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fallenchaoskitten
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Talking about schools... I remember my sex ed...
4th grade - movie about hair growing and you will start to bleed ... for no apparent reason. They didn't even say the name of all of it so all the girls were flipping their **** thinking they were going to die. It also said not to smoke or do drugs when pregnant... but it never said HOW you get pregnant... like not even the word sex or intercourse was mentioned in the entire move.
--- Note, that was the girls movie. In high school the girls found out from the guys that they basically watched a porn. Like two adults, naked, having sex. No cartoons ... real people... showing it all.. Double standards?
8th grade - don't have sex because here are all these STD's you can get... again, no mention of what sex is or how to use a condom or even the menstrual cycle
9th grade - ((or whatever grade you took P.E. since it was only reburied 1 year in high school)) - The "Sex Is Great!" lady... seriously, that is what we all called her. She basically talked about how amazing the experience of sex was and then would have a long long long pause and say "... when you're married". That was the entire speaking she did. Nothing about how it works, protection, etc. ... And then a teacher gave us a hand out of the menstrual cycle on 1 sheet of paper... were not allowed to ask questions and it was done.
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I was lucky in the sense I had a really close online friend ((who I really miss TT^TT)) who was studying to be a psychologist... I was the perfect test subject because the education in my area was awful, home life was awful, and I had been subject to 3 different men stalking me where 1 ended up threatening to kill me, another fled the country for I think killing a guy, and the other was my cousin's friend and he threatened to kill him, and oh a lot of other stuff but won't get into
ANYWAYS
My MALE friend, by the way, was so disgusted by how school taught sex ed, he and his friend decided to teach me.
He sent me links to sites to read about the female anatomy and the male anatomy, talked to me about condoms and how to use them, just different things about sex in general, and actually told me how the menstrual cycle worked... because I was horribly confused. XP
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And I graduated 5 years ago ((in 2009)) and to my knowledge, the school is still teaching the same way they did.
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Also, I would like to add a neighboring school didn't really touch on STD's at all...
I found this out when I was working at a college bookstore and one of my co-works just graduated and was 18...
... Well I had my first Pap Smear done and she was asking me questions about what they do and what they check for.
I told her about it and all and even said that if you have an STD or think you do, it's easy for them to go ahead and get the swabs to check for infections or diseases. And if it looks like you may have one, your doctor may suggest getting tested.
...
She was terrible confused and asked, "looks like you have one?... you can see and tell?"
I was pretty surprised... I mean, genital warts was the first thing to come to mind as vision seeing.
It was a college bookstore, and the manager was out, so we grabbed the newest updated Medical Dictionary and started looking up STD's.
Nearly all of them had photos, too. Though, normally in the medical books it is the serve cases so I talked to her about how just because you don't have symptoms or it doesn't show, it doesn't mean you don't have or they don't have an STD. Telling her then an example I learned from my nurse mother that sometimes with women who have chlamydia, which treatable, that you won't get symptoms until after "the damage has been done" and possibly made infertile.
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I mean... Schools and Parents should really cover this stuff more with kids.
They say STD this and STD that... but that was proof there that she knows about STDs but didn't know about STDs at all.
After thinking, if my friend didn't teach me, I would be in the same boat.
4th grade - movie about hair growing and you will start to bleed ... for no apparent reason. They didn't even say the name of all of it so all the girls were flipping their **** thinking they were going to die. It also said not to smoke or do drugs when pregnant... but it never said HOW you get pregnant... like not even the word sex or intercourse was mentioned in the entire move.
--- Note, that was the girls movie. In high school the girls found out from the guys that they basically watched a porn. Like two adults, naked, having sex. No cartoons ... real people... showing it all.. Double standards?
8th grade - don't have sex because here are all these STD's you can get... again, no mention of what sex is or how to use a condom or even the menstrual cycle
9th grade - ((or whatever grade you took P.E. since it was only reburied 1 year in high school)) - The "Sex Is Great!" lady... seriously, that is what we all called her. She basically talked about how amazing the experience of sex was and then would have a long long long pause and say "... when you're married". That was the entire speaking she did. Nothing about how it works, protection, etc. ... And then a teacher gave us a hand out of the menstrual cycle on 1 sheet of paper... were not allowed to ask questions and it was done.
