Would you be forgiving in this situation?

[kikoola]

I won't be explaining why I am asking this for various reasons. Mainly because I have been attacked for no reason in the past for being too honest with people and explaining the full situation.

Anyway...I want to know if you guys would accept 'I'm sorry for accidentally stealing your money tree' as an apology from somebody on your 'best friends' list? I really need some good advice on this and I'm at a loss when it comes to exactly who I should ask.

 

[LynseyH666]

No way! Unfriend that person. We all know the rules - don’t touch other people’s stuff unless they say you can.

 

[Firasung]

So. Shaking a tree is an easy accident. Pressing Y 3 times is intentional. I think I'd bump them down to friend for a bit and see how things go for now. Definitely don't invite back until you're paid back. If you know them in person I'd say give them a chance if they are a stranger I'd say ditch the dead weight as there's no way that's an accident.

 

[Leeloo55]

No, it’s not acceptable! They don’t get to be in your inner circle anymore. They blew it, and their apology after the fact doesn’t change their low standards and poor behavior. They’re going to treat people this way consistently.

 

[corlee1289]

That is not an accident. An accident is plucking a flower when you meant to pick something else up. Accidentally shaking a tree is also understandable. Picking up the three bags of money near the tree is intentional.

Either take them off BF list or just unfriendly them altogether.

 

[fallenchaoskitten]

That's a no.
It's like like fruit that will be back in a few days.
Or plucking flowers that, again, go back in a few days... or heck even digging up flowers those can re-breed if you still have 1 left.

But money tree? No.
You KNOW what that is. No matter how new to the game you are.

 

[daisyy]

I would not forgive your friend, no. It’s not the actual money that would be a problem for me, it’s the trust and BS excuse. You don’t accidentally take a money tree. When you visit someone else’s town, you take extra care to treat it like you would your own, but better. There are thousands of trades that happen daily on these boards that don’t involve accidents, much less one from your friend. Sorry to hear this

 

[LynseyH666]

Plus if you demonstrate that crappy behaviour has consequences then maybe they’ll learn something from this and be less crappy in future. But if you just let it go it’s likely they’ll carry on. You let it go. Why not keep on like this and hope the next person does too.

 

[kikoola]

Thanks for the responses so far...

Would your answer change if the person who took the money tree said they did so accidentally while attempting to plan a cherry tree in the victim's town but, realizing they planted a peach tree instead (which was right next to money tree) they came back and dug up the money tree by accident? Also note that this person has a disorder which causes brain fog and they are colorblind too.

 

[Catto]

You could just replant the money tree in that case, why did you have to take it? I would forgive them if they gave me my tree. un-burrying(is that how you say it??)/burrying something by accident happens, but you can always burry it again, if they didn't then that's stealing

 

[fallenchaoskitten]

Thanks for the responses so far...

Would your answer change if the person who took the money tree said they did so accidentally while attempting to plan a cherry tree in the victim's town but, realizing they planted a peach tree instead (which was right next to money tree) they came back and dug up the money tree by accident? Also note that this person has a disorder which causes brain fog and they are colorblind too.

My answer would still be a no, that is not ok.
If you notice you dig up the wrong tree by accident, you replant it. Simple.
Also, the colors maybe off so if you aren't using the big tv screen it would be harder to tell between the small pixel items, but when you hover over the item it tells you it is a money tree, not a peach tree.
EDIT: I guess what more goes to it is, did you have to bring it up or did they mention, "crap! i think i took the wrong tree!"? That's more of a deciding factor. If they noticed later and brought it up themselves, then that is a bit of a different story than if you had to confront them to get the truth.

 

[drchoo]

I think you know the answer to the question. It doesn't matter the circumstances, or layers added onto it to justify or give benefit of the doubt.

 

[spencerspencer]

Thanks for the responses so far...

Would your answer change if the person who took the money tree said they did so accidentally while attempting to plan a cherry tree in the victim's town but, realizing they planted a peach tree instead (which was right next to money tree) they came back and dug up the money tree by accident? Also note that this person has a disorder which causes brain fog and they are colorblind too.

Based on this information I would probably forgive them. I have two cousins who are physically older than me but mentally they are stuck at that of an 8th grader / 5th grader (they're ******** - no it isn't an insult its a condition) and you can explain the same concept to them a million times and it will never resonate with them. At this point (referring back to your situation) your actions are justified either way, forgive them as it was an honest mistake or forget them as, well, sometimes we choose to just "not care" about others anymore and it isn't anyone's fault, it's life :s .

Assuming that the peach tree and money tree were saplings and they accidentally dug up the money tree I don't see a huge issue, they were trying to right a wrong and made it a double whammy LOL "The road to hell is paved with good intentions."

If they have a disorder that causes brain fog and are also colorblind, chances are that while battling these issues, they haven't developed a keen sense of perspective which will influence their apology in this situation (the apology seems underwhelming)

If there was a full grown money tree with 99k x 3 (idk if that is even possible but its hypothetical) and they deliberately stole your bells I would drop them seeing that they think <300k bells is of more value than your friendship/trust.

Edit: the forum censors it but the censored word is another form of retardation

 

[Cnydaquil]

im still debating about this, im sorry this happened to you!

 

[Katie97]

Did they give you the money back?

If you think it was a genuine accident, of course you should forgive them. To err is human... this is a money tree on AC. Don't take it so seriously. If you think they were trying to steal your stuff, then tell them you don't trust them anymore and demote them to just 'friend status'. No need to make a big deal out of things.

 

[Briar]

If they had permission to dig up trees, dug up and took a money tree not realizing it was a money tree, and gave the tree back and apologized then I would accept the apology. Otherwise, I probably wouldn't accept the apology so easily because if it were really an accident then why wouldn't they give it back? It would make me wary of them.

 

[Ace Marvel]

Are you the same person that had a situation with a trade from afar? That another of your best friends stole your snack machine? Maybe you should considered who you add to your best friends list since it appears you have bad luck with them. Glad you didn't quit over that.

 

[xMartin]

Like others have said - shaking a tree or picking up something can be done accidentally, but doing it 3 times to clear the money tree? Not likely.

Personally I'd stay well clear of others money/fruit trees just in case I shake them by accident - just don't go near them!

 

[sleepydreepy]

That is not very nice behavior. The only "excuse" I could see is if you guys were super close (or like knew each other irl) and they thought it would be ok to shake the tree, but since they said it was an "accident" my theory isn't really relevant. Because if it was, then in that case they would own up to it and apologize saying something like "sorry I didn't realize this wasn't ok, etc" but since they made the excuse of saying it was an "accident" that is pretty sketchy behavior.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, don't trust this person completely anymore, and bump them down to just a friend. Their apology doesn't seem genuine or truthful, and you should watch them more closely in the future.

 

[Annika.]

I would take the bells back as an apology for starters. But I wouldn't really trust that person on my island alone if I don't know them like that.

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Thanks for the responses so far...

Would your answer change if the person who took the money tree said they did so accidentally while attempting to plan a cherry tree in the victim's town but, realizing they planted a peach tree instead (which was right next to money tree) they came back and dug up the money tree by accident? Also note that this person has a disorder which causes brain fog and they are colorblind too.

Why would they not just plant the cherry tree as well as the peach tree? Taking it back seems very stingy. Someone who would feel bad for this incident would pay you back for your loss, it wouldn't be more than 99k bells anyway.