Would you like to get married? 💒

[Mairmalade]

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[Mokuren]

I am married for 2 years now after 6 years of relationship and honestly it's still the same only with a ring lol. Still love my husband a lot.

 

[Stella-Io]

If it happens then it happens, but I don't see myself being in a relationship that long with someone. I rarely ever go in relationships (literally did it once and it lasted a month before I broke things off) nor do I look for them. I don't think I'm a romantic type relationship person. People want to spend alot of time together, which there is nothing wrong with, but I value my alone time away from others. I don't feel the need to spend so much time with someone I'm dating. If I ever did marry someone, it would have to be like one of those 'best friends for ten+ years to married' pipeline. Maybe not for *that long, but I would defo wait a good amount of time before gettin married, like 4 or more years. I've seen relationships of longer end up breaking things off, so I would have to be dating that person for a *long time before considering marriage and all that comes with it, costs, legality things, ect... But then again, I don't engage or seek out relationships, so it's not happening anytime soon.

 

[OswinOswald]

I would very much like to get married! But finding a suitable partner is so difficult =(
I am totally a hopeless romantic. I eat up rom coms for breakfast and then I top it off with some historical romance and romance novels I hope that isn't setting horribly awful expectations of all the men I try and date

But seriously, I am an introvert and like spending a majority of my social time time with a small group of people or just one person rather than a group. So I feel like finding one person who I get along with well would be important for life, so you can grow old together hopefully. And I love kids, so I'd like that in my future too... but I guess I don't love kids enough to be a single parent; I work a lot so I think it makes more sense if multiple people can be involved in raising those children. Not that marriage necessarily needs to equate to having kids, but I think that having kids in the context of a marriage will be easier. Could I just hire a nanny? Sure, but if I'm never home and the nanny is always raising the kids, it seems less meaningful.

 

[pottercrossing]

If I could platonically marry my best friend, I'd do it in a heartbeat. But to fall in love with someone and get married? I can't ever see that happening. Me being trans and a-spec makes it hard enough to find someone to be with, but being in a relationship has never been a huge concern of mine in the first place.

So I just found out that platonic marriages are, in fact, a thing.

I still stand by what I said in my previous post. For me, a platonic marriage is more likely to happen than a romantic marriage. A romantic marriage isn't out of the question, but if I do end up getting married, a platonic marriage would be my preferred route.

 

[cIementine]

before i met my partner two years ago, the idea of marriage felt extremely distant! i was 19, in uni, and just dating around. i was dating with emotional connection in mind because casual dating wasn't really for me, but also not putting any pressure on it and wasn't really fussed about finding 'the one' or being in a relationship. i went on some nice dates and met interesting people but nothing really struck a chord.

i've also never felt particularly strongly about marriage. i have never aspired to get married in and of itself, but i have aspired to meet a life partner i love so much i want to marry. i feel lucky to say i already have, which is something i never anticipated to experience so soon in my life! i'm not engaged but i wouldn't be surprised if that's something that happens for me in the next year or two. i am very young and for me there's no urgency, so i have no problem having a long engagement until we can feasibly afford the kind of ceremony we want. i would hate a huge wedding, but i would love to have an intimate wedding with just our immediate family and closest friends, or even elope somewhere, just us two.

i love my partner very much and it's abundantly clear that we care about enjoying our life together and living the rest of our lives flexibly so we can do so while giving each other the opportunity to pursue our respective goals. he's a few years older than me so his complete nonchalance about the uncertainty of my life post-graduating, his unwavering support, and his willingness to follow me around whatever my life has in store makes me feel optimistic about sharing a life together without alienating myself from important aspects of my development and experiences i desire. he's more settled into a career and further into adult life, but he cares deeply about making sure i get to experience the trials and tribulations of my stage of life alongside him just as he was able to while single. i feel completely at peace around my partner. thus far it's been never-ending butterflies and contentment. we've lived together, grieved together, nursed each other through illness, travelled together, etc - but every problem shared with him feels like a problem halved, and every good experience we share feels twice as wonderful knowing i get to share it with him.

 

[Neb]

I thought I was in a relationship once, but it was actually just a really intense, unhealthy friendship in hindsight. All I’ve had were two dates that never went anywhere when I was a teenager and then I was a backup for someone who was emotionally cheating on her boyfriend and I wasn’t aware of what was going on.

I don’t think I’ll ever get married even though I’d love to in my 30s or later simply because whenever someone shows interest in me I’m either too oblivious until it’s too late or I don’t know what to say to them. It just never goes anywhere.

 

[DookieTuesday]

I'm engaged and have been for three years now. We're not sure when we'll have our wedding exactly, but possibly next year in the summer.

 

[ShawnFuzz]

I would love to, because I have never been married, and I would love to proudly introduce the love of my life as my wife. Life is weird though, I don't feel like I am suited for marriage. Or, at least life hasn't suited me. Maybe someday!

 

[BakaRina]

Ehh, if it happens, it would be nice. But currently I'm just not interested in being in a romantic relationship and it'll most likely be that way for a good while.

 

[Beanz]

i know i posted here a few years ago and i still agree with what i wrote. marriage isn’t exactly a priority for me, great if it happens but it’s like a side quest for me if that makes sense. i can’t imagine myself marrying until 30 or 35 though.

 

[QueenCobra]

I doubt it. That might sound weird, considering how thirsty I am, but it never appealed to me.

 

[Ravenkitty22]

I answered the poll but never the question, oops! I would like to get married eventually- I’m a hopeless romantic, and I’ve dreamt of walking down the aisle in a dress that makes me feel like a princess so many times. It’s not a priority for me at the moment though.

 

[thatawkwardkid]

People think it's sad when I say this but I genuinely like being alone and having all the freedom that comes with it. I have zero plans on getting married or being in a relationship any time soon.

 

[Tude]

How do you feel about marriage?

Eww.

Lol I've been with my bf for eight or nine years (don't know exactly when we got together) and we're perfect the way we are. I never wanted to get married as a little girl and that has never changed. He calls me his wife to everyone though.

 

[TotodileStars]

Marriage has zero appeal to me. I'm on the aromantic spectrum, so it's extremely rare for me to be attracted to someone in the first place - but if that did happen, I wouldn't want to risk getting married, only for it to not work out, and then have it cost a ton of money to split up.
(Not to say I'd have no faith in the relationship; just being realistic about the fact that things/people can change a lot over time, to the point that a potential partner and I might not mesh well anymore after several years together.)

 

[ShawnFuzz]

There are some good arguments against marriage here, logically. Especially those that talk about the aftermath of divorce.

I guess I am an old school person. I would love to be a gentleman for the rest of my life, with the one person I love and have chosen to spend my life with. I want to protect someone, even if they are even better at protecting me I want the companionship... and I can't emphasize that enough.

I want so much more (but they are minor... like talking about how are days went after work...)

Marriage seems to be less and less respected. It makes me sad.

 

[AshtonDraws]

I'd love to get married in the distant future. Obviously, trust and communication is important. Plus, while I know all relationships have their ups and downs, I still want to build a strong bond enough for it to happen.

 

[-Daydream-]

Me and my boyfriend have dated for about a year and I genuinely love him and might want to marry him in the distant future if things go well and we’re still together. ^^

 

[Vlachya]

I would like to get married some day in the future, but I actually dread the idea of a wedding ceremony. I'd much rather just elope, go on a months-long honeymoon somewhere, and quietly return breaking the news to my loved ones that I got hitched. I don't like big ceremonies and especially not ones that have me in the spotlight.