...
I was lucky in the sense I had a really close online friend ((who I really miss TT^TT)) who was studying to be a psychologist... I was the perfect test subject because the education in my area was awful, home life was awful, and I had been subject to 3 different men stalking me where 1 ended up threatening to kill me, another fled the country for I think killing a guy, and the other was my cousin's friend and he threatened to kill him, and oh a lot of other stuff but won't get into
ANYWAYS
My MALE friend, by the way, was so disgusted by how school taught sex ed, he and his friend decided to teach me.
He sent me links to sites to read about the female anatomy and the male anatomy, talked to me about condoms and how to use them, just different things about sex in general, and actually told me how the menstrual cycle worked... because I was horribly confused. XP
...
And I graduated 5 years ago ((in 2009)) and to my knowledge, the school is still teaching the same way they did.
- - - Post Merge - - -
Also, I would like to add a neighboring school didn't really touch on STD's at all...
I found this out when I was working at a college bookstore and one of my co-works just graduated and was 18...
... Well I had my first Pap Smear done and she was asking me questions about what they do and what they check for.
I told her about it and all and even said that if you have an STD or think you do, it's easy for them to go ahead and get the swabs to check for infections or diseases. And if it looks like you may have one, your doctor may suggest getting tested.
...
She was terrible confused and asked, "looks like you have one?... you can see and tell?"
I was pretty surprised... I mean, genital warts was the first thing to come to mind as vision seeing.
It was a college bookstore, and the manager was out, so we grabbed the newest updated Medical Dictionary and started looking up STD's.
Nearly all of them had photos, too. Though, normally in the medical books it is the serve cases so I talked to her about how just because you don't have symptoms or it doesn't show, it doesn't mean you don't have or they don't have an STD. Telling her then an example I learned from my nurse mother that sometimes with women who have chlamydia, which treatable, that you won't get symptoms until after "the damage has been done" and possibly made infertile.
...
I mean... Schools and Parents should really cover this stuff more with kids.
They say STD this and STD that... but that was proof there that she knows about STDs but didn't know about STDs at all.
After thinking, if my friend didn't teach me, I would be in the same boat.
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sex ed in america sucks. they just tell ya not to do it and then in highschool they tell ya stuff you already know and show you pics of STD infected genitals and make you not wanna do it. (this is how my sex ed went seriously.) sex is great, idk why they dont want people to do it. just be smart about it is all.
fallenchaoskitten
Legendary Something or Other
Going to generalize for a second... Of course, there is always a select few that are special but generalizing is easy and simple...
Because at that age, most of them think "they know it all" and aren't ready for the other side effects of sex besides STD's.
Most students would not be able to care for a child properly, heck most people in their 30's don't know how to or are able to support them.
Nor do they fully understand the emotional tole something like sexual activity plays... it is much more than just a physical act. And again, at that age many people are not ready for such an emotional commitment in their life.
... I mean...
I'm sure cocaine is great and amazing and gives you plenty of energy to get **** done, but that doesn't mean you should be doing it even if you are being smart about it.
omg people, before you even start about that reference... it's called a hyperbole... if you don't know what that is look it up.
But it is true that they need to actually teach people who to be smart about it.
Protection is a big thing that needs to be taught more... and actually how the body works for crying out loud!
yeah but what im saying is they treat sex like its a terrible thing to do. it makes people scared and not want to talk to people about it, so they go out and do it behind people's backs without being prepared or protected. i think they need to teach that sex is a natural thing and if people want to do it, be aware of the consequences and stay safe and protected. all they tried to do while i was in school was scare people out of wanting to have sex and thats the wrong way to go about it.
why do you think that
Heisenberg
Game Developer
I must have been to a strange elementary school because I got sex ed for the first time at in the third grade.
Me too. I went to a school in Canada so they were actually pretty informative, if you're heterosexual
I had a talk in grade 3, 5, 7 & quite a few times in high school.
fallenchaoskitten
Legendary Something or Other
Me too. I went to a school in Canada so they were actually pretty informative, if you're heterosexual
Gay was almost like a curse word at my school...
It was like the military with "Don't Ask Don't Tell".
