But it's their human rights to not do choir and they have the right to stand up against the tyranny of the oppressive teacher.

 

[Mayor Lark]

No but the lesson of "you can get out of anything if you complain enough is a lesson that is taught here."

Okay, I'm only going to say this once. Shut up. You're making this situation awful and, not only that, you're being insensitive and rude. For someone who's trying to tell a kid not to "make a big deal", you're sure setting yourself as a bad example. Go away and preach to a choir. No one wants to hear this.

And that's all I'll say about that issue.

 

[unravel]

As I said earlier (page 2) you have a right to choose whether to join or not it would be nice if you jon the choir for grades and shiz I don't think your teacher is a jerk and I'm kinda understand what he is doing it could be
A. Just the recommend you to join, this your oppurtunity to join the choir and at least at the end you will feel proud for what you did
B. They need members for the choir thats why he is a bit desperate but then again its your choice

Just do ir for the grade or certificate shiz not forcing you but I think there is a reason why he encourage you to join.

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I understand you are anxious but just try not forcing you anyway

 

[Nanobyte]

There's a choir at school and my music teacher is making everyone in the music class (a really small amount of people) join it.

I don't sing at all, and I plan to keep it that way. It's every Tuesday at the music room, which takes time out of my lunch break. And when summer comes, the annual school concert will be held, so we'll all have to get on stage and sing.
-_-

I know plenty of people who'd actually want to join this club, but they don't get the opportunity because they take art and not music.

The first club meeting was yesterday, but I didn't go. I don't want to sing, and I don't see why I should be forced to.

Everyone else in my music class who's being forced to join hates it, too.

I told my mum about this and she told me to stop making a fuss about it and just join. If I don't attend, my teacher will probably make me go to detention or bring this up with my form tutor... *sigh*

No! He cannot! That's flat out OPPRESSION! You need to talk to that teacher, or heck, even the principal. Just talk to someone who will understand the problem and see if they can change it. (I think the principal fits those standards.) Classwork is one thing, but forcing someone to join a club is not!

 

[oath2order]

Okay, I'm only going to say this once. Shut up. You're making this situation awful and, not only that, you're being insensitive and rude. For someone who's trying to tell a kid not to "make a big deal", you're sure setting yourself as a bad example. Go away and preach to a choir. No one wants to hear this.

And that's all I'll say about that issue.

You're funny.

 

[unravel]

Some people have worse anxiety than others, if it were me i physically couldn't do it because my anxiety can get so bad it would't let me. I'm not sure what OP's situation is but ye I'm just basing it on what i would do.

Because they don't do speech and shiz in class? Well at least for practice until she gets used to.it if you get what I mean you have to practice and do not fear while doing the presentation this is what I learned from grade school

just thinking positive stuff for now and guys RESPECT people's opinions pls

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Sux that drama is over #sleeps

 

[LambdaDelta]

Okay, I'm only going to say this once. Shut up. You're making this situation awful and, not only that, you're being insensitive and rude.

the irony

 

[f11]

I say to just join. You never no how bad something is unless tried. Maybe you could be really good at choir

 

[unravel]

Okay, I'm only going to say this once. Shut up. You're making this situation awful and, not only that, you're being insensitive and rude. For someone who's trying to tell a kid not to "make a big deal", you're sure setting yourself as a bad example. Go away and preach to a choir. No one wants to hear this.

And that's all I'll say about that issue.

Best quote 2k14
*plays drum*
*padumtsk
I say good one it made my day.

 

[nekosync]

If you never actually agreed/promised him to join, there's no reason for you to be sent to detention.

He did send a letter home asking for parental permission, but then he said it doesn't matter if they signed it or not, we still have to go.

Plus, I can't just not go to the detentions because then I'll get tons of behaviour points, then I'll be put on report card, and if I fail to attend I'll be put in isolation, then after that if I keep doing that I'll be kicked out of school. :/

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Some people have worse anxiety than others, if it were me i physically couldn't do it because my anxiety can get so bad it would't let me. I'm not sure what OP's situation is but ye I'm just basing it on what i would do.

I freeze up when I have to do things like this. It happened when I was presenting something in front of the class, so it's gonna be 1000x times worse with the whole year group staring at me.

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OP, I think you should stand up for yourself. Even the smallest of children have rights. If you don't want to join, DON'T. And you better make a good point of that. Stand up and argue your point, even if you're scared.
I'm speaking from experience here. I have major anxiety issues and I have a hard time speaking in public. But even so I don't let that hold me back from doing what I want. I want my life to be MINE, and I want to be happy about it.
So stop making excuses and stop assuming you know what they will say. You can't read people's minds. And look, even if they DO act negatively about it, there are PLENTY of people you can turn to for support.
I'm sure your mom loves you. You just have to show that, though you respect her, she ISNT ALWAYS RIGHT.

Get out there, kid. Do what makes you happy.

Thank you, Lark! This really motivated me.

 

[Gracelia]

Cba to read all the posts but, if there's a form involved and your parents say you don't need to join, hand that in and that's that. You can make your own decisions and teachers really should not be forcing you to do things that you're not comfortable with. Yes, this is a learning experience and it may do good if you decide to go out of your comfort box. Actually, it could go well if you allow it to (i.e. going in with optimism vs. fear, anxiety which is a given).

If it has to go as far as bringing in your parents to talk to the teacher for you to do something else (i.e. another activity to receive marks if this counts for it), then I'd do that? I never had a teacher try to force me to do anything, and if they did, I'd tell them to respect my authoritah!!1!

 

[Debra]

respect my authoritah!!1!

i love you