((so glad that is going away now...))And we had a few gays in our school that I knew of... And a few bi-sexuals.
None of the rest of us were really educated, but I feel bad for them. We were kinda in the same boat but their end was sinking faster. >.>
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I'm tocaphobic, which I think it's the correct term it's been so long, so it was enough to scare me to not have sex and still freak me out. XP
I have an extreme, irrational fear of pregnancy... It use to be so bad, that I couldn't even be within 5 feet of a pregnant woman.
Which really sucked if you go to a school with one of the highest teen pregnancy rates in the state and young teachers who are pregnant as well... High school really really sucked on that point...
I am better now tho... I touch a pregnant girls stomach... that was a huge step for me. ^^'
And I know, that's not how you get pregnant... that's part of the "irrational" fear part. XP
because they like shun children away from anything that has to do with this topic in the means to protect them. However, they are really making it how they are more prone to discovering it in "the unmentionable way".
I feel like the sex ed I received in high school was very basic. They didn't really show how to prevent pregnancy, though, and that scares the heck out of me. My teacher only said to use a condom and how it works. I do not want to be responsible for an accident so I'd rather just not do it at all.
Btw, can we ask questions here as well? I have a huge irrational fear of holes in condoms. I am aware of contraceptives, but I would also like this to be something I am aware of. Would putting water into the condom before using it be a good way to check for holes? I'd imagine putting too much water in it would prevent it from being re-applied. Is there a good method to check? :x
Btw, can we ask questions here as well? I have a huge irrational fear of holes in condoms. I am aware of contraceptives, but I would also like this to be something I am aware of. Would putting water into the condom before using it be a good way to check for holes? I'd imagine putting too much water in it would prevent it from being re-applied. Is there a good method to check? :x
ive heard of the water thing. you can do that if you wish. i dont really check condoms, i just trust that they dont have holes in em lol. thinking about it is making me paranoid now lmao
fallenchaoskitten
Legendary Something or Other
A sperm is only 55 micrometers ... so a hole would only need to be that big.
The whole water trick wouldn't help find holes that small.
It is best to get trusted brands since off brands are normally made much more cheaply. If you have a big fear, go for the "thicker" condoms. I mean, they really aren't that much thicker. For the female, with lube you can't feel a difference between the condoms. For men it loses some sensitivity... But, to be a little sexist at the moment, if you get to get off every time and I don't, you can stand to loose a little sensitivity. XP
XTheLancerX
Dedicated Gamer
Okay, so I am in a strange predicament. My parents think I am extremely naive when it comes to anything sexual. Any information that has been mentioned in this thread is familiar to me, I know all the terms, I know what a hymen is, etc. (It isn't all from first hand experience though, because I am only a 13 year old guy, 14 in less than a month, and have not had sex) I know more than the average person in my grade (8th), and most of the girls don't even know what a hymen is anyway. (I didn't go around being stupid and asking, okay? A couple of my stupid friends did).
But anyway... My parents haven't given me the talk, (well not really) and I haven't needed it, I learned it just through living through school, and being on the internet. I have been careful though with the information I have... Come across, because I know very well that the internet is full of lies. But a month or so ago... My mom came over to me and asked "Do you remember when I told you that the only way to keep from getting a girl pregnant is to not have sex?" ...Yes mom. I knew that since I was at least 9.
But with age, my body has matured, and masturbation has begun. I am terrified daily if my parents ever figured out that I masturbate, especially because they are a much more sexually-closed kind of type, and aren't very open about the topic. My family, including myself, is Cristian as well, which also backs my fear as I don't know if my parents would get upset or not about finding this out. It doesn't mention anywhere in the Bible anything about masturbation being wrong, but that is beside the point, as I read to keep this topic away from religion and such.
Anyway... Uhmm. Suggestions/similar issues? This is almost making me feel uncomfortable around my family.
But anyway... My parents haven't given me the talk, (well not really) and I haven't needed it, I learned it just through living through school, and being on the internet. I have been careful though with the information I have... Come across, because I know very well that the internet is full of lies. But a month or so ago... My mom came over to me and asked "Do you remember when I told you that the only way to keep from getting a girl pregnant is to not have sex?" ...Yes mom. I knew that since I was at least 9.
But with age, my body has matured, and masturbation has begun. I am terrified daily if my parents ever figured out that I masturbate, especially because they are a much more sexually-closed kind of type, and aren't very open about the topic. My family, including myself, is Cristian as well, which also backs my fear as I don't know if my parents would get upset or not about finding this out. It doesn't mention anywhere in the Bible anything about masturbation being wrong, but that is beside the point, as I read to keep this topic away from religion and such.
Anyway... Uhmm. Suggestions/similar issues? This is almost making me feel uncomfortable around my family.
fallenchaoskitten
Legendary Something or Other
Also... once a condom has been unrolled, to do this "little test", it is much harder to put on...
And it will probably lose some of it's lubrication... making it harder as well.
So, if a condom is annoying as hell to put on or takes forever, it is less likely the mood will be kept and you want to actually continue having sex OR you will opt out on a condom... Which never is a good option in my opinion.
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Heck, many parents still give the "no sex" to people who have already graduate college and bought their own home.
There are ways to discretely masturbate... Shower is on instance.
I personally don't masturbate so I can't give you really any tips...
I'm a female and I am just absolutely disgusted by the female body... I can't even imagine... If I was born male, I would have had to be gay. o.o
But, to each their own really... I just have irrational basis against the female anatomy for some reason is all.
And my mom tried to give me "the talk" or a hint to it twice...
Once was right after the Scary Movie series came out and I watched the first one that had an oral sex scene and she wanted to "discuss" what I saw... I bascially said I know mom and left the room. XP
Second time was in high school when I got a "mature" boyfriend and she wanted to say the whole pregnant stuff again. I kinda just let her talk and ignored her... I was an awful child. ^^'
Anyways, look into ways to discretely masturbate for now... I think if you try to be forward with them about your interest by your description of your parents and your age, they may take it the wrong way.
And it will probably lose some of it's lubrication... making it harder as well.
So, if a condom is annoying as hell to put on or takes forever, it is less likely the mood will be kept and you want to actually continue having sex OR you will opt out on a condom... Which never is a good option in my opinion.
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Since you are younger, it isn't surprising your parents are this way.
Heck, many parents still give the "no sex" to people who have already graduate college and bought their own home.
There are ways to discretely masturbate... Shower is on instance.
I personally don't masturbate so I can't give you really any tips...
I'm a female and I am just absolutely disgusted by the female body... I can't even imagine... If I was born male, I would have had to be gay. o.o
But, to each their own really... I just have irrational basis against the female anatomy for some reason is all.
And my mom tried to give me "the talk" or a hint to it twice...
Once was right after the Scary Movie series came out and I watched the first one that had an oral sex scene and she wanted to "discuss" what I saw... I bascially said I know mom and left the room. XP
Second time was in high school when I got a "mature" boyfriend and she wanted to say the whole pregnant stuff again. I kinda just let her talk and ignored her... I was an awful child. ^^'
Anyways, look into ways to discretely masturbate for now... I think if you try to be forward with them about your interest by your description of your parents and your age, they may take it the wrong way.
If you definitely don't want holes in your condoms never put them in a wallet or a pocket or leave them in your car. Exposure to heat will make condoms brittle and they will definitely rip. I would also check the condom for any obvious holes before and after you roll it on. Trusted brands are definitely better because they are FDA regulated medical devices.
If anyone is interested in how condoms are made, or well the Trojan ones at least, check out this video. It's pretty cool. (And nothing is inappropriate on there. Totally safe for work.)
If anyone is interested in how condoms are made, or well the Trojan ones at least, check out this video. It's pretty cool. (And nothing is inappropriate on there. Totally safe for work.)
thanks for sharing this c: i use this brand so i trust them the most lol
I would be extremely careful about the types of condoms you use and buy, especially ones with artificial lubricants such as Trojan Fire & Ice. Trojan Fire & Ice contain mentol, chili pepper extract, and nonoxynol-9 (a chemical that can cause yeast infections). None of these are listed on the ingredients on the box. They are incredibly unsafe. Customer reports say that they can cause extremely painful burning sensations, sometimes lasting for hours. Trojan has gotten in serious trouble with the FDA for this.